What would you do if you came home and caught your teenage daughter in bed with her boyfriend and best?(cont)?

Question

girlfriend?

this happened to me recently I was not very happy. Relationship between her and b-friend over and she was grounded for a year.

Answer 1

Train up a child in the ways it should go and when they grow older, they shall not depart from it. In today society, Sex is not taught as sacred and to be kept within the bounds of Holy Matrimony, instead, Teenagers are given Condoms and the "Pill" and are told Go ahead, your going to do it anyway, might as well play it safe but how safe is safe? Do Condoms or the pill prevent sexual deseases which are now more widespread than it was 10 years ago and herpes and other sexual deseases as in AID's are not spread by inntercoarse but kissing as well..If you love your Kids, which no doubt you do, then, it is up to you to teach them the truth about sex, sexual diseases and why it is most important to stay pure before marriage. Teen pregnancy is also widespread and instead of teens learning about intimacy in relationship, they are having babies at ages 12 and up. And what about abortion? Yes, seems like an easy route out of their responsibility but there is consequences in doing this crime as in killing the unborn, both physically, mentally and spiritually. Yes, teens love having control of their own lives but yet their age and the law says they are the parents responsibility until the age 18 but teaching them and being their examples continue a lifetime. There is a saying "Tough Love" and it needs to be applied and parents need to set bountries, curfews, and restrictions while raising their Children and they may rebell for the time being but later they shall respect you and know without a doubt your love for them is steadfast and sure. and this is the type of example they need..

Answer 2

Kids are kids, and they make much better decisions if they have all the information they need about things. Personally, I consider this a bit of a failure on your part, because you probably avoided having conversations about this with your daughter and she ended up getting all of her information about it from friends outside the home, who tell her how much fun and harmless it is.

Kids want independence, and their rebellion against things that you tell them not to do without explaining is their way of exercising their independence and learning for themselves what you didn't fully discuss with them. Be honest, have you ever broken your parents rules? Were they rules that were fully explained to you, or just the ones where they said "because I said so" or "that's the way it's going to be!" or something to that effect?

Closing the door on something without explaining why in a way that makes sense only makes what ever it is more appealing to a youth. Take the mystery and intrigue out of it by telling her all she needs to know. Let her know that it isn't a bad thing, but something that she may not be ready for. Let her know about the things you went through as a teen, all the loves you had and the things you did and how those things turned out.

Let her know that just because she likes this guy or her best friend, it won't always be that way because as you get older and move on to other things, people fall by the wayside and head in different directions. Tell her about the people who did those things and can't live down the reputation to this day. Show her the consequences of certain actions, and let her make her own decision based on full knowledge of what could happen if she does such things. Trust me, your daughter does not want to be labeled the school whore, nor does she want guys thinking she's "easy" so that they can just get a piece and move on. If she knows what can happen, she's more likely to make a better decision. If she doesn't know what can happen, she'll probably try to find out on her own, despite how mad you get or how long you threaten to ground her.

Take your time and think it through, and just imagine the troubles you would have avoided if someone had told you about certain things... don't let your daughter find out the hard way. Don't make her find out the way you did.

Answer 3

truthfully no longer. You the two might have sturdy intentions approximately no longer having intercourse, yet do you already know what number hundreds of youthful couples have ended up starting to be mom and dad because of the fact sturdy experience and robust morals circulate out the window while the "love bites" exchange into some thing greater. the very actuality which you think of that this habit is positive, and you won't be able to understand why your mom and dad won't make it easier to reside interior an identical mattress inclusive of your boyfriend proves which you at the instant are not as mature as you may choose to have self assurance. it is definitely considered one of the properly suited clarification why mom and dad are to blame for his or her youngster's judgements until eventually they exchange into adults on the age of eighteen. Be grateful that your mom and dad care approximately your wellness adequate to be making sturdy judgements for you.

Answer 4

Well hopefully your daughter is taking the pill. I understand how these things can happen and made sure that when my girls started dating they had this protection. Explained that this was not permission to "be a ho" just as a precaution since they have their lives ahead of them.
Dude, kids are trying all kinds of things-and at a much younger age if the door is closed and I am sure nothing illegal is going on I do not open a door with out knocking or permission to enter. At least they are not out doing drugs, drinking & driving, or hurting themselves or others. I know that kids are gonna do stuff....I also know that my daughters would do the same as me if forbidden to see BF--sneak & still see him- I prefer honesty in all my relationships

Answer 5

I'm scream at them worse than I've ever scream at anyone in my whole life. I'd tell the friends I'm calling their parents and I'd make them get their clothes on and leave.

My daughter would be grounded for an undetermined amount of time.

Answer 6

Yell scream and cry then knock her out.

Answer 7

Having fantasies, are we?

Answer 8

Tell her she is a pimp...