I have a friend who I have known for a few years and have always been there for her through boyfriend break ups and difficulties with jobs. I have often been a shoulder to cry on and been there for the good and the bad. She recently got a new job and I went out with her to celebrate but I am feeling over the past year that the relationship is one sided. I have never had to rely on her so much for break ups because I am married but I have had a few thing happen in my life over the past year and she hasn't been there at all. We bought a new house and she didn't come over to see it or even congratualate me. She didn't come to house warming or anything .Also i have been studying really hard for exams and got a promotion in work again she didn't even congratulate me. Also she didn't get me a wedding present - when we married it was just the two of us in Italy but we told everyone before hand. I always celebrate her bday, she never celebrates mine. Is the relationship worth it?
2007-09-24 02:06:55 · 10 answers · asked by nik 28 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I think you need to talk to your friend quickly, she seems selfish! I've been through this before, think, maybe you had dne sumthing wrong without realising it and now she cant forget, maybe she feels treatened by you, If this is not the case then she is not even worth it, you need to have a friend who is surportive in every way and sum1 who u can tlk 2 about anything if you cnt do this wiv your friend then maybe its time to let eachotha have a break and get on with life,,, After all you have a marrage to keep hold of, so consentrate on that for now. Good luck! and Hope 4 da best! xxx
2007-09-24 02:24:16 · answer #1 · answered by Just _ A _ Girl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it's not about your friends it's about you n your boyfriend with is the baby dad, friend they can say any thing they want to say but by the end of the day u gonna wonder if that baby is ok what he or she doing and thing like that i don't think u should give the baby up for adoption you r working plus your boyfriend work too all u have to do is spend or buy thing care full if the baby not born yet start buying some thing u want from now that you don't wonder where u gonna get x y z from, the next ting is u getting older not younger so u can work your why up you both take turn on work and go back to school i see people do it and so can u it gonna hard am not gonna lie but by the end of the day it's all about u maybe u give the baby away how u would feel like 6 month after that think before u make a mistake u don't need no one to tell u to give your child away, if u feel u cant take care of him or her when the baby is born well do what u want to doing it your life u feel the pain so u have to know what u gonna do.. god bless hope u do what best cause it's a other life coming in this would not a toy or things if u know what i mean
2016-05-17 09:01:53 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no .. i really think your wasting your time here.Shes not puting any effort in to be as good a friend that you have been to her.
Unless something is happening in her life right now then theres no excuse to be there for you through your promotion and birthdays ect.
I think if you want to save this friendship or lack of it on her side you need to sit down with eachother and talk.If thats not enough start not being there for her as she thinks you will be there for her and will be a shock so let her see how it feels.
good luck x
2007-09-24 02:14:16 · answer #3 · answered by so ****? superstar 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It seems like your friend is very jealous of you. She may be looking in and feeling like you are doing better than her. You need to not let it get to you. She only really cares about herself and getting ahead for her. You can try to talk to her about it but it looks like thats how she is. You shoudnt let it get you mad just treat her the way she treats you, no longer go out of your way because she doesnt do the same you.
Good Luck....
2007-09-24 02:15:26 · answer #4 · answered by Blond3 BombShell 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO, the relationship isn't worth it... it's all about HER, not you.
I have a "friend" like this and it has always been all about her, too. She'd visit or call when she wanted something. I got sick of it, and decided to sever the relationship. she makes me tired... ugh
take care of YOU...
2007-09-24 02:37:25 · answer #5 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
seems extremely one sided to me. you are a more thoughful considerate person where as ur friend is a needy and needs that reassurance from you to feel confident. dont feel bad, she is just extremely selffish and insecure. i suggest if she wants to be a better friend than she needs to step up and acknowledge it. stop going out of your way for this person she clearly thinks about herself first.
2007-09-24 02:28:51 · answer #6 · answered by spadezgurl22 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok she doesnt congratulate you (she may be jealous) BUT...if you NEED her, is she there? Is she an ear? Can you count on her to be there for you? If not, cut her loose.
2007-09-24 02:36:22 · answer #7 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to your friend about this she may not even be aware of the situation, do everything you can to save your friendship
2007-09-24 02:29:33 · answer #8 · answered by atbkkj 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't sound like it's worth it to me.
2007-09-24 02:11:16 · answer #9 · answered by ZCT 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweetie, this relationship seems long gone.
If you really care about her, ta kl to her about it, if not, just leave it.
2007-09-24 02:48:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋