Should I tell on my cheating friend?

Question

Theres a group of 8 of us who have been best friends for over 10 years, all their partners/husbands are good friends too. One of my friends who is married with 2 kids has seemed to go off the rails. She had a boob job (that her husband paid for) and since then she goes out most weekends and cheats on her husband, everyone knows about it apart from him. We've all said something to her and that she should stop, but she reverses it and says if we say anything then we'd be responsible for their marriage breakup and their kids not having their dad around. She also gets quite nasty and says that she would make our lives hell (and we believe it) if we told. The partners (who are his friends) want to say something too but cant because it would cause huge arguments between the friends. I would say something myself, but because i know the others are quite scared of her, they wouldnt stand by me, so it would be me who ends up falling out with everyone. Her husband is a great husband.

Answer 1

Hi KJ.
I know its easy to say, but I would call her bluff!

Imagine how her husband would feel if he knew this went
on every week and you were all privy to her cheating behaviour? I wouldn't be able to sleep for the guilt of knowing
Tell your friends that he has the right to know. Someone could even send a letter anonymously. She wouldn't know
who sent it, and would she cause trouble for ALL of you.
Lastly, if she can act this way and threaten you all - is her
friendship worth that much?
At least tell your partner first so that if she does ***** about you, he is already aware. Then persuade the others to do the same.
Please - be brave. (Imagine yr hubby was doing the same evry week with a girl - would you rather be in the dark about it,
or feel the fool?) Good Luck. Minxy.

Just love you to get back to us and let us know how you get on and what you decide to do.

Answer 2

That's a tough one, and she sounds like she could be very nasty, you know what, I'd try and catch her at it, make sure her hubby is there to see her kissing another guy or something, if it is in front of him he will be able to make up his own mind as to what he wants to do. How awful, but you know what, sometimes people change and it's time to let the friendship drift, perhaps it is time for you to part ways. Usually the cheater will get caught, so have no doubt that she will be found out.

Answer 3

She doesn`t sound like much of a friend to me!!
she`s threatening you and some of you are scared of her???!!!
If i put myself in his shoes i`d be devastated if i found out all my close friends knew but no-one had the courage to say anything,surely he must suspect something anyway if shes out every weekend??
I`d let the guys tell him,or at the very least drop some heavy hints-poor bloke

p.s.only person responsible if her marriage was to break up would be her and her alone

Answer 4

i think of your process action could count on some quite a few issues: * How sturdy of acquaintances are you? while you're like *brother* acquaintances, i might actual lean in direction of telling him. If he ever found out you knew and did no longer tell, he might likely be devastated. additionally, he's greater probably to have self assurance you and have confidence that your motives for telling him are on the up and up. * have you ever been very friendly/chummy with the spouse? if so, he might have a problematic time believing that your motives are perfect. * How sturdy is he in his existence? If he has had themes with instability (alcohol or drug use, melancholy, and so on.) it may well be a foul thought to tell him. the information might push him in direction of self-deteriorating habit. in case you do nonetheless plan on telling, it may well be a sturdy regarded as sure he has a ton of help. a pair greater issues to recollect: be certain which you do have your man or woman rock sturdy information until eventually now telling! additionally, this woman ought to be giving your pal an STD... his wellness ought to be on the line. sturdy success!

Answer 5

Wow those boob jobs are really powerfull and mind changing. There's a joke that says that financing boob implantas are like financing a car, you pay and pay and at the end they go with someone else!

Good luck to your friend the good husband, you should help him open his eyes. The children are not happy with the relationship their parents are having.

Answer 6

Can you imagine how this man will feel, when he finds out that you knew about this and didn't say anything? Just as I did to a cheating friend of mine, I would stop associating with her. If she asked me why, I would tell her that I refuse to be a part of it when her spouse finds out (which is exactly how I explained it to my friend!). And I wouldn't let this cheating tramp threaten me either. That in itself is enough to break up the friendship, which I most certainly would do!

Answer 7

Don't get involved. Its not your business and they may even sort this out between themselves, dont blow it sky high, you may cause so much damage that they can never get back together - then that affects the children aswell as them two. You have no right to say anything and if you dont like it then take a step back and find new friends to hang out with!!!!

Answer 8

I would be angry if everyone in my group of friends knew my hubby was cheating on me and didn't tell me. Send him an anonymous email from a bogus hotmail account. Everyone may say mind your own business, but if this guy is your friend and everyone else's you owe it to him to be honest to him. It sounds like at this point, you owe the wife nothing, she sounds downright nasty.

Answer 9

send a typed anonymous note to the husband or call him when she is not there and disguise your voice or something! he needs to know! heck, she could bring aids into the house, sigh =(... those children deserve their father to be happy... and those children deserve a mother who is not a sleeze... =(... tell the man so he can divorce her, take custody of the kids, and find a better woman! good luck! =) good prevails over evil... don't be afraid of this "s l u t" sigh =(... she's scum! he will find out eventually but better sooner than later... before aids or some other disease comes into the picture...!!! =) sigh...

Answer 10

RUIN HER.Your guy friend should know.You are his friend.She is scrueing up the marriage not you.Get proof before telling him that is what you should do.Pictures help so does recording her conversations.Your friend deserves to be told.Nobody likes to be made a fool of,and that is what she is doing to her husband.She needs slapped and slapped again.People who cheat deserves to be hog tied and beat to no end.That is the pain they cause by cheating.What a Btch!