Ive been hearing lately that men that don't like to give oral are gay...come on, that can't be true...can it??? My husband has done that to me only like 5 times in our whole relationship!
2007-09-24 00:35:51 · 38 answers · asked by must<3dogs 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I doubt that he is gay. Some men don't like to go there. Try this....sit him down and give him a beer. Say to him" I know you like it when I go down on you and I love doing it, but I love when you do it for me too. Is there something I can do to make it more fun for you while you make me so happy?"
Talking to him in an nonthreatening way might get you what you want. Men don't like to hear they are doing something wrong. They want to hear they are doing it right just not enough. If he does start doing it for you praise him a lot even if you have to fake it and he will keep coming back and eventually get it right.
Good Luck!
2007-09-24 01:01:01 · answer #1 · answered by Big Red 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every woman smells a bit different. Honest to god - I've never been with a woman whose vagina smelled like fish. People say that all the time, but I've never smelled that - I think if I smelled rotting fish I would be repulsed.
But I have been with a few where the odor was unpleasant. Being someone who really enjoys giving oral, I took one for the team, toughed it out through that session, and then out of bed the next day brought up as diplomatically as possible the odor issue. As in, "i loved going down on you last night and you seemed to really enjoy it too and it's probably just my sense of smell so don't freak out but we've got to add some scented oils for next time because the odor there was a bit of a deterrent for me."
My point? Ask him if it is the odor that turns him off. If not, then what? Have him be very specfic. If it isn't that, it's something. Some guys just plain don't like giving oral. And I think the woman loses out of tons of fun when guys feel that way, but that's just me.
But if he is always demanding oral from you, he should absolutely return the favor.
Him being gay for not liking oral? Some guys see it as 'wekaness.' But that's as silly a notion as "if you do it standing up, you won't get pregnant." Completely retarded.
2007-09-24 02:14:06 · answer #2 · answered by filthy_crumb 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men who are gay are gay. If you talk to most gay men I have a feeling they have never given oral to a woman or thought about it. Some guys are uncomfortable with oral because they just don't know what their doing. Talk to him about it and see what his feelings are. There could be a number of things going on and I'm betting it's not going to be what you THINK it is. Let him know that this is an activity that you'd like more of. Maybe he just doesn't know. You are married, you should certainly be able to talk about sex. Good luck :)
2007-09-24 02:34:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a matter of preference. Some men like oral, others do not. The same is true of women.
2007-09-24 00:48:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Very interesting... although I can't say I fall into that category as I absolutely adore giving a women oral, I do know guys that don't like it and I can assure you they are straight.
I guess it comes down to a matter of preference, although I would think if it is something you enjoy then your man would make the sacrafice and do it anyway.
2007-09-24 00:43:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I dont think he is gay, do you like to give oral? I think most people like the penetration better, you both get the pleasure, but oral is one sided, plus he might be insecure about giving. I dont think that makes you gay. Most men only wanna do it when you are completely bald, unless they are freaks and just sexual like that.
2007-09-24 01:16:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No i am sure it doesnt mean he is gay, Its the same as women who dont want to give oral, it is just a prefernce, and if he said, i like to go down on men...i would worry :)
2007-09-24 00:43:15 · answer #7 · answered by Mrs.Burr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol , no it does not mean he is gay maybe he just is not sure of him self while he is down there , try giving him some pointers suggest how you would like it and he may just start feeling ok about it good luck.Not all men are that into it my wife taught me how me to do it I had done it before but not as much as I do with her she told me what shed like and I followed suit.Took a bit but I got there.
2007-09-24 00:49:06 · answer #8 · answered by Dragon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
personal preferance , give some get some back , what a load of bull , men are gay , when they are attracted to other men, obviously if they are in a relationship with a girl , they are either confused , or stupid
2007-09-24 00:41:07 · answer #9 · answered by DSV 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course not. Some men just dont like going down there. It's a preference. Do you like giving oral sex to him? If you actually enjoy it. good for him. If you just do it to make him happy, then kudos to you for trying. If you want him down there more, just talk to him. talk a bath before you two get intamite, make sure you shave or try using tasty oils to make it better for him. its whatever
2007-09-24 00:44:52 · answer #10 · answered by Heather M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋