to a friend of the same sex who made a pass at you? Would you continue the friendship?
2007-09-24 00:04:53 · 32 answers · asked by mary 5 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
Yes...As long as my friend understood that I was out of bounds to her.
2007-09-24 01:44:56 · answer #1 · answered by Afi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yeah, just make it perfectly clear while keeping embarrassment to a minimum that you dont swing that way and that you still respect her as a good friend and would like to keep things as they were.
tell her that you wish to forget about the event and continue to be friends. nothing more, nothing less.
tell her you have no hard feelings and you dont feel any differently towards her than you did before so no harm is done.
don't let something petty like this get in the way of your friendship with this girl. try to understand her point of view and let that be the end of it.
if she doesnt wish to be your friend because she feels awkward around you now, just tell her that you will still be there as a friend if she changes her mind.
everything will turn out ok, just forget about this and move on.
good luck!
2007-09-24 00:13:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The same as I would do with a friend of the opposite sex who made a pass at me!
If I wasn't interested I would tell them, in the nicest way possible.
If they still want to carry on being friends that's fine. If they don't that's their loss.
2007-09-24 00:11:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Had it happen...
Had a few weeks apart...But missed her cos she's my best mate...Made it clear she had crossed the line in a big way and that my persuation was not the same as hers.. I felt exactly the same when a male friend I had made a pass at me... We havent actually hung out since, which is such a shame, but he's got a hang up about it now...Im way over it..But that's his issue....
Never mentioned or occured again..
2007-09-24 00:12:59 · answer #4 · answered by KB 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would treat it in the same way as I would if a friend of the opposite sex made a pass at me. Let them know in a kind way as you don't want to lose a friend over something trivial
2007-09-24 00:11:26 · answer #5 · answered by fancypants 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would tell them I'm not that way inclined and if they continued to make a pass at me despite this, then the friendship would definitely be over pronto!!!!!!
2007-09-24 00:33:35 · answer #6 · answered by Rainbowz 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this actually happened to me on thursday night. my best mate from uni said that she had recently found herself being attracted to the same sex, and that she wanted her first lesbian experience to be with me.
after my initial surprise i was fine with it really. i had to turn down her offer as gently as possible, but i assured her that things wouldnt be weird between us, and theyre not. if you are really good friends then it shouldnt matter that they are gay, or are attracted to you, andim fine with it. in fact i take it as a compliment. i find it very flattering that one of my best mates fancies me! but yes continue the friendship. if something like this ends your friendship, then you cant be very good friends! talk about it, if you feel weird then say so. talking about it will make you feel much more relaxed about the subject. discuss how it you can make it less weird. just tell them you like tham as a friend but could they please not make passes at you. it should be fine.
2007-09-24 00:18:19 · answer #7 · answered by skapunkspud 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm, tricky one!
I'd probably end the friendship as it can never be what it once was with complications like that. It's always hard to be friends with someone who fancies you, what ever sex they are.
2007-09-24 00:10:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd tell the person if they want to continue being friends with me he/she has to respect the fact that I'm not gay. If he/she could do that then I don't see a problem in remaining friends.
2007-09-24 00:10:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would think that I'd be so uncomfortable around him / her that I'd never be able to continue the friendship. I'm sorry if this happened to you...
2007-09-24 00:11:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's according to how uncomfortable the situation might be.
If they are not affected by my rejection and there are no more advances made then I would be fine.
Most friends know how far to go with you, if they honestly know you well enough to be Friends.
2007-09-24 00:16:26 · answer #11 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋