He pretty much used on and off the whole time. He did some pretty crappy things to me, including dissapearing for days many times. Well I finally I broke up with him. After awhile, he quit usin. We started talking again, and even hanging out some. I knew that I no longer wanted to be with him in a relationship, but I just wanted to talk to him and keep in touch. Well last week, he started ignoring me, and I knew he was using again. I decided to just let it go, I had tried everything I could. But he started texting me sayin how sorry he was for messing up, and telling me how he doesn't like living unless hes f*d up. He said he he was going to go to NA meetings, but tonight hes telling me hes sick of his worthless life and hes going to OD. Now what do I do? I've done everything I can right? I'm not mean I tell him he can get help and that I care about him, but thats all I can do right? He's obviously not guna stop doin this, and its time for me to move on and quit worryin bout it rite?
2007-09-21 18:15:09 · 5 answers · asked by Joie 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
hi i was in your shoes once not that long ago most of the time they wont quite till they are ready. you need to tell his family then you need to leave him. when you do leave him though do not contact him you have babied him enough and he will think that you will let him back in.if you want to find out how he is don't call him call one of his family members.
2007-09-27 11:08:26 · answer #1 · answered by jenniferm75 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Move on, if you can. Get some counseling...Because it won't be easy. But it is the right decision to make. Especially if you want some peace of mind in your future.
I've been where you're at and now I'm pushing 50 yrs old and am currently taking care of the man because of a brain injury that occured mostly due to the alcohol & drugs. In hindsight, I did leave, but I didn't go far and I should have. So much for not looking back..... I hate to see others in the same boat. Trust your instincts and move on and worry about yourself and your future. He's not going to. He's having too much trouble with the past and present....
2007-09-28 18:05:46 · answer #2 · answered by Brenda 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You answered your own question. Move on with no more contacts with him. He will only bring you down. You can not be friends with a drug addict they are not trust worthy. And their life style will put you in harms way. You can not help him, he has to want help and do it through professional help and that probably wont happen till he hits bottom. If you care for him let his parents know so at least they have been warn. Under no circumstances do you give him money or enable him at all in his addiction, the times you thought he wasn't using- he just hid it well. Get out before there is children involved, then it won't only be your life in danger.
2007-09-29 06:23:49 · answer #3 · answered by TinaS 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is really a difficult question to answer.
He may be using emotional black mail to try to get you back.
If you are really concerned about him trying to OD, you need to at least tell someone in his family, or a friend, anyone.♥
Yes, you do need to move on, he is not your responsibility.
You tried to help him. But he needs to help himself.
Stop taking his calls and try to stay away from him.
Good Luck,
2007-09-21 20:17:30 · answer #4 · answered by faith♥missouri 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
go to an AL Anon meeting these are specifically for people who do not drink or do drugs and have someone in their lives that do. these meetings help you to cope with all the BS that goes along with their addictions, and helps you to understand that there is really nothing you can do to help them, they have to want to help themselves
2007-09-27 23:55:32 · answer #5 · answered by cheri h 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋