friend??...whos drivin me insane!!!?

Question

so i got a call 4 weeks ago from a friend whom i havent talkd to SINCE last year...tellin me he broke up w/ his girlfriend.
but if he didnt break up w/ his girlfriend-> he probably wouldnt have called me right?

but i feel bad cos if i wouldnt have broken up with him a couple years ago we'd still be together and he wouldnt have his heart broken.. again.

even though, for me right now, i just wanna be left alone. and im already goin thru some weight issues. but how could he understand that? cos hes been drivin me insane by calling and e-mailin me!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 1

.Seems simple to me.Don't accept his calls or open the e-mails.Quite plainly if you're not interested.Just tell him

Answer 2

Life is full of heartbreaks. You can't prevent him from getting his heart broken. If you hadn't split years ago, things might not be the way you'd think they'd be. They could be horrible. You can't play the "what if" game. It's a waste of time and can be draining you mind, body, and soul. Things are the way they are and no matter how many times you look back, it's not going to change.

If you want to be there for him as a friend, then do so. If you can't handle it, then tell him. Right now you have to get yourself straight. You can't fix anyone but yourself, and even that can be difficult for anyone.

So, either don't answer his emails and don't answer the phone. Or just tell him how you feel. If he doesn't understand, then you don't need him in your life anyway.

Answer 3

It doesn't sound great. Love is not supposed to
hurt. Nor is it supposed to take 4 weeks. If a guy
waited 4 weeks to call me, I'd write him off as a loss,
or lose my total self esteem. No wonder you feel
badly.

Weight issues can always be solved. Look at
Valerie Bertinelli. She had her hands full, and no
doubt loved her VH husband. But, she chose the
ejection button to save herself. No man, sorry, Eddy,
is worth your self-esteem. Maybe he'll change himself
and be in the picture in the future for her--

But for you, deal with a broken heart like I do. Work
through the pain, exercise and realize that it is far
better to know how to feel than to not. Sometimes
it just plain ol' hurts. I've shed a few tears and pounds.
You will, too.

Best to you,
L

Answer 4

If you want to be left alone then that is the most important thing. Don't allow yourself to feel bad for him that someone else broke up with him; maybe he deserved it.

As to your weight - don't worry too much about it - it happens to almost everyone. The more you obsess about it the more it will stress you out and that can seriously make things more difficult trying to lose it.

If you want to try and re-start a "FRIENDSHIP" with him then you can let him know - but also let him know that you need your space to work on things you need to get done. He doesn't deserve more information if his amnesia regarding your friendship only went away AFTER his break-up.

If you don't want a friendship - or anything - just tell him that you are in a different place in your life and he doesn't fit in. Period.

Answer 5

Dont feel bad 4 breaking up with him it was 4 a reason, just remember hes upset about her not you, hes calling you because you sound kinda weak, no offense. He feels weak right now too and feels lonely, you are probably the REBOUND. deal with your own issues and tell him stop stressing you out that you have your own trials to deal with...tell him to call his mother

Answer 6

I wouldn't answer his emails and calls. He is probably trying to get back with you because he is single again. Sometimes, we like to be back in a situation that is familiar after losing something. He is somewhat on rebound. You can talk to him and see what his intentions are. If he just needs a friend, be a friend to him. If he wants more, tell him to buzz off.

Answer 7

Shine him on. Roll on! You seem to think you have an obligation to him because of the past, but you don't. You know where you are right now: you don't want involvement. And you don't seem particularly interested in him romantically. The nicest thing you can do is just say, "Hey, I'm not interested right now."

Answer 8

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Answer 9

Hey girl what i would do is just tell him that I have alot on my mind and i will have to talk to you later and i know that your upset about everything but I have alot to think about talk to you later and keep your head up

Answer 10

The dude is a loser seriously no offense doh just ignore him he will get the messege if he is driving you crazy

Answer 11

Get rid of him he is a rolling stone and a heart breaker.