Why is it SO HARD TO LET GO..........????????

Question

I am going from childhood to adulthood and the more i realize this the more it gets to me. i don't want the change and yet i do. i am not ready and yet i am. i am away at college and i miss my family a lot.. when i think about how our relationship is forever changing it saddens me..i dont want to let them go!

any advice?

Answer 1

Keep the memories close to your heart, and as you already know, change is inevitable. Keep the good feelings inside and except that more of them are coming. You cannot change, "change." You don't have to let them go, but you must realize that they are your history. The only constant in Life, Is change. Live Life and Cherish the moments!!!

Answer 2

Letting Go for all of us represents a change of some kind that we are not content with. Growing up is certainly part of that and yet, as you look behind you, notice how your relationship to your parents was forever in a state of change at different ages. Imagine their dilemma at watching you leave for college knowing that your want and need of them would be in flux forevermore. You don't have to let them go per se, but you must allow yourself to grow as a woman both with them and apart from them. Just know, and always cherish the fact that no matter where life leads you and what happens there, a comforting shoulder and an outstretched hand will always be there for you. And when it's time to come home again, you can go knowing that the wings that taught you to fly, will always be there to envelope and hold you once again. Good luck to you.

Answer 3

You know I remember feeling like that. When I was around 16 or 17, I thought to my self "oh god I don't want to be 20 something!!" Well I am 24 now and I am so happy. Being away from family is very hard. I am not sure how far away you are but, I am about 1 hour away from my dad and I hate it everyday. We have to hold on the fact that our familes love us and will always be there. You have to get through the hard times first and that makes coming home that much sweeter. I know that you think your relationship with them is going to change but it is not that, it is you that is changing and I am sure what ever you change into is going to be wonderful, and they will love the person you are going to be! Try not to think about it so much, I know that is hard, but you have school to worry about, let that be your focus for now. :)

Answer 4

To tell you the truth...a young part of you will always be there no matter what. You will always want to cling to your young self even after you turn 50. It is usually through our older years that we start realizing we are getting old and need to act like it because times are changing. The relationship you carry on with ANYONE--family members, friends, opposite sex will change no matter what. You're getting older, seeing different things, and seeing a bigger world, the bigger picture than you ever have. It's okay to be afraid...it works as caution to be careful what you get into as you start looking into this new curiosity of life at your age.

As for the relationships...look at it in the positive way that it is. It is changing for good. Your parents will always see you as their little child but they will have a lot more respect for your decisions and anything you may have to say simply because you are starting to set yourself out for the real world and they won't be there. Take this time and communicate with them about life. What it was like for them and what they did to better cope with it. You'll be surprised as to what either of your parents might have to say.

Good luck...and hang in there.

I know what you're feeling. Trust me...I'm going through it.

Answer 5

Life is about change, it helps you grow as a individual and you have to try to adjust, but try to stay in touch as much as possible, write,send pictures, visit as often as possible. You can also go to school closer to home if possible, where you can be home more or even live at home while your in college. Slowly you will get use to being independent and it won't be so hard. but you got to take it step by step, day by day and you'll be alright. You might even enjoy it and prefer it after a while.Most kids can't wait to get out and on their own, It's really nice that you are so close to your family in that way.

Answer 6

You need empathy. Talk to your friends and they'll likely be feeling the same thing (if only the more sensitive ones). I felt the same way when I went to college--sad, scared and exhilarated at the same time, realizing I was leaving something behind. I'll bet if you talked about this with your family (though not all families are open that way), it would help too.

Answer 7

Eventually you will discover that life is a ever constant series of changes. Family is forever but you seem well on your way to being independent. You don't have to totally "Let Go", Call them, visit them, send them special cards and letters. Being homesick is normal.

Answer 8

You might have some trepidations about asserting yourself in your new role as an independent young adult. It is healthy to challenge yourself with new environments. It will actually make your relationship with your family stronger. Parents gain their truest satisfaction from knowing that their children can succeed with the tools they've been given.

Answer 9

It is sad... Things change... So many experiences that we leave behind but so many new ones coming up ahead... Hold onto your past - learn from your experiences - but grow, grow, grow into the future... Learn to ride that wave called life, make your passions known, live every day like it could be your last...for one day you will no longer be of the living.

Answer 10

Get mentally strong and independent and love and respect yourself and concentrate on your education and career and keep busy in sports activities. The more busy you are the less your mind has time to think of things that will get you down.