My parents are overprotective. they let me do only the things my friend's mom lets him do. if he can't do something, i can't do something. their main goal for me is to have good grades. sometimes i get fs because of their protectiveness. my friends mom is terribly overprotective. if she gives advice to my mom, it is negative on my side. what should i do
2007-09-21 14:51:17 · 7 answers · asked by Nick 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Your grades have nothing to do with over protectiveness.
If you want more freedom you need to prove to your parents that you are mature enough to handle them.
Get your grades up and don't do anything that will get you in trouble and your parents will lift the restrictions.
Freedom is earned from parents it's not given without proof that it can be handled.
2007-09-21 15:00:21 · answer #1 · answered by unknown friend 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ya growing up my parents were very over protective as well. They are just trying to look out for you but i know how annoying it can get. My strategy was to get good grades and keep out of trouble. That way if i wanted to do something i would say, why not i get good grades and am not in trouble. They new they could trust me, just do not break that trust as it is hard to get it back. Get your grades up and if something comes up sit calmly and talk with your parents. Make sure and speak calmly, never raise your voice. Its hard especially when your not getting your way but you would be surprised how effective it is and it shows maturity.
2007-09-23 06:13:34 · answer #2 · answered by rabbit1986 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let your mom be. I know its smothering but she cant help it. She loves you and believe it or not, she is only trying to do whats best. By getting F's you're only hurting yourself. Bad grades mean punishment which equal even less things you get to do. If you get bad grades she thinks it reflects back on her and that she needs to try harder. Prove to be trustworthy and pull up your grades. That is the key to get what you want. BUT if what you want is to go to an unsupervised party or bungee jumping I think your out of luck. I used to be the same way with my parents. Then I had kids and its like. OH now I see why. As for your friends mom giving your mom advice, I'd say something like "do you really think that or are you just agreeing with whats her name?" Again if its something that's going to get you hurt or in trouble then expect her to be adamant. I would be in her place. You'll understand one day.
2007-09-21 22:05:46 · answer #3 · answered by natasha 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
haha seriously how do you get f's from over protectiveness? im 16 btw and my parents are a bit strict too but i still get straight A's most of the time....and first of all you need to tell your friend to talk to his mom so she can be more leniant with him and then maybe your mom will be too...or you could just make up stuff that your friends mom lets him do and get away with it "at the moment" lol
i dunno but the best way to go with parents is to be sneaky...
for example i am in keyclub and my excuse is that im volunteering and yes usually i am but i always tell them a heck of a lot longer than i really am....and there you go freedom=]
im not telling you to do exactly what i do but just think of something like that...or you could always talk to your mom like everyone else tells you but that only helps like 1% of the time with parents lol
2007-09-21 23:11:39 · answer #4 · answered by robot_17 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes grades to have way to much to do with over protectivness.Like it is making you feel stressed out? Tell them that unless things start to change things are going to get worse for you.
2007-09-21 23:10:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stop getting F's and show that you have a brain and some regard for you future and I bet they will reward the change in maturity.
2007-09-21 22:04:54 · answer #6 · answered by Mama Mia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how do u get f's from over protectiveness..... are u sure that thats not just an excuse?
2007-09-21 21:56:41 · answer #7 · answered by Jamiy 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋