Love hurts?

Question

I am a gay male...I have been friends with this guy for years and I told him that I was gay and he was fine with it. Time passed and we spent a lot of time together and one day I told him I loved him...he was not mad. As time passed we spent even more time together...played cards and did things together. One day i asked him how he felt about me and he said he loved me too...I was so happy...I held him and continued to shared my feelings with him...I wrote letters, made him music CD's telling him how I felt about him. Last weekend he told me he loved me again and got a little physical. The next few days he seemed kinda distant and then today I asked him where I stood with him thinking I was in a good place in his heart...he told me I was, but then he told me that a relationship was not possible, I was devastated, I cried for hours...I love him so much, I would do anything for him. Before he left he told me he loved me again and I did the same. I could not face him I am in pain. Help me

Answer 1

Awww... Just give him time..Perhaps he wasn't quite ready for what happened between you two and he just needs time to think.. I wouldn't take that as his final answer though...

I hope it works out for you =/

Answer 2

Im bi... been in a relationship for 4 yrs. my partner (ex) was also like that...she has problems accepting herself. We broke up alreadyand to this day I still love her. We still communicate and see each other from time to time... I know she loves me but she told me it is not the kind of life she expect her to have. It is devastating. I am trying to maintain good friendship with her because after all she was honest enough to tell me and didn't break off because of a 3rd party.

All I am saying is that there are really quite a number of people who would rather live a life which for them is approved of the society. This is common experience to us (LGBT)... I guess, just give him time & space. Yes, love hurts... but it can also make our day.

I am not yet over my ex & in fact I am struggling but sooner of later I wish I could move on too.

Answer 3

You didn't tell us anything about his background , was he straight ? dated girls until he met you ? He may be just confused and needs time to sort his feelings for you . He may really have feelings for you , but he may not be ready for a relationship . You need to sit down with him and ask him what he really wants from you . Tell him what you need from him , if he needs time ask him to tell you . If he has no interest in a future with you other than friendship then tell him you need to know . Make sure he spells it out for you so there is no room for confusion on your part . Tell him you need to know , so you can move forward with your life . It is not fair to leave you in limbo , while he is dangling the prize in front of your face .

Answer 4

It may be painful, but if you truly love him, then you must respect him. You would want someone to respect you if they truly loved you.