Domestic Abuse Temporary Restraining Order question!?

Question

I have filed a domestic abuse restraining order and it is just temporary right now. He got served already and i needed to let him know of a very important package i mailed him. Am i violating my OWN order against him by contacting his friends or by having my friend call him for me? I read over the order and saw that it didn't mention anything about ME having no contact etc. It just said that if i invite contact he still has to obey the order. I understand that. But Can i violate my OWN order? I need him to know the package is VERY important and he needs to watch out for it due to our neighbors "taking" our packages! I called him once and hung up, and then had my friend call to tell him i needed to talk. He told her it goes both ways and he doesn't want to go to jail for talking to me. Is this right? Am i ok ,just relaying messages to him then w/o actually talkin to him?

Answer 1

You can have a friend relay a message, providing that the message is for legitimate purposes, as in the case you describe. Illegitimate messages would be harassing ones or those that entice him to violate the order, like telling him that you have something valuable for him and he must pick it up in person. In that case, he could get the order lifted based on your actions because restraining orders are for people who are afraid of bodily harm. People who are truly afraid don't invite contact from the person they are afraid of.

Like I said, you could call him personally without either of you getting into trouble if the call was for the reason you stated and nothing else. He cannot call you, though. You could also use a friend to do it. He can use a friend to relay messages to you, as well.

People who suffer domestic violence, or impose it, are people who share a common household, therefore, they have on-going financial and other entanglements that require some form of communication from time to time. It would be unreasonable for the law to impose such broad restrictions on contact that would prevent the conduct of that business. That's why go-betweens are allowed for legitimate communication.

EDIT: Oh, I forgot to mention; don't send him packages! You have no way to prove what was in it. He could crap in the box and take it to court to show how UNafraid of him you are.

Answer 2

It just might be. I'd have to read the actual restraining order. HOWEVER, you should NOT contact him. Let your attorney do that for you. YES you CAN violate your own restraining order. He IS correct in what he told your friend. Your friend CAN tell him that he needs to watch for an important package. But, you probably should not have sent the package either. Communicating ONLY with his attorney is by far the best thing to do.

Answer 3

Just had dealings with a situation like this. If you absolutely need him to look out for this pkg, there's one of two ways you can handle this. Call the Desk Sargeant who issued the order or Magistrate and ask them what you're safe in doing OR you can (if its an apt. complex), you have every right to consult with the Manager and alert them to when the pkg will be delivered, and you can let the Post office know they will need to flag the pkg and deliver it to the manager's office. Try not to have any dealings with him if at all possible for your own safety. Most likely, the order is only for 72 hrs and after that you'll probably have to go back to the Magistrate for help and
extension of the order for permanence.

Take care and stay safe. Good luck.

Answer 4

The order usually goes both ways - even when only one party requests it. You contacting him (and thus, him speaking to you) violates the order.

No, you shouldn't violate your own order. Why didn't you have someone deliver the package to him, rather than mail it?

Answer 5

I would suggest having someone else tell him about the package (even though you shouldnt be mailing him anything) because yes it goes both ways and you can violate that order.

Answer 6

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