Chillswoman, I have a question for U?

Question

Why do people like U keep on getting in my way of what I'm trying to achieve for myself,like having a pretty girlfriend,to have normal hobbies,to see the negative more positively. Well, what if do want to be able to get the things that I want for myself. Or U must have a much more benign attitude towards the human condition than I and a lot of other people. It's actually people like U who keep me from living the life that I want. That I have to be isolated from others and settle for a lot less.why can't U just let me be,because no matter how much U try to slice and dice it,being a disabled person is by far the hardest thing for someone to go though. i have a right to live a normal,more fullfiling life. And I don't wanted to be limited in anyway at all.can U at least try to see where I'm coming from?

Answer 1

You are disabled and wishing isn't going to make it go away. I don't stand in the way of your success - you do.

You see things positively???? You frame every single question you ask in the negative.

What prevents you from having a pretty girlfriend - my guess it is your negative attitude.

Nothing prevents you from having "normal" hobbies except yourself.

If you are isolated, I venture to guess you have isolated yourself. A part of autism is often WANTING to isolate them self. If you don't want to be isolated than you don't have that characteristic and shouldn't be isolated. If you only feel comfortable being isolated - than find activities you enjoy in isolation.

I have far from a benign attitude toward disability - I spend my life trying to remove barriers so people can have access to as much as they desire. But breaking down barriers is useless if people aren't willing to challenge them self to achieve to their maximum potential.

I am the first to say that my disability is only a little more than an inconvenience in my life. But I have an adult child who has to work extra hard every single second of every single day to achieve what he wants. He has a great life. I actually envy him his life. His disability prevents him from being able to read, to understand the relative value of money, to respond to some things emotionally in age appropriate ways, to tire easily, and much more. But he started his own business, loves to dance, and can't wait to have his first serious girlfriend.

I also have a friend who is a high quad who must have virtually everything done for her. Yet she still rolls down to the local elementary school each day and reads to kids and helps them with their school work. She can't eat, get out of bed, or dress without someone doing it for her, but she still finds ways to contribute to her community. She works at home verifiying online listing for a real estate directory.

You can start having a "normal" fulfilling life as soon as you accept yourself as a person who has a disability and start accepting the person you are and be the best you can be with the resources you have available to you.

Answer 2

Pray tell, just WHOM are you speaking to? If you are addressing another YA user, then this question is in violation of the YA guidelines. I know... I was reported for doing so, for just trying to relay some information about a restaurant! OOOO real DANGEROUS information!

Furthermore, some might consider this not a question, but a "rant," which, again, is a violation of the YA guidelines. I ALSO have been reported for "ranting" too, but I don't see the harm in a little RANT now and then!

Frankly, however, I cannot see where you are going with this question. I do hope the person for whom it was intended reads it, but don't be surprised if someone out there reports you as violating YA guidelines.

Answer 3

You sound like a teenager who angry that you have the injustices of a disability. When I was 17 -20 I question both God and my auntie about the negatives of having a disability and why God allowed this to happen to me. My auntie told me about how I have a great ability in art. but it like going through a tunnel. And there is light on the other side but you could be going through a stage in life.
People with your disability can learn a traded and can marriage, depending on how they are affected.
Ask yourself what you can do well because all people need to find there gifts in life. Try kite flying if you like solitaries

Answer 4

I don't think she is going to answer, she has her own way, unfortunately it is like nobdy elses, I say we keep up our spirits and give live our life as best we can, don't worry about what everybody else is doing, I am choosing to go on and enjoy life to the fullest. I refuse to sit around and grumble and complain. I just keep on keeping on.

Answer 5

Your choice!

Answer 6

Stop it! Your the only one that controlls you.