do you think people who gossip are angry, and is it judgeing someone?

Question

when you gossip alot and do you think some people gossip alot cos they are bored,

Answer 1

My mother's side of the family gossips about me alot. They will do anything to try and destroy my reputation. I just ignore it and not talk to them anymore. I think they gossip because since they have nothing better to do than put people down.

Answer 2

Gossip is such a terrible thing, and yet so prevalent, even in metaphysical circles. It causes separation, ostracizing particular people from social circles. It causes hatred and anger. It causes cliques and “we-hate so-and-so-clubs.” It causes divisions among people who are supposedly teaching that we are all One. If we are all one, then no one should ever slander another, for then we are slandering our own self when we say something bad about someone else. The question I always ask is: “How are we ever going to stop world wars if not even the metaphysical people can get along?” It makes me wonder when I see so many rifts and divisions among those in a metaphysical community. Gossip is one of the key factors in these divisions among metaphysical people.

Gossip, more accurately called slander, is a very damaging action that should never happen in metaphysical circles. Many would say that they never gossip. However, I challenge anyone who says this to record every conversation on a tape recorder for an entire month and see if there is at least one point of gossip in there somewhere. We have all been guilty of gossip at some point or another, so we might as well forgive ourselves and others for it now. Even worse, it is highly likely that we will gossip again at some point in our lives before we notice that we are doing it again. That little muscle, the tongue, is rather wily and takes vigilance to control. The trouble is that we have most likely blurted it out already before we realize that we have just committed the sin of gossip.

We have all been on the receiving end of slander, and everyone knows it doesn’t feel good. I cannot even count the number of counseling sessions I have had with someone who feels harmed by what someone else has said behind his or her back. I have found myself doing a lot of work on removing the harm done by slander, not only for others, but also for myself. I have been the target of many projections that have no substance in reality, as everyone has, and I always wonder how someone came up with such a far out story that never even happened.
The first thing to do about that little muscle is to stop moving it and don’t let anyone else move it in your presence! When in doubt, silence is always the best route. I believe that people who gossip do not realize that they are gossiping at all. Gossipers rarely label themselves as such.

Answer 3

I believe that people gossip for the reason that they like to have the "power" and the attention. Knowing information about people that others want to hear gives a sense of power to some and they love that...even though it is a false sense of power. It is also attention giving. Usually if someone is gossiping all attention is on them and that feels good to them. They like having all eyes on them. Also some people gossip to make themselves feel better about themselves... how is that? When you know the dirt on other people and you can make others feel bad then maybe others aren't looking or judging you for your downfalls. So it becomes a self preservation. When this happens it actaully becomes addicting and they will gossip about anybody. They don't care who it hurts...even family and friends.
I don't believe that gossip is a product of boredom. It is a product of choice. It is how people choose to get attention and feel self gratifying.
I also believe it is wrong and no good has ever come from gossiping.

Answer 4

People who gossip are feeling insecure about themselves and by focusing on the lives of others they don't have to focus on their own personal problems.

It's not necessarily judgmental, just reactive. I know I've gossiped yet liked and respected the person I was talking about. However I wasn't treating them with respect when I gossiped about them and I did not deserve their trust. Especially since I was using that knowledge for my own emotional gain.

Answer 5

people who gossip, i feel uncomfortable with,they are not angry,but i do think they feel insecure,and not acknowledged as a valued person in that group,they feel the need to give this great information to the group that no one else knows about,then they feel much more important, and will gain more attention,and therefore feel better,also gossip can cause alot of pain and can easily be avoided at all times,

Answer 6

It's a very important social bonding procces. Men gossip as much as women but their gossip is more centered on themselves and egotistical... (fancy that!)
People gossip naturaly, it is sometimes harmful and the peole who are the most bored and nasty will be the ones who spread the most false rumours.
Everyones gossips however.

Answer 7

I think people who gossip a lot are just mean, and they don't care what happens as long as people don't talk about them. I especially hate the people who gossip, and then are especially nice to the person they gossiped about...

Answer 8

No respect of the present moment. Gossip about others or about yourself, it's not here/now, not real.
The judgment part is more subtle than simply judging people. Non-sensory discussion is full of judgments, it has to be, if people told the truth of the past we'd all get bored. Two people meet, two sides of the story, and then the truth

Answer 9

I hate people who gossip. I think these people get some enjoyment out of other peoples misfortunes and this makes them feel better about their own miserable lives.

I know squat about who is doing what. If people want to tell me about what is going on in their lives then fine but I don't want to hear it second hand from some narrow minded person.

Answer 10

They do it to put others down and feel better about themselves. Yes, it's judging someone. I always notice when someone never gossips, since most people do to some extent.