Look. THeres this guy, i liked him for all of last school year. AND just last week we stared going out. But things are sooo akward, it's not even funny. All my friends say i made a bad choice, and all his friends say we're perfect for each other. I still like him, but not as much as i did. And i'm so worried about makinga mistake and messign everythign up, i just can't be relaxed. I've had bf's before, but never one that's afriad to take my hand or anything. I don't want to hurt him, cause i'm his first girlfriend and he's liked me for a while. Even his parents like me. SO what do i do? GIve it more time, hope things work out... Or do i dump him and find another guy? PLease help me!!!!!!
2007-09-21 12:03:09 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
If you are his first girlfriend, then he doesn't know what to do. If you want him to hold your hand, there is nothing wrong with reaching out to hold his. Put your arm through his arm, put your arm around his waist, anything to let him know that it is ok to touch you. Talk, tell him what you like, ask him what he likes, that is how you get to know someone. Do not worry about what someone else thinks, because no one can pick who is right for you except you. Go have fun, and forget about all the other stuff. Laugh, and joke.
2007-09-21 12:15:06 · answer #1 · answered by LIPPIE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think at any age people make the mistake of taking dating too seriously, but this is how I see it:
Dating should be a 3 step process:
1. casual dating
2. seeing each other, serious dating.
3. engaged, seeing each other and preparing for marriage.
When you are young (1) and (2) are not distinguished, that is the biggest problem; you can still be seeing someone and still be casual dating, and should when you are young, but you have to make clear and come to agreement that that is what you are doing so your date understands. Just say you need to go back to casual dating and that you can still see him sometimes, things should never be taken too far too soon.
Adults make a clear distinction between casual dating and seeing each other. But then they have the other problem of not distinguishing between the time of engagement and seeing eachother because too often people decide to live together before they get married; the same basic problem just between the latter stages instead of the first two stages.
2007-09-21 12:40:02 · answer #2 · answered by David L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Similar thing has happened to me - I think its just that once you actually get someone they're not as wonderful in real life as you were expecting them to be, when you fancy someone you get an idea of how wonderful they are and when they turn out to be normal its a bit of a dissapointment!
If you like him I'd give him a chance and get to know him, if it doesnt get better on its own I would talk to him about it, and then if that doesn't work, he probably isnt the right person. If you talk to him he may be surprised at how you feel - men are not very intuitive, as a rule! I think once you both relax a bit you'll be fine, as it sounds like you like each other! and as for him not taking your hand etc., maybe hes trying to give you space, some guys think that if they do things girls will take it the wrong way.
Also, if you're his first girlfriend, its likely he'll be nervous and just needs to relax. If he's insecure, he may be trying not to do anything that could upset or offend you as he doesnt want to lose you!
(Thats just my opinions... I hope this helps!)
Good luck
2007-09-21 12:19:26 · answer #3 · answered by beautifullyintended 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give the poor lad a chance! he obviously likes you so he won't care if you just act yourself. Have a water fight or do something fun together where you can both just relax and have a laugh. I dumped a guy when I was younger only to find out I loved him, and we're best mates now but I still really love him 4 years on. You've liked him for ages, so this awkwardness is just re-adjusting to being a couple, plus of course you have the pressure of expectations by his friends and parents.Don't give up :)
2007-09-21 12:12:53 · answer #4 · answered by x-Phoebe-x 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just talk to him and tell him how you feel. You might actually solve the problem, if not move on and date someone else.
2007-09-21 12:09:15 · answer #5 · answered by Dax-A-Lish 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
mayb hes nervous dont listen 2 otha ppl tho!! dats a no no!!
do wut u think is right.. ride it out for awhile and ask him abt it.. if it doesnt work out afta u ask him abt it hopefully u guys can laugh it out and go bac 2 bein just friends.. if not den mayb it wasnt meant to be!!
2007-09-21 12:09:25 · answer #6 · answered by Lame 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you like him he is right for you! You should not care about your friends... If the really care about you they will let you be with him...
2007-09-21 12:09:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its simple, if u like him, stay with him and c how it turns out. if things dont get better, either confront him or move on. if you like him and dump him, ull regret it
2007-09-21 12:08:24 · answer #8 · answered by Viv 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what you want to do, not what your friends or his friends think.
2007-09-21 12:10:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋