Picture a couple walking down the street. The man has hair down to the middle of his back and the woman has very short hair, almost a crew cut. Are both gay, is one gay or neither of them gay? Explain your reasoning.
My GF wrote this question, but I'd be interested to know what people think as well.
2007-09-21 11:54:00 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
Actually, Beano. I gave up pot smoking, beyond politely taking a toke when a joint is passed , about 12 years ago, when I quit to drinking. I've recpvered to the point where I can spell the word "too" correctly. You might benefit from a bit of abstinence yourself.
2007-09-21 12:47:50 · update #1
The comment was for catchabeatin. I didn't have my reading glasses on when I replied.
2007-09-21 12:50:05 · update #2
the question came up due to a recent experience. I work as a eldercare provider and right now am temporarily living with a lady who is recovering from a stroke. We were talking with someone who hadn't seen her in a while,and I was introduced as her companion. The acquaintance asked me if I had been home when my employer suffered the stroke. The implication seeming to be that we were a lesbian couple. (I have long hair and the lady has a short crew cut style.) This got Steve to wondering what people might assume upon seeing the long haired man and crew cut woman toether. We're just wondering out loud.
2007-09-21 13:05:28 · update #3
Bushgotgrounded, Exactly what part of the word "explain' did you not understand?
2007-09-21 13:39:01 · update #4
My answer is insufficient data.
I have pretty good gaydar, but it doesn't always work. I have friends who finally realized they were homosexual long after I realized it. When they came out to me, it was anticlimactic. They were waiting for a scene of some sort, I think, but they wouldn't get a scene from me, anyway, since I think it's perfectly natural. It has been, in the past, actually kind of embarrassing. They feel tense, and finally tell me they have something to tell me, and they come out, and I smile, and say, "I know. Thank you for sharing now that you know. I hope you feel more comfortable in your own skin." There are no tears, except for every once in a while when I have watched them really struggle with the slowly-dawning realization of who they are. Then I cry like a baby, because I am so happy they have crossed that hurdle, and can maybe get on with their lives.
So anyway, my reasoning on your basic question is insufficient data. I have been mistaken for a lesbian more times than I can count. I happen to like men. No big deal either way. Actually, there is one thing that's a big deal, to me at least. Why does it matter? Why do people apologize when they assume I am a lesbian and find out I am not. It's not like they mistook me for a Republican! (Oh hell, loosen up, that was a joke!) I no longer make assumptions about sexual orientation unless my gaydar is going off like crazy, and even then, I wait for the person to mention it first. I don't feel the need to approach someone new and say, "Hey! Guess what? I am heterosexual!" Why should they feel the need to tell me of their sexual orientation if they don't want to bring it up? It's all good, as far as I am concerned.
There is a small, and for me, tremendously sad coda to this answer of mine. In the last 10-15 years, I have seen a lot of older women with really cute, short spiky hair. When I comment on it, which I do when it's tremendously flattering, more often than not I find out that the reason they wear it that way is because they had breast cancer, and when their hair grew back, they had to wear it like that at first. Most of them got so many compliments on it, and found it so easy to care for that they have chosen to continue wearing it like that. That, if anything, really depresses the hell out of me. I am always happy to see a survivor, since I lost a beloved aunt to that horrible disease. But it's sad when you start seeing women with short spiky hair and 90% of them wear it like that because they survived cancer, rather than because of just liking short spiky hair. I guess what this little rant is about is the fact that I hate breast cancer, and I hate what it is doing to people. I want a cure, and I want it yesterday.
And one more thing. I know very effeminate gay guys, but the bulk of them are so "manly" that people don't believe them when they come out. Most of the women I know who are lesbians are quite "lipstick", as well. I think it's because at my age (39) people are beginning to be more interested in being themselves and being comfortable than they are in worrying about how people perceive them. To me, that's how it should be.
2007-09-21 20:38:53 · answer #1 · answered by Bronwen 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It would be impossible to tell from hair length alone whether a person is gay. I can think of people I know; male and female, gay and straight, and cannot see a correlation between sexual orientation and hair length.
I wore my hair long for many years. I simply liked the way it looked and my wife (ex) agreed. Very simple. When I cut it shorter, I didn't feel my sexual orientation change... ;-)
I am completely heterosexual, and to address the other guy's post... haven't smoked pot in over 25 years, and did not smoke it at all during the time my hair was long.
Sorry, but it doesn't mean anything.
peace
2007-09-21 12:24:55 · answer #2 · answered by OhYeah?! 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
this is not an precise gauge or something, yet some analyze have got here across correlation between orientation and the ratio of index finger to ring finger. this is something to do with exposure prenatal hormones, that are concept to by some potential impact a individual's orientation. So this is variety of wierd, yet there must be some foundation in certainty.
2016-11-06 01:58:47 · answer #3 · answered by hanon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think hair length has nothing to do with sexual orientation. Its purely mindless stereotyping to think that men with long hair must be effeminate (not true) and that all effeminate men *must* therefore be gay (also not true). Likewise, its stereotyping to think that all women with short hair must be butch (not true) and that butch women must therefore be lesbian (also not true).
Its true that a lot of lesbian women have short hair, for instance. But there are more hetero women with short hair. Not all women look good in long hair, and short hair is a lot easier to style and take care of. Both hetero and lesbian women appreciate the convenience of short hair.
And it seems to me that most of the men I've known with long hair were hetero, while most of the gay men I've known had short hair (maybe to avoid being stereotyped as effeminate).
2007-09-21 12:16:06 · answer #4 · answered by ? 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is going to be funny. Being a guy with VERY Long hair. LOL
BB,
Raji the Green Witch
2007-09-21 16:24:16 · answer #5 · answered by Raji the Green Witch 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
A man's hair length determines if he smokes way to much pot.
2007-09-21 12:01:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
You can't really tell by just looking at hair length what someone's orientation may be.
2007-09-21 12:37:00 · answer #7 · answered by nowyouknow 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
HAYYYYYYYYYUL NO! My hair is short and elfin, and I am all hetero. It is in the swagger, in the hips, in the eyes, NOT the hair!
2007-09-21 12:38:02 · answer #8 · answered by Lady Morgana 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
And if one is a warrior and the other is
Jesus?
2007-09-21 16:27:42 · answer #9 · answered by balloon buster 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋