Do any other wives do this?

Question

Ok, my husband is well, a tightwad, he isnt much for me spending money at all. So here's my question, do any other wives go shopping (I'm doing great now, I just go to Target and Walmart, not JC Penny, Elder Beermans, GAP, Old Navy) and then hide their purchases from their husband? I bought some earrings today for me to wear to work, and I have to hide them in my jewelry box like I've had them all along. Same thing with shoes, Got some crocks, and had to just toss em in the closet, and even socks, but he knows them bad-boys are new, they are nike socks.... I have to hide things I buy for our daughter (12mo) and he still gets on me if I buy things...like sandals...am I the only one who does this???

Answer 1

LOL!

I just bought 8 pairs of boots and hid them under the bed. I am a shop-a-hol-ic.....we can afford it, I just don't want him to see all those boots, it might freak him out a little because he thinks more practical than I do.....

Answer 2

No, but you are just like my husband. He is the shopper in this household. He also shops ebay and hides things he buys. We always joke that the reason I'm not a shopper is that we can't afford for two of us to be money spenders. He has a thing for buying shoes and I do not buy new shoes because there is no room. I am a minimalist and do not like the clutter of a lot of stuff around that needs to be cleaned or dusted. He is a pack rat and will buy something if he "might need it someday". Needless to say, we have made some ineteresting compromises along the way.

Answer 3

No, actually I've taken my wife to another city that had a huge mall for a treat before and helped her buy a new wardrobe she hadn't gotten any new clothes for a while and we bought almost a dozen outfits for her that day.

If she buys new jewelry she can't wait to show it off for me, she knows what we have for extra spending money a month and isn't afraid to buy things for herself.

I once gave her a new credit card with a $500 limit that we got for small purchases and told her to go max it out at some lingerie stores. Unfortunately she gave it back to me saying that would be a waste of money - but the point is that we stick within our means but she can still get new clothes when she wants but she also doesn't break the bank doing it all the time.

Answer 4

Look we I used to do the same thing, and when he found out wo got into a huge argument.Mostly because my spending was way worst then a couple of pair of shoes. But , what worked for us is coming to an agreement about how I can go shopping and have a lot of fun with it.

What we do now is after all of the bills are paid we have a certain amount we put into a joint account that satisfies his need to save, and I get a certain amount that I can put into my " new " shopping account and of course my personal account. And I go on shopping trips like twice a month. I like it better because I get to got to the outlets and get everything cheaper..... and get a lot more stuff.

It made him happier because now he knows I don't have to lie about shopping and how much I actually spent, what I bought, and I feel better cause I no longer have to keep almost half of my wardrobe in my car. Try it and see I bet it works

Answer 5

It depends on your financial situation. Is your husband truly a tightwad, or is he trying to be responsible? I know you only live once but if your buying things for yourself that you really don't need and you don't really have the money. Then he would be right. On the other hand, with your daughter, kids needs things on a regular basis, especially when they are growing. Just one way to look at it!

Answer 6

i always had a job.. so i never felt the need to hide anything. even if i did not work..we would have to work out a budget or something.. because tight wad or not.. life is short and we all deserve some fruits of our labor. now when it came to the kids.. i did not go over board..but whatever i wanted for them,..i bought. your daughter is 12 months old once in life. sit down and talk with your hubby..and compromise.. on a limit. but adults should not have to hide

Answer 7

If the money is from your own paycheck, and you've payed in your share of living expenses, why would you have to hide what you buy?
When I was married, I payed 1/2 expenses, 1/2 of what we wanted to buy together or needs for the children, and the whole amount for things I bought just for myself. I didn't take a thought to explain 'why' I bought things for myself; it's my money for crying out loud. Another person's obsessions about not buying do not necessitate me being obsessive about buying too.
The day I can't buy things with my own money is the day that I would wonder what is the point of working.
By the way, I was the one who managed our money and payed bills and am totally honest with another person's money. This was the only reason we made it on the amount that we earned. After we divorced, he went bankrupt. Not because I took him through the cleaners, which I didn't, but because he can't handle money well.

Answer 8

not at all - but I also make sure I have my own money! If you are working, make sure to set funds aside to do things you want to do and get things you need for you and your daughter. Furthermore, start saving now. If it ever comes to such a time as you just can't take it anymore, you can be sure he will not give you anything if you decide to leave! I still can't get over the fact that he doesn't want his daughter to have anything either, no offense, it surely isn't your fault, but he is a sorry excuse for a man.

Answer 9

Sounds to me like you are a hop-a-holic and he has all rights and means to get mad........................

welcom sista! ahaha...my husband IS NOT a tightwad, but he can get a bit irritated at times when I shop so much...but he can't stay squat to me because I WORK TOO! I EARN my own money as well...I know I have a shopping problem, and yes, at times do hide the stuff, but my husband is good at knowing what is new and old...so I eventually give in and tell him.

Answer 10

Our money is deposited into a joint account.
My wife has to be encouraged to spend a little on herself.
Sometimes she gets the children things that she knows are not necessary but it's not like it broke us.
I know about the website memberships & the 20 bucks that she gave to our son for a date. She never told I never asked but I did know about it indirectly. It's only money anyway & life is short.
As long as the bills get paid I don't care. Her opinion of how we spend our funds is just as valid as mine.
Maybe your husband knows too?

Answer 11

I feel you have a compulsive shopping addiction. You can buy all the things you listed at a Wal-mart and not spend near as much. So it is a win-win situation you get what you want and do't spend alot to have it!!! Tell hubby to chill, women need more accessories than men do!