It's like this, my daddy is abusive and tried to rape me. I can't take it no more and my boy friend wants me to run away from home with him so we can get married. I don't Know what to do!! I'm only 14!! What on God's green Earth am I gonna do with a husband? I love him and I told him yes when he purposed to me. So, I feel like I'd let him down if I don't run away with him. The thing is, we'd be on the streets cause we have no money, no one to take us in, no where to go, and no plan. PLEASE HELP ME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-09-21 10:07:46 · 14 answers · asked by hannah s 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I was homeless and I have run away. None of that did any good. I have also allowed another to marry for convenience and that was the biggest mistake I made. I'm STILL financing that fiasco.
Please seek authorities such as child protective services who can give you help and shelter. You don't have to marry the first man to start to recover from life's biggest bounces. Be strong and you will be proud when you see yourself pulling away from this. I care.
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2007-09-21 10:52:33 · answer #1 · answered by Your Uncle Dodge! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Getting married will cost money; if you're broke, that won't happen. Next, you need to slow down and think through all of this a little better. Getting out of your house is a good idea considering the circumstances, but you really need to have a better plan before you take off. Find someone else (a relative or friend, even a teacher from school) that you can stay with for the time being, or even try to find some sort of social service that can give you advice on where to go and what to do.
Depending on your situation, getting the police involved may or may not be an option. Whatever the case, avoid that whole marriage thing for a while. Your boyfriend will be willing to wait for a while until you get a little older if he really cares about you.
2007-09-21 10:15:08 · answer #2 · answered by Aria T 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
calm down and take a deep breath. how long has this been going on (not the marriage thing the dad thing)? that would be why you feel hopeless. you were betrayed by an adult you trusted. he was supposed to protect you and he caused you pain. you need to get away. but the prospects aren't much better out there for you are they? you are in a tight spot. call a hotline. they are trained to help you no matter what. they will get you away from your dad and you will be safe. keep that boyfriend close. he will probably be your biggest supporter, and if he loves you he will understand if you need to stay stable and not go away with him. oh ya and us here on ask. you are in a dark place and you will get out easier if you let someone some help.
2007-09-21 10:32:08 · answer #3 · answered by Chaos 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are making it sound like you only have one choice: stay at home and be abused and raped, or run away with your boyfriend and get married. YOU HAVE OTHER CHOICES. Get out of the house and go to a neutral area, your boyfriend's or a friend's house. Call an abuse hotline (1.800.656.HOPE is a good one) and tell them what is going on. They will be able to tell you what to do next. It may be the hardest phone call you ever make, but honey, you need to take care of yourself.
2007-09-21 10:16:33 · answer #4 · answered by ♫ Sweet Honesty ♫ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you are only fourteen, now you probably do not want to hear this, but if you run away with your boy friend it is not going to solve the problem, what you need to do , is go to your teacher and report your dad, have you any adult relations that can help you,you are not letting your boyfriend down by not marrying him now, you are too young. you are going from the frying pan into the fire, you seem to be sensible. as you know that you can not live on the streets. if all fails go to the nearest police station and report your dad.
2007-09-21 10:39:19 · answer #5 · answered by champagne 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is going to sound like a horrible suggestion but you really need to talk to a counselor and report your dad. For one, if you run away you look like a bad kid , not a kid that needs help and they may respond to it like that because you are still your dads responsibility. Report him. Are you sure you have no family to help you? You are smart to understand that you are entirely to young to get married. Dont go from one bad situation to a worse situation. You still have your whole life ahead of you, you dont want to go from one control to no control. Being homeless is no joke. Now I will be honest, Once you inform them of the situation with your father you will probably go into a home but look at it like this, you will have food, shelter, someone to help you, schooling, and possibly money for college. It is much better than being homeless, married or abused.
2007-09-21 10:27:03 · answer #6 · answered by LADYPRINCEZZ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK, life on the streets sucks. Calling the cops on your dad and getting Child Protective Services is a much better option to be honest. Homeless 14 year olds get raped, killed, beaten and otherwise destroyed on the streets.
http://www.nineline.org/ can help you out, they do this a lot. 1-800-999-9999 is the phone number.
2007-09-21 12:05:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You NEED to talk to an Adult about this situation. -A Teacher, a close (to YOU) Relative, a Sympathetic family friend -WHATEVER... You're in no position to handle it yourself...-& you have to DO something where you can be in a "safe" place with Responsible people. If none of this is possible- then call the Police. And do it NOW. The worst thing you can do- is nothing. Good luck.
2007-09-21 10:20:44 · answer #8 · answered by Joseph, II 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dont run away. Thats a mistake. You need to talk to an adult you can trust, such as a teacher, student counselor, church friend, or report it to the police. But reporting it to the police could result in you being put in state custody. Mabey you could talk to a girlfriends mom. What about your mom? If my daughter came to me saying that my husband tried to rape her, I would take it seriously!
2007-09-21 10:17:33 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you need to report the attempted rape and abuse to a school councilor, your principal, or the police. get some help for you.
running away won't solve anything and getting married at 14 won't either.
2007-09-21 10:24:31 · answer #10 · answered by jgrey1goose 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋