I know people say it’s good to be in love with someone but is it good to love someone in pain. I’ve loved this girl my entire life and the thing is she doesn’t know, I haven’t told her because I’m afraid of the outcome, I know this is normal but the thing is we’ve been friends for the past 10 years and I think me telling her this now would complicate things besides she’s seeing someone. The first time I noticed I loved her was 6 years ago, it kind of just hit me all at once I didn’t know what was happening at first. It took me a year to finally accept that I love because I know it myself she wouldn’t love me back, but why don’t I just try. I kept looking for her everywhere, asking people about her, seeing if I can get in touch with her and then one day a friend of mine who goes to the same school as her saw me. I told him what I feel about her and since he’s a close friend he decided to lend hand.
2007-09-21 10:04:44 · 16 answers · asked by The EsO 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
The next day I saw him again and this time he told me that this girl I love said she only like me as a friend and she’s seeing someone. The thing is in the past 6 years I’ve been living through pain and grief, hiding all my feelings inside, bubbling them up making me sick and now I just want to get rid of them because me loving her like this will surely make me sick, I think in the future if I haven’t done anything I probably won’t be alive, because I just couldn’t take it anymore, that’s why I come to you guy’s to help me fall out of love, to help me get on with my life because I just can’t live like this anymore.
2007-09-21 10:05:31 · update #1
Love Is For Ever,get it? life
2007-09-21 10:08:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Ouch. Well, maybe she will come around, lots of times love starts out as friendship. But in the meantime, at least try to casually date other girls, to get someone else in your head besides her. Think of things you like in her and try to find those things in other girls. If you just absolutely can't and you know she will never come around, maybe you should move away from her so that you don't have to see her or things that remind you of her every day. But please, whatever you do, if you cannot stop loving her, then don't lead another girl on for ages. When I say casually date, I mean a date or two, nothing serious (unless you find you really like the new girl.) Otherwise you'll just end up hurting the girls you casually date and that won't earn you any brownie points with anyone.
2007-09-21 17:11:50 · answer #2 · answered by Tigerlily 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should tell her that you love her. She sees you only as a friend. You can either take that and run with it or live in grief... You should want her to find happiness. Falling out of love takes time. You are just gonna have to get over her, and go out and find another girl. A girl that will like you, for you!
2007-09-21 17:13:31 · answer #3 · answered by ~*Cynthia C*~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are a lot of different ways to love people, and even more options for what we do with that love. Soulmates are those people that stick with us, no matter what happens in our lives. It might be your best friend, your sister, your spouse, or your grade-school sweetheart.
You're friends with this woman, and that truly is something -- aren't you lucky to have someone you like so well in your life? Consider it a blessing, because it is. Stop torturing yourself. Love isn't all or nothing! Find someone who wants to have a relationship with you, and you'll see that your friend fits in your life exactly where she's supposed to.
2007-09-21 17:13:29 · answer #4 · answered by . 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The truth is no one can tell you hwo to fall out of love. Its a healing process that you must do on your own, it is different for everyone. Some people find someone new, which pushes the past into the back of your mind, some slowly let feelings fade away. Good luck
2007-09-21 17:09:53 · answer #5 · answered by CORAZON QUE NO SiiENTE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Next time you find someone you love speak up. Still go ahead and let her know how you feel about her if she is not married. If she is happy where she is let her go in your mind. Start by not fantasying over her. Remember somethings are just not meant to be.
There has to be someone else out their you can be happy with. Learn to express yourself. If you don't you may lose out on things. Practice it and remember that we all face rejection in one way or another. So if she says no it is still better to have tried.
2007-09-21 17:17:11 · answer #6 · answered by 007 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well tell her how you feel and if she said she is not interested the best thing you can do is move on. its only a child hood crush and probably the first you ever had, so the first always hurts the worst ( or at least it seems). Just convince yourself it wasnt meant to be and that you wil lfind the right one.Youre young, you got alot of time
2007-09-21 17:11:08 · answer #7 · answered by Jersey Sweetheart 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think is that you should tell her that way you won't have any regrets later and you will not be wondering later on what would have happened if I would have. YOU should talk to her not your friend let her know how you feel. By getting all of that out your chest is the first step to actually let her go and move on.
2007-09-21 17:13:14 · answer #8 · answered by B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to say this but you can't fall out of love. You just have to try and move on with your life. You should go out with your friends and have fun for now.
2007-09-21 17:09:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You will always think you love her until you fall in love with someone who loves you back.
Only then will you have the answer to your question.
2007-09-21 17:11:20 · answer #10 · answered by Rich's 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋