How do you feel about a woman having a child after having sex a couple of times?

Question

How do people feel about a woman having a child with a man who only had sex a couple of times and barely new each other? Yes, I understand that they probably did not take adequate contraception measures. I feel if a woman chooses to have a child after knowing that the man did not want a child, then it is her choice to keep the child and raise it herself without child support from the man or give the child up for adoption since she did not want a child or believe in abortion. What do you thinkl?

Answer 1

It would depend on the woman's age, education, and income. If she is able to provide for the child properly on her own, then I see no reason why she couldn't do that. If I couldn't properly provide for it without child support, I would give the baby up for adoption rather than go through the process of going after the father for child support. So many times the father doesn't pay, you have to go through DNA testing, you have to take him to court, etc.... Yea, I know he deserves to be held responsible. But for me personally, I just wouldn't waste on my energy chasing down some deadbeat. And then have the court come in and say he is entitled to visitation, etc., for a child he never wanted. Baloney. I raise the child myself on my dime, or let someone else.

Answer 2

WOW... that's an awfully warped idea. If a man and a woman make a conscious decision to have sex with each other they go in knowing the possible consequences. I hate to call a child that, but in this case that is obviously how it seems to them.

Just because a woman ends up carrying the child doesn't mean it is only her responsibility. He had his 15 minutes of fun, he chose to do it, he obviously didn't protect himself well enough, so now he gets to be a daddy. If neither want the child I would say put it up for adoption. Infants will always get adopted because there are so many couples that want children.

That baby deserves a loving home. So if the TWO adults that conceived the baby can't grow up and accept responsibility, then find someone that will.

Answer 3

When two people have sex they make the unconscious decision of accepting responsibility for any thing that could result from the experience wether that be a baby or an STD. I think that the man has no say in wether or not she should keep the child and I also believe that even if he wants nothing to do with the child he should have to pay child support because like I said he made the decision to have sex and the only way to be 100% safe is to not do it. I believe however that even if he says that he doesnt want to be a part of the childs life and is paying child support if he changes his mind about the child he should be allowed to see it. If the mother deprives him of his fatherly rights then he should not have to pay child support.

Answer 4

You can feel all you want about what a woman should do once she is finds she is having a child from a man she barely knows. When it comes down to it, it is what the law says that will matter. If a man truly does not want a child then it is also his responsibility to practice all procautions against getting a woman pregnant. It takes two to tangle. Besides, I personally am tired of supporting children by having to pay taxes because of these dead beat dads. Risk it or zip it.

Answer 5

It only takes one time to become pregnant. How well you knew the women is not relevant. When you make the choice to be a sperm donor, you are responsible for supporting your child. It no longer matters whether you 'wanted' the baby. The time to make that choice may be gone once you have sex and in your case I'd say it's a done deal.
I don't think the women needs to even consider abortion just because you were looking to score.

Answer 6

Any two people of opposite gender who are fertile and have unprotected sex together run the risk of becoming parents...that's a basic fact of life that most 8 yr old kids already know. So I wouldn't let either parent off-the-hook quite as easily as you would! If a fertile adult doesn't want to become a parent, they should either remain celibate or take adequate contraceptive measures to prevent pregnancy. And if, as in the case you've outlined, the man doesn't want to become a father, then he should take primary responsibility for contraception...he's responsible for his own choices, and the consequences of those choices!

Answer 7

You are a piece of work..... I disagree with one thing you said in a big way.... the statement that she should raise him without child support.... first off yes it is stupid to get pregnant with someone you barely know but it happens.... it is the woman's choice to either abort, have it and put it up for adoption or keep it.... if the guy doesn't want her to keep it SO WHAT.... he is just trying to get out of paying for his mistakes.... YES he should pay child support if she keeps it.... if he doesn't want to be part of the child's life then that is on him but when you play you pay!

Answer 8

I think its wrong for the man to say that he doesn't want a child when I'm sure he is well aware of what can happen if he has unprotected sex. If neither believe in abortion then they need to work together to raise the child.

Answer 9

Well if you are talking about yourself, which it sounds like you are then, i think the guy shouldve thought about a condom or shouldve thought about not having sex with her cause if you are having sex then you must know what will happen. You are not a man if you can bluntly say you dont want anything to do with a child you created and unforutnately in today's society this happens too much. it dont matter how much or how little you has sex with a person or even for how long you knew them, you knew this kind of thing could happen, so just own up to the responsbility cause its not about how you feel about the female, it about the child, your feelings no longer matter

Answer 10

Sorry it takes two to tango and even if the man does not want the child he is still financially responsible regardless of how long they have known each other. He has no say in what she does with her body. If They did not want children then they should never have had unprotected sex. The woman is as much responsible in protection as the man is.