Do Men All Have Affairs?

Question

My husband has been a very nice person and good to me since the day we were married, but my mother has always warned me to still be prepared that a lot of men eventually cheats down the road when the wife looks old and then he looks for younger women. I’m sort of very Chinese, so I get influenced by parent’s opinion. It makes me not want to put in too much emotion/trust to our marriage when I should because my husband loves me. Do men normally cheat once the wife gets old or for whatever reason? Should I believe that there are men whom are loyal to their wives for the rest of their lives?

Answer 1

Yes you should believe it, because there are. I can think of several right off the top of my head. My father, who has been married to my mother for over 40 years. My father in law, who has been married to my mother in law for over 50 years. My husband, who has been married to me for almost 20 years. My brother in law, who has been married to my sister for just over 19 years, and my brother, who has been married to his wife for over 13 years. All of these men I know for sure have never once in their lives cheated on their wifes. I have several friends who have been married 20, 25 years who have never once considered cheating on their spouses.

Your mom obviously has had some previous experience, and has made a generalization about all men. In my experience, all men (or women) do nothing alike. That's why we're all individuals.

You should trust your husband. If you don't, that will start to cause problems in your marriage, which can lead to an affair. But it would have nothing to do with his wanting a younger woman. An affair is never the illness, it's the symptom of what's wrong in a marriage.

Answer 2

By not putting everything into it ( emotion & trust ) your more likely to push your husband to cheat Ive been married 9 years and the last 5 have kinda sucked and I still stay loyal to my wife !

Answer 3

I do not believe all men have affairs; there are some who would never think of doing so, just as there are women who would never think of it. You cannot predict the future or what it holds. I would not worry about something that 'could' happen; unless it does why be concerned. Many of the men I have know, who did cheat, did not do so because the wife got old, but because they were getting old and wished to validate their sex appeal; it was their own self-doubt. There is beauty at every age, but the main beauty is in the soul.

Answer 4

You should believe there are men loyal to their wives for the rest of their lives. I know of men that refused to cheat on a spouse even when they knew they were getting a divorce and would never speak to them again, they still waited until the divorce was final.

Your husband sounds like he might be one of these men. Don't get so comfortable that you end up being okay with your man being in tempting situations though, because over time if he gets tested a lot, it will be hard to stay in the loyal category.

Answer 5

they're many reasons merely like people who're given for a woman having an affair that are rather susceptible pathetic excuses rather. ask your self, might all and sundry decide to even have an affair in the event that they surely love their significant different, no they does no longer might they? because of the fact in the journey that your love and appreciate of the different is so useful then no longer something would desire to be waiting to weaken that. it is loss of love and appreciate for their significant different it is the clarification, different than that each thing else is merely an excuse or clarification for doing so. Why do no longer you basically blame it on a mid existence disaster, this is have been given to be the terrific shaggy dog tale of all and provides no genuine explaination for plenty youthful adult men or plenty older adult men doing the comparable ingredient.

Answer 6

Sure there are men who are loyal and never cheat.... Then again marriage is a 50/50 chance, either way, marriage is what you make it.
It's not all that you hear... It's experience, and that takes years of practice. It all boils down to trust, love is a major factor, but trust is the bond.

Answer 7

Yes, it's a law. Of nature. In fact, it's impossible for a man to die until he has had an affair. One guy I know is like 1000 years old...and that's a fact.

Men normally do a lot of things but a lot of men can and do resist cheating. Some guys seem slick and sleazy but are loyal to the end. And others are just what they seem: loyal picket fence soldiers who only believe in the existence of one real woman, and all other women just remind them how much they love their wife.

It's less than half as important as you're making it. He'll do something to disappoint you, that much I can guarantee. You pick yourself up and keep going. Life and love marches on, if you let it.

The question is: are you willing to risk the ultimate nightmare: a life of ever increasing joy and happiness? Do you have the courage to look your dreams square in the eye and say, "Yes!"

Answer 8

Do not doubt your husband's loyalty. I learned a lot from a man from sugarmommymeet.com. He is a handsome and successful man.He was loyalty. A younger girl fell in love with him,at the beginning he did not love the girl. But his wife could not bear it,the man was put to annoyance. This caused a bad result.

Answer 9

My wife and I were first for each other, and married now over 31 years. (no cheating on either side) Of course you can be loyal to each other for the rest of your lives, but it takes working on it together.

Answer 10

No. That is the simple answer. No, not all men cheat. I doubt that even most do. The majority of men are, I think, loyal and faithful.