my bf has been legally separated for quite a few yrs. and wants to become engaged to me before filing for divorce. Is this acceptable?!
2007-09-21 09:30:18 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
sure is just don't marry him until the final divorce decree is signed
2007-09-21 09:34:59 · answer #1 · answered by oh_jo123 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
No it's not acceptable...he is STILL married and will be until he receives a final decree of divorce. Basically he is cheating on his marriage right now. Frankly if he TRULY wanted to marry you he would have at least filed for divorce by now...since it's been "quite a few years" I wouldn't count on him EVER filing for divorce, and here in the U.S. you can't get married legally until he IS divorced.
2007-09-21 18:40:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO actually it is quite tacky and insulting! do not accept any ring until he actually divorces his wife.if he wanted a divorce he would have already gotten it.my brotherinlaw uses his wife as an excuse to not commit to the other women he cheats on his wife with.they have been living in different states for like 6 years.no kids but still no divorce sounds fishy to me!!!if he is serious he will file for a divorce and you will see the actual papers after they are filed if not dump him,he is separated for a reason maybe you should find out why!!! i wish i had!!! good luck.
2007-09-21 09:45:16 · answer #3 · answered by dixie58 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It isn't so much cowardice as just being passive. A person may not be fear speaking up about something. Instead he/she just doesn't want to deal with the hassle others may give since it is sometimes difficult to deal with extremists. A good example is Miss California Carrie Prejean when she was asked a question about gay marriage by Perez Hilton. She stated her belief that marriage is between a man and woman. Later on, Hilton ranted furiously on his site (or maybe youtube) about her. Yet, she did NOTHING wrong but gave an answer to a question which merely solicited her opinion.
2016-05-20 03:27:14 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I don't think so. Why can't he file for divorce before proposing to you? If he's been separated for this long, why drag it out any farther? That's not fair to you. It almost sounds to me like he is trying to put one over on somebody and have two wives. There is really no reason that he shouldn't just file for divorce and get it over with.
2007-09-21 10:38:54 · answer #5 · answered by meagain 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't see why not. As long as both of you are ok with it, what's the problem?
I was engaged to my second husband while still trying to get divorced from my first (he kinda disappeared, and I couldn't locate him for a year; by the time my divorce was final I had been legally separated for close to 3 years).
2007-09-21 09:43:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
To whom?
I mean, what's the point in being "engaged" when you're not legally allowed to get married?
I'd tell him (if you want to marry him) that you'd be happy to wear his ring once the divorce is final, but you'd feel weird wearing the engagement ring of a man who is legally married to another woman. I know I would.
2007-09-21 09:37:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion, NO, he needs to take care of business first, and perhaps that will spur him on to get the paperwork completed. Tell him you will be happy to accept a promise ring from him until the divorce is final, and then it will be acceptable to you to get engaged.
2007-09-21 09:34:29 · answer #8 · answered by reddevilbloodymary 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
ABSOLUTELY NOT!!!
He needs to finalize his divorce first. If you'd announce an engagement, people will think YOU ruined the marriage, whether you did or not.
Wait six months after the divorce is final..longer even, if you can.
2007-09-21 09:36:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
I don't think so. Why hasn't he filed for divorce? A new marriage shouldn't begin before an old one is officially over.
2007-09-21 09:35:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
wait until the divorce is final! If he isn't willing to file for divorce, is he being truthful or is he using you? He might be not really planning to divorce his wife.
Good luck and be careful!
2007-09-21 10:15:42 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋