My boyfriend and I are not broke up we just dont live together after living together for 8 years. Now all of a sudden his ex wife is starting to show back up in the picture because she is having problems with her husband that she cheated on my boyfriend with. I can not stand this woman. HOw can I deal with this mess? My boyfriend tells me that he loves me but for some reason I think he is lying. He is not working right now and I am paying his rent. I am not going to let him be with another woman that easy. How can I get the truth out of him? WHy is he afraid to tell me the truth about his ex wife coming around.
2007-09-21 09:13:24 · 12 answers · asked by Sunny 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You're paying his rent and he's free day and night?
No, darlin', I don't think that's gonna fly.
Let him know that next paycheck he will get half of what he's been getting and the paycheck after that nothing.
Do not let him move back in. He's going to move in with her or have her move in with him.
You see, he can't live independently.
So, you're out now. Stay out. Give him half and then none. and then move on.
Let him be her dependent. Make it easy, and you'll laugh all the way to the bank next month.
2007-09-21 11:33:10 · answer #1 · answered by Puresnow 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's easy for others to say "don't pay his rent"..maybe there is a history of him helping you when you where down or something. Cut to the chase: As a man, the answer is simple. If' he's not working, then his time is idle. Ask yourself what is the real reason you two chose to stop living together. if it's for anything other than giving each other personal space for a moment 'til marriage, then it's not cool. You two need to spend ALL of your quality time together, or I fear that if you don't have keys to his apartment with the understanding that you can show up "anytime", then you are letting yourself in for a big surprise when you find his ex and he are sleeping together. Most women go back to sleeping w/men because of familiarity or convenience. That is maybe why she is "back in the pic"..If you love him...let him know that it is not tolerated
2007-09-21 16:32:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why would he tell you the truth when he's got a free meal-ticket right now? Honey, find out on your own. Watch for a while, get a gf to tail him or something. You'll find out.
But I think in your heart you already know.
Better to find out NOW than after marriage and kids when it gets even messier.
Do what is right for you. You don't need this.
2007-09-21 16:42:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first off all stop paying his rent,he knows he has got it good,tell him to get a job to pay his own rent,,you have to tell him how you are feeling about his ex wife,and the thoughts that are going through your head,if you think he is lying,there must be a good reason,and why after 8 years off living together,you suddenly arent,,i think you know yourself what is going on,,think off yourself,if he doesnt say why his ex is coming to his,its obvious really,,,do yourself a big favour,give him the chance too explain things too you,if he wont or you think he is still lying,,its time for you too move on,i know 8 years is alot off your life but think off yourself,and yourself only,good luck to you honsss xxx
2007-09-21 16:29:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
As long as you allow yourself to be a door mat expect people to walk all over you. So now your boyfriend is sleeping with his ex-wife on your dime. My only suggestion for you is to get a clue, get some self-esteem, and stop paying a grown man's rent for him. He is not going to have the gonads to tell you he is sleeping with his ex-wife if he wants you to continue paying his rent.
(DUHHH!) You can not be that naive.
2007-09-21 16:25:37 · answer #5 · answered by ricepat2000 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Grow some bahoughies girl! You don't pay his rent! You don't put up with lies! Head elsewhere and leave this non-man in the dust.
I can't believe any man would lack self-respect enough to let a female pay his rent!
2007-09-21 16:24:17 · answer #6 · answered by Rebecca W 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he's lying about something - why is he so worth it to you to need the truth so badly? Anyone who has to "fight" to keep somebody is setting themselves up for disappointment. You're not broken up you say, but you're now living apart and he may be taking it upon himself to "have a little fun with the ex" or he may not. What concerns me is that even though you have suspicions, ones that may turn out to be true, you're willing to put up with it and fight for someone who obviously may not be honest and true to you. Think about it, and best of luck.
2007-09-21 16:26:07 · answer #7 · answered by Starry Eyes 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off why isn't he working??? Secondly why why why would he want to talk to women who cheated on him??? Sorry somethings not right put the pieces together, you don't live together anymore, he doesn't work and hes talking to his ex again.. seems simple to me.
Trust yourself very rarely is a women's intuition wrong..
2007-09-21 16:22:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
How much rent to you pay for that trailer park each month
2007-09-21 16:19:25 · answer #9 · answered by Ron K 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe you should stop paying homeboy's rent...that maybe the reason he is keeping you around.
2007-09-21 16:18:18 · answer #10 · answered by *bAdHaBiT* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋