care that my ex husband is missing( or should I say jumped parole). He spent 7 years in prison and has never spent a dime on my son or hasn't seen my son in 6 years, my son is 10! I found out he is missing because I was really pushing the child support thing and the child support officed called his parole office, his parole officer told us that he has been missing for 3 months and when they find him. He is going back to prison. I truly dislike the jerk he was a horrible husband , he beat me and did drugs& drank all the time. He wouldn't keep a job. The best thing I ever did was leaving him! I have been calling people actually his grandmother I am close with to see if anybody has heard from him. I'm real close with his grandmother she would tell me the truth about them seeing him. Should I care that they are looking for him or should I mind my own business and not tell the police where he is if I find out where he is?Or do you understand why I care?
2007-09-21 08:32:54 · 7 answers · asked by lisababyg ♥ 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It is not that I care what happens to him or what is has been doing. I hate the fact I don't know where he is and I don't want him anywhere near me or my son. I have a nice life now . I am married to a great guy who loves me and my son. Should I give up and let him be?
2007-09-21 08:35:21 · update #1
I have full custody of my son, he doesn't have any rights. He went to jail on a drug charge not because of me. He is really a scarey peron. I was giving him one last chance to pay child support. I really don't want the money from him.
2007-09-21 09:03:33 · update #2
hell yeah u should care!!!!
what if he tires to kidnap ur son??!! men like this are to be prepared for, warn ur kid avout not talking to him, scream if he sees him, etc.
girl, pre-caution is not over rated!
luck to ya, and be careful!
2007-09-21 08:42:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Butt out, you need to know what or where he is. like you need the plague. You know he's going back to jail and that you probably will never get a cent out of him for child support. Filing the papers is fine, but let the courts handle it from there. Staying in touch with the grandmother for the sake of your little boy is one thing, asking about the ex is not good. Just tell the grandmother if she hears from him to try and get him to turn himself in, but stay out of it. You should even ask her not to tell him that she hears from you, he may decide to come looking for you. DO YOU WANT THAT? He knows he's going back and may decide he'd like to see the two of you. Many is the ex that has killed the ex, the kid and the new husband with a record like your ex has and then taken his own life. You can bet he's back on drinking and on drugs again. You know what he used to be like, now think about what seven years of prison has done. If he had straightened out his life he wouldn't have disappeared again. Your asking for trouble and if the cops do ask and you do know don't give your self the heartache of not telling them. You could be charged with aiding and abetting a felon you could lose custody of your son, ruin your marriage and believe me there isn't a person on this planet worth all that. I'll keep good thoughts for you and hope everything works out okay.
2007-09-21 16:05:49 · answer #2 · answered by WACVET75 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
On one hand mind your own business but on the other if you were part of the reason he went to jail, Id be very concerned of his whereabouts due to possible revenge on his part. At this point in time he has nothing to lose so getting back at you or at you thru your son would give him some satisfaction. So Id be very concerned where he is and what he is up to because of that alone. Hes already proven hes a loser so theres no telling what hes capable of doing so if you get wind of his whereabouts Id let the authorities know real quick
2007-09-21 15:56:57 · answer #3 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you have a great man now and he has been taking care of you and your son then why would you want child support or to even let your son have visitation with this man?
2007-09-21 15:45:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
After reading all this, including your details which confused the matter even more, I'm not even sure YOU know what your actual question is.
2007-09-21 15:43:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Yes, mind your own business. Pray for him.
2007-09-21 15:41:15 · answer #6 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Turn him in
2007-09-21 15:52:14 · answer #7 · answered by Older Guy 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋