i have been with my "fiance" for 4 years now.. and i love him (of course) jus that its getting boring now. I believe b/c there is no money to be SPENDING. I am a student and he works but for NEEDS...HELP? im sure there are things to do out there to spark this up again... i just dont know what i live in a boring, expensive place. lol... i dont want this to "die". For those you want to help THANKS really appreciate it.. those that just want to be smart a$$es go do something better with your time. (jeez ive learn ppl can be very rude on here).
2007-09-21 08:32:01 · 11 answers · asked by ♥ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We are happy. And we are always cuddling and laughing but i just hate coming home from school and him from work... and he watches t.v.... i do the same or on the comp. etc etc and then its time to go to sleep! i want it to be like the OLD days we would do nothing and have a blast!
2007-09-21 09:08:18 · update #1
I know what it's like to be young and just squeezing by. Both of you have to work at this, not just you. Unfortunately, men become so complacent and boring doesn't bother them as much. Make your sacrifices while you are young, like you are doing. You won't be in school forever and when you get a job things will be better. Be happy you are at least together and working for something better. Try taking walks, cuddling in the evening for a half hour before you hit the books, put a little love note in his lunch if he takes lunch or stick it somewhere he'll find it the next day, once in a while blow the budget and go to dinner and a movie, lay outside on a blanket and look at the stars, take a picnic to the lake on the weekend. There are all sorts of things you can do for each other, backrubs, foot rubs, play music at home and dance. Be creative and don't either of you stop making each other feel special as often as you can.
2007-09-21 08:43:45 · answer #1 · answered by gma 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are so many things that you can do that don't cost money! Dancing in the moonlight doesn't cost anything. Taknig a walk and holding hands is free. Going to the local art fairs and music events is generally very cheap and quite fun.
Some my love and I do---go to used bookstores and search for treasures--I found an original Gor book that had never been cracked open for 75 cents!
2007-09-21 08:46:16 · answer #2 · answered by Rebecca W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't need money to be SPENDING to not be bored.....boring people are bored- so fix yourself. You are obvioulsy boring.
Me and my man have the biggest blasts spending little or no money at all and we both make good money....he makes great money and I do allright in my own right, nice home, cars, but you know what? Money doesn't buy happiness.......
2007-09-21 08:42:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not to break your heart but guess what happens after you get married and you let yourselves get comfortable in a routine(you live long old boring lives). The only way to break this is to do exactly that, be SPONTANEOUS!! Don't let each other get settled!! SPICE it all up!
2007-09-21 09:15:18 · answer #4 · answered by Gena 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
try to go out on w free night and spice things up a littel bit instead of the same old thing.... go on a picnic or to a park and lay under the stars
2007-09-21 08:47:37 · answer #5 · answered by oh_jo123 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for walks at night , cook together, picknick, ( this is stuff that really doesn't need money to spend, just a little imagination and heart)
2007-09-21 08:41:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your's turning into a routine too? Mine too! I don't know what can be done but I sure as h*** want to find out. You guys are going to have to find things to do that are very inexpensive or free ... that's what I am trying to do for us.
2007-09-21 08:38:38 · answer #7 · answered by Hoping he will bless me with #1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You ought to move out and not go back until he marries you. That ought to spice it up. Put challenge in the mix. He is disrespecting you, have some respect for yourself and make him marry you.
2007-09-21 08:39:33 · answer #8 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WELL YOU TWO ARE PROBABLY JUST TRYING TO GET BY, WHEN YOU HAVE NO MONEY TO DO EXTRA THINGS LIFE DOES SEEM TO BE ONE BIG ROUTINE. BUT IF YOU LOVE EACH OTHER YOU ARE GONNA BE JUST FINE,CUZ MARRIAGE IS SO DIFFERENT. BUT IT TAKES YOU BOTH TO KEEP THE FLAME BURNING FOR EACH OTHER...
2007-09-21 09:01:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
take a vacation..get out of town with each other and leave all computers and so on behind so you can have quality time while you are together.
2007-09-21 08:37:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋