Me and my ex have been on and off for 4 years, a rollercoaster iv only just got off and finding it hard.. I know many people get addicted to drama but enough is enough now for my 2 year old daughters sake and mine! He cheated on me 3 times (once when i was in hospital) and came running back to me everytime.. and emotionally blackmailed me every time with suicide threats etc.. if I didn't have him back! This time I told him to go and is with another woman straight away how can someone be so cruel to someone they are supposed to be so in love with and go onto another partner straight away? Do you think he's sufferin deep inside for what he's done to me and our daughter in the past? He's now with a drug addict and on drugs himself and iv seen him around acting so happy it makes me sick after what he's done.. like he has no care! And im the one suffering when I shouldn't be.. HELP me figure out these strange minds of some people .. lol x
2007-09-21 08:24:56 · 15 answers · asked by xxkatiexxx 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Even if he cares a lot, this doesn't mean this "a lot" is enough to TRULY cares for you.
He likes you for being so stable, and he probably needs this stability. But if romatics and sex with randoms take a bigger part in his heart then you do, then you should stay strong and show that you don't care either.
My dear, aren't you already sick of all this happening to you and your daughter. Show him you don't want it anymore. Kick him out of your house, out of your heart, out of your friends list. Start a new life.
You can do it, i know, you can. If you had the strength to go through 4 years of this stuff, you'll have enough power to get over him.
As a next step i would sujjest finding a new partner, but not that fast, cause yor heart needs to be ready. When you get completely non-caring anytime you see him, or hear about\from him - that means you're over him, he's nothing now.
And come on, this is your life! Don't let him screw it up!!!
Good luck!!! bEST OF LUCK!!!
2007-09-21 08:45:38 · answer #1 · answered by Sweet_summer_breeze 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problem as you but unfortuatley worse. the only way he is suffering is because he got caught. He didnt care about you when he was cheating he only cared he was caught. If he cared he wouldnt have done it over and over. Let me tell you 3 times you know about how many you dont? Mine went as far as make a baby outside our marriage oh he was sorry so sorry he cheating twice more. Take your baby sweetheart and run for the hills like im doing. Have faith you will need it
2007-09-21 08:55:30 · answer #2 · answered by charmed? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is going down hill by dating a drug addict and getting into drugs himself. It maybe one way to get away from the pain in his mind, body and soul. You have the better end of the stick you got this man out of you life and a way from your kids a man who is no longer a role model. He cheated and is on drugs sweet heart he is living a painful life. I only hope he gets his life back on track and take care of his kids because no one wants a drug addict dad.
The best of Luck and sorry to hear about your situation. Keep doing what your doing A++ Mommy. You have a good head on your shoulder to get him out of your life b/c he would have taking you down with him..
2007-09-21 08:34:46 · answer #3 · answered by gia00601 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that sometimes people are just ready to move on. Im sure he is hurting just as much as you are, but generally people want to show that it doesnt bother them because that is their way of protecting themselves. I would say that this new woman is just a rebound, someone he has found to attempt to replace you. It sounds like he just needs to figure out what he wants. It wil take time to let go of all the things he has done, but dont let it affect your future relationships because there are men out there who know what they want and will treat you well. Someties you just have to get out of your comfort zone and take the chance to find them. Best of luck!
2007-09-21 08:35:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would not say 'ex'. i think of you as a rule manage it to a pair degree, yet discover ways to administration it as time is going on. i've got had rigidity for 2 a protracted time and through clinical care and occassional drugs, have found out to deal exceedingly plenty with it maximum situations, and comprehend whilst to ask for drugs if i wade through a time that i will't. workout regularily is a huge advance and facilitates plenty.
2016-10-19 08:05:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hes not hurting. The drugs are taking care any pain he might feel but honestly I think hes to selfish to feel guilty or care for someone else other then himself. He sounds like a jerk and you would be better off with out him. It takes two for a relationship to work and yours sounds one sided.
2007-09-21 08:50:35 · answer #6 · answered by Connie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, he's not suffering at all. Your problem is that you keep convincing yourself that this guy actually loves you. That's crazy and distorted thinking. He doesn't love you a bit. He doesn't even care about you. What part of his actions make you believe these lies?
2007-09-21 13:12:00 · answer #7 · answered by Sondra 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is not hurting for it and possibly never will. This is how it is for a cold blooded snake. You have to be strong and know that not being with him is best for you and your child and do the best you can. Hopefully in some shape or form...he will get whats coming to him.
2007-09-21 08:30:39 · answer #8 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why are you bothering yourself. if he suffered for what he's done to you in the past, it's his "karma". don't you think you had enough hurt and pain when he cheated on you? go and move on with your life for the sake of your daughter.
2007-09-21 08:33:09 · answer #9 · answered by amira 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Men tend to mess beautiful things up by thinking with the wrong head.
2007-09-21 08:38:49 · answer #10 · answered by Txgirl23 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋