Sometimes, youll say something and they dont listen.You wait, and bring it up again. After a long time, thats it. And then theyll get mad that we did not remind them again and again, but if you do remeind them again and again, you would be nagging. I would admit i nagged but because i was fed-up already of his " i forgot"', " do/did i need to do that", and other excuses.Despite this, you love the guy thats why youre reminding him somethings, otherwise, you wouldnt care.
2007-09-21 08:23:24 · 10 answers · asked by BubblegumFighter 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
may be you should also consider how you communicate with your husband.. The tone of voice and the choice of words are very important.. When one has had a difficult day, a few kind, sympathetic words from one's partner can do much good..
If you do believe in the Bible, let me share some verses:
"Let your utterance be always with graciousness, seasoned with salt." -Colossians 4:6 (Instead of saying "Shut up your mouth and listen to me", you can say in a more loving manner, "would you kindly listen to me, please?"
"An answer, when mild, turns away rage." Proverbs 15:1
But communication is a two-way process.. Your husband has to learn also to practice good communication by being gentle and wise in the choice of words, open and willing to listen to you because by doing these, it shows you have love and respect for one another.
Good luck and pray for whatever that's bothering your relationship. God hears! God answers!
2007-09-21 15:16:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello!
He could have a hearing problem? You know, being a guy, I know I do the same things with my wife! Now, my situation may be a little different because I have AD\HD and sometimes it is misleading because do not always find it easy to focus like I want to. Let him know that you feel like he is not paying attention to you when you are talking. Make him repeat back what you had just told him!
Hope things work out for you both!
2007-09-21 09:06:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
guys that are secure and in touch with whats going on around them and aren't into head games do communicate very well. mostly the self absorbed, self centered, less mature guys are the ones who do not communicate very well, which can be a drag when you love them, but you can't help who you fall in love with...stupid is is stupid does and some guys are just not good at communicating feelings or thoughts, sorry.
2007-09-21 08:36:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Suggestion--get a dry erase board and write the stuff down that is actually important!
I run my entire family on method--one board for my love and I, one for the teens and one for the younger kids. Also one for schedules i.e. Thurs choir pick up, Fri Spell Bowl etc.....
2007-09-21 08:32:23 · answer #4 · answered by Rebecca W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you just have to get on their leval - and find a way to get him to understand - i havent found one yet with mine - im basically in control of makeing sure everything gets paid ( it may be his money but its my responsibility ) washing clothes - all that - sometimes ill send him a text or take his phone and set a message alarm to go off to remind him that way its peramnently there and i dont have to nag - if he misses it its his fault - i told you , messaged you , and lefft a note in your phone that went off the day ebfore the bill was due -
2007-09-21 08:30:25 · answer #5 · answered by imissmahboo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Funny, men make the same complaint about women.
2007-09-21 08:30:12 · answer #6 · answered by Grandpa S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because men speak plain English.
What were you speaking to him? Hints? Innuendo?
2007-09-21 08:39:58 · answer #7 · answered by gromit801 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Reading that, it makes me wonder if *you* know how to communicate! :-)
Seriously, there is no right and wrong here. She says "he never talks". He says "she never shuts up". Who's right?
Acceptance is the key.
2007-09-21 08:27:46 · answer #8 · answered by AngiesHusband 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
anything that is too much is always bad...
and if you made it to his limit point, the following words you are about to say would be like "blah blah blah blah" to him... trust me, i know...
2007-09-21 16:58:09 · answer #9 · answered by raf 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, this explains why he filed for divorce and you cannot understand why.
2007-09-21 08:28:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋