Well Im married, 19 (20 in june) my hub is about to be 23. And he wants kids, and Im more on the wait a couple years thing
BUT
noticing how hard it can be to have a baby I wonder if I should get on birthcontrol
Or should i stay off it and if we happen to get pregnant then okay?
We've been married 9 months, only seen each other about 3months of that time, hes in Iraq now until February.As for the sex life and chances of getting pregnant, he rarely does the deed in me, more of a skin man i guess. sorry if thats too graphic but in about te 9 months married and on birthcontrol he did about 5 times. So its not that often and yes i know pre sperm could get me prego.
So should i get on birthcontrol and not chance it really at all ?
Or since it can be so hard to get pregnant should i stay off and just take the chance and be happy if it happens?
2007-09-21 07:27:58 · 18 answers · asked by corrick_1 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
It was never difficult for me to get pregnant. I know it is for some people, but that's not really something you can assume. Just because you know people who are trying for a year doesn't mean you won't get pregnant easily. If you aren't ready to have a baby right away, I would use birth control. If your husband is in Iraq, it might be a good idea to wait until he's back home. If not, you would basically be a single mom. I don't think that would be that great of an idea, especially since you said he really wanted kids now and you kind of wanted to wait.
2007-09-21 07:36:13 · answer #1 · answered by kat 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm 20 and living with my bf (he's 22) unmarried for 3 yrs. and children are out of the question for us. I think it's better to have a stable home life before introducing another one into yours. You guys are still getting to know each other as people, getting used to living together and It would be best to get on birth control until you know for sure your marriage will last. No offense to either one of you but it is a BIG life change and you don't want to just jump into a commitment for life like that. Heck in two years you may decide kids aren't for you, then what? Good Luck and hope I helped.
Also think of the cost to you and your husband not just money wise, kids require constant attention, love and nurturing. This is another human being needing food, clothes, doctor's visits, and much more if this sounds like fun go for it if not wait for a bit.
2007-09-21 07:46:24 · answer #2 · answered by twiggysrevenge 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should be fine to be on BC and wait to get pregnent. There is no evidence that it will be hard for you to become pregnant after being on the pill, or that you will have any trouble in general. Some women it does take a few months to re-adjust the cycle, but you could also get preg the first try. So, if you're not ready, enjoy life and take precautions until you are. You are so young you have PLENTY of time! best.
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2015-01-29 13:20:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could use the Cap form of birth control. It's not unknown for people to become pregnant using this, but it might buy you a little time if you think that you're not quite ready yet.
Remember that once you hit 30 your fertility starts to decline, so don't leave it too late.
2007-09-21 07:35:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stay off the BC, it can make it even more difficult to conceive when you're ready. Let things happen as they're supposed to...I'm 19 and had my daughter in June. It's the best thing that's ever happened to me! So yes, just go with the flow!
2007-09-21 07:35:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's completely up to you. If you're not ready for a baby, then get on birth control. But if you don't care either way, then don't. It's all your decision if you want kids or not right now. Good Luck!
2007-09-21 08:01:46 · answer #7 · answered by Tisha 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree w/ chris, wait until you are both ready....and if he is in iraq then you will do the whole thing alone, if he wants kids he would want to be around to share in the experience with you. I would wait untill he is home, but you have to do what is best for you and your situation....good luck.
2007-09-21 07:35:47 · answer #8 · answered by sweetiepi 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
ONLY YOU CAN ANSWER THE BIG QUESTION! AS FOR IT BEING HARD TO GET PREGNANT, WELL THAT DEPENDS ON THE PERSON, MY ADVICE! SPLIT THE DIFFERENCE AND WAIT ONE YEAR, THAT WAY YOU GUYS CAN HAVE SOME MUCH NEEDED TIME FOR YOU!!AFTER THIS SEPARATION YOU WILL NEED IT. AFTER ABOUT 6 MONTHS WHEN HE RETURNS , GO OFF THE PILL, AND HAVE FUN TRYING!!! BEST WISHES!! HOPE THE REMAINING TIME GOES FAST!!!!
2007-09-21 07:38:34 · answer #9 · answered by mother of 4! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are not really ready to have a baby then you need to have a serious talk with your husband and tell him how you feel...don't just "chance" it! Having a baby takes a lot of time, energy, and love and you both need to be ready...
2007-09-21 07:34:04 · answer #10 · answered by blondie 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋