I am a medical student.And a retired anatomy professor is a friend of the family.She wants me to go to her house so she could tutor me in anatomy and I went to her for a few months and I didn't like her and didn't understand anything from her.And I told my parents and they told me if you think so then don't go.The problem is I don't know what to tell her.I can't just tell her that I don't understand anything from her.I didn't go last time and she phoned me and asked me why I didn't come and I told her I was tired.I know she is gonna call me today(that's when I was supposed to meet her) and ask me why I didn't come.What should I do?
2007-09-21 07:23:20 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Education & Reference ➔ Higher Education (University +)
In any situation, honesty is the best avenue to take. Just tell her that you are simply not on the same wave length as she is and for some reason you just cannot grasp the points she is trying to get across to help you in so you feel for both your sakes, it would be a better avenue to go if you stuck with the teachers that you are currently being trained by in college. There is nothing wrong with that. Even in grade and high school didn't you have teachers that you could understand just like that and other ones that you didn't seem to learn a thing from? We all have our connection place in our brains and sometimes those connections work with certain learning situations and sometimes they don't. When I was in high school, I aced every class in my sophomore year except Geometry. For some reason I just couldn't get that class with the teacher I had. I requested a change of teachers since I was struggling so much and I went from below average to A's in less than a month. It was the difference in the way it was presented to me by the teacher that allowed my brain to grasp it. There is nothing wrong with that. They have discovered there are 3 typed of learning abilities and now they test kids to see which one they actually learn better with since every child learns differently. Just thank her for her efforts and put the blame on your brain and not on her teaching ability and it will be just fine.
2007-09-21 08:00:19 · answer #1 · answered by 'Sunnyside Up' 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do is own up to it: Tell her point blank that you do not understand her, and that you think you should probably find a different tutor since you clearly do not run on the same wavelength. It's the polite thing to do.
If the lack of communication is just because you aren't studying hard enough, i.e. you don't know enough, perhaps you should re-evaluate your own study skills and improve them.
2007-09-21 14:32:01 · answer #2 · answered by Wiklet 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe u could tell her that u need to concentrate on other subs now and would not rather study anatomy till some time.
When u dont show any interest later, she may get the hint.
2007-09-21 14:35:43 · answer #3 · answered by S H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to work in medicine, get used to giving people bad news. Simply tell her that you appreciate the help, but you don't think your learning style's compatible with her teaching and you're going to seek out someone who's a better match for you.
2007-09-21 14:31:03 · answer #4 · answered by MM 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her the truth and be straight forward with her about what you said here.
whats happens and how she reacts is how it is.
2007-09-21 14:32:02 · answer #5 · answered by hot_hermione 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋