4 months ago I got off of birth conrol. About 2 months ago I had an ectopic pregnancy. I still have not gotten my period and started having the same pains I was having when I found out I was pregnant the first time. Out of impulse I took a pregnancy test...it came out positive. Honestly, whether this test is accurate or not (I will be seeing my gyno next week to make certain), I am unsure how to feel right now. I am 29 years old, in an unhealthy relationship, working a full-time corporate design job and am very confused as to what to do. I do not have family around me and my good friends are scattered around the country.
In my heart I want a baby, in my head I do not. I do not want an abortion and am skeptical about adoption. What would you do in my situation?
FYI: I have about 2K in necessary bills a month...including student and car loans.
2007-09-21 07:19:04 · 7 answers · asked by no 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
2 things:
a. the "relationship" I have is ending. He is leaving at the end of the month...so there will not be anymore unhealthy relations with him.
b. I got off birth control b.c. I was not getting my period w. it My gyno told me I should get off of it to regulate my period, either that or change the brand.
2007-09-21 07:37:26 · update #1
My other half has a 9 year old son who lives w. his mother. When he found out I was pregnant the first time he was (as I was) surprised. I was told about 10 yrs. ago I could not have children due to an accident and surgery...so yes it was a surprise!
2007-09-21 07:40:22 · update #2
as an ob nurse, for 20 years, you are certainly not the first to feel the way you do or this has happen to. first see your gyn. and if you are indeed preg. and not with a etopic preg . ,and say you want a baby in your heart then, i think you wont be satisfied with anything less then a baby of your own., an im fairly certain the way you discuss your situation, you would make a good mother cause,you think things through . as for having people around you, we can have as many as we want but, when it comes to being a mom , it's most of the time a solo flight!so try not to talk yourself out of something you want in your heart. i've seen to many regret it for the rest of their lives. you seem like the type to be able to handle most anything so go for it.at least you will have your own family there with you even if it's just one! babies are beautiful you will be in my prayers. and you know if you get any pain in your side to go to the er stat!
2007-09-21 07:49:45 · answer #1 · answered by bonnie 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your not prepared for motherhood stop having unprotected sex. Why did you stop taking the birth control? For being 29 you are really leading an unresponsible life, maybe not with your finances but with your health you are. Ditch the loser first off no realationship is better than an unhealthy one. Be fair to yourself give yourself the chance to find someone good for you. As for the baby noone can tell you what to do,it's your choice. If you want to keep it God will help you find away through it, it you terminate it God will forgive you if you put it up for adoption you'll be blessing someone who without your help couldn't ever have a child, but would you be able to do that it's different to talk about it. Once you feel that baby move and kick inside of you, well it's unexplainable. Good Luck in your decision.
2007-09-21 07:28:44 · answer #2 · answered by Desiree 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it sounds wierd but your heart will tell you what to do. Babies are wonderful little miracles from up above. They will either make your life wonderful with their presents, or make it hell. Depending on your thought of children. But if you got off your birth control it sounds like you eventually wanted to get preg. How did your other half react towards the first pregnancy? Normally eptopic pregnancies or miscarriages will eventually bring a couple closer.....after the separation from it happening. You have been through a very hard time. And emotions/hormones are going crazy. Get your test done with your doc. If you are preg. there are plenty of single moms out there if you dont stay with your other half. But if you do....maybe it will change his outlook at you "the mother of his child" But if you decide to adopt out there are families that want you as a part of the childs life so you arent left out. Even if you work like crazy theres always time for kids. I wish you the best of luck in your decisions to come!
2007-09-21 07:36:27 · answer #3 · answered by pixiepalace04 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry but you better start thinking with your head.. Why would you be not using any birth control in an unhealthy relationship?? Or even be in one for that matter? Hope this is a false alarm and then get your act together before you have more than yourself to worry about...
2007-09-21 07:27:26 · answer #4 · answered by Joanie 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just wait for the test from your doctor. If you are pregnant, do not get an abortion. Talk to your boyfriend and see if you can work things out. If not, maybe you should move closer to your family, so you can have some support. God bless...
2007-09-21 07:28:19 · answer #5 · answered by BeachGirl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i would wait for the test then if you are pg, do some soul searching, no one can tell you what to do, its your body and your choice. if you are pg and keep the baby, please don't stay in your unhealthy relationship for the baby's sake! it oftentimes is worse for the children of bad marriages then for children who have a great mom raising them alone. find support in your community, mommy and me classes etc. network with other women in the same situation, sometimes they are the best support
2007-09-25 19:24:26 · answer #6 · answered by myself1230 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my advice is to see if the test is accurate first and go from there, start with talking to you significant other weather the relationship in unhealthy or not. you'll figure it out.
good luck
2007-09-21 07:24:23 · answer #7 · answered by puppy love 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋