grandchild sex problem part 2?

Question

my grandson who is 16 i found dirty books in his closet.
I burnt them in the burning barol.
i also had the keys to his car taken way for 2 months.
I also made him break up with his girlfriend.
because i belive they may be haven sex.
I drove to her house and told her mother about it all.
I also found out that my grandson had lied to me
he told me he was staying at his friend wesleys house.
Come to find out he had been staying the night at the girl and mothers house.
I cant belive that a woman would let two young children
a boy age 16 and a girl age 17 sleep uner the same roof.
I told her she has built herself a whore house and god will punish her in the end.
Her mother acted like an ediot and cried and told me to leave.
I guess she isnt a good mother like i thought she was.
My question is im thinking about going to the police
and pressing charges on the girl for having sex with my grandson
Can i press charges on her??

Answer 1

Your grandson is really hot. We've been having sex in the bathroom at school for months. He wasn't lying about staying at Wesley's house. That's where your grandson really gives it to me good. I guess we might as well come clean with you. I'm pregnant with your grandson's baby. We were thinking about naming it after you.

Answer 2

First off.. NO you can not press charges against her. They are of equal age and it was full consent (whatever the have/ or haven't done sexually)

After looking at the answer you picked as BEST in your first question to this situation.
(and 19 others felt was a poor thumbs down answer).
It seems obvious you do not want to know if you are handling the situation well or not – You only want answers that support your actions and beliefs.

The more you preach to a 16 year old and tell them they are a hell bound sinner – the more it will turn them away from God and from you. The more you forbid a 16 year old from doing certain things, or give them unrealistic punishments – the more they will hide things from you (or lie to you, as he has done).
Not that you’ll listen to me, not that you’ll believe me. – But some of his interest and experimentation in sex in part of life and is natural.

If you want your grandson to look you in the face, smile and lie to you—continue to act as you are.
You are blowing this up beyond proportions.
Concern is good. As is approaching him (and his mother or father.. where ever the heck they may be) and talking to him logically.
Burning him at the stake, as you seem intent to do, is ridiculous.

Sorry this is not what you want to hear.
I’m sure you will vote for someone that mirrors your feelings.- All you are looking for is someone that tells you what you are doing it right. Guess what – It’s not.

Answer 3

Good Lord, just because he has "dirty books" as you call them in his closet doesn't mean he's evil! He's a normal young man at 16 and perhaps what you need to do is allow him to grow up and live a healthy life and also have a healthy attitude towards sex, something that you appear not to have. Just because he stayed there doesn't mean he stayed in the same bed with his girlfriend and if I were the girl's mother, I would have charged you for trespassing. I would have told you to leave as well and my kids are all healthy, normal and have never been in trouble. This is 2007 and not 1907. Give this kid a break before he starts to resent you and you lose him.

Answer 4

Unless the girl is a legal adult in your state, no charges. As far as the books, this is something people deem as 'normal'. He needs to know that the stuff he sees in porn is not 'real', and extremely hard to live up to by both sexes. I would find appropriate books on Amazon to help him mentally get through puberty. Sex is not something 'dirty'...but he is too young to be putting it to the test, I agree. The other mom definitely has some issues. There's no way my daughter's bf would EVER EVER EVER stay overnight, or be unsupervised. The discipline you already doled out seems appropriate enough. Perhaps getting him involved in something (Sports,groups,church) would better help occupy his time. You remember being that age? I do not envy teenagers one bit.

Answer 5

You would be out of your mind to even think about pressing charges. Where is the crime? Most young men lose their virginity at about 15-16 years of age. I feel you were way too harsh with him. You need to wake up to reality, you say they MIGHT have had sex, your grandson lied to you because he can't talk straight with you. Live in the real world, it's 2007 no one waits for marriage to have sex anymore, it's part of life. i am 54 and when my son turned 15 I knew he would be trying to have sex, so I let him know that I bought condoms that were to be used in an emergency because I knew this was reality, and I was right. You can't stop that which comes naturally to people.

Answer 6

Can you press charges? NO! However, if you believe that an adult is contributing to the sexual delinquency of a minor, you can make a complaint through child services division at your county. They will investigate! You may be called in as a witness.

I think your punishment was incorrect. Teen boys are all pre-occupied with sex. You made the magazines disappear and that was fine but to punish him for doing what comes natural was a little excessive. All you have done is create an environment of secrecy.... he will now be sneekier than before. You have accomplished nothing. It sounds to me like you are a Holy Roller that uses the Bible as a guideline for behavior. Which is fine for yourself, but to force it on someone else will only make them more resistant.

Answer 7

You are being over protective and over anxious...You sound like you just landed from an alien planet and know nothing about what is going on here. Haven't you stared at girls curves when you were his age? Wake up and try to understand whats happening around you. And i think its you who should be sewed for barging into someones house and calling her under aged daughter a whore.

Answer 8

I dont think of hes not interrested in you, yet generally whilst men give up, is probably he's cheating on you? i comprehend thats an extremely stressful element of communicate approximately, butusually if the guy doesnt prefer intercourse, he's cheating and feels accountable so he doesnt wanna do it. Thats my concept, or perhaps hes in basic terms not in the temper. whether, optimistically this isnt the case yet, perhaps he has a ailment? Like STD's or herpes? you ought to consult with him approximately it .

Answer 9

I think you should be more concern about the girl's mother and your grandson. She might be doing something with him. Afterall, the mother did let him stay in her house with her girl. She's upset and defensive, she's up to something. Maybe she did something with your 16 year old grandson.

Answer 10

Nope he was a minor as well. Unless he says that she raped him. But I agree that so called "Mother" should have never let your grandson stay there.