now i always hear that the amount of money a guy makes does not mean anything to a female, as long as he is confident in what he does. okay that "sounds" good but keep it real with a brotha. if two guys both equally attractive in all fields ,so no outside source would hender you desicion, but one was working as a Garbage Handler and the other was a Credit Retention Agent; who has the upper hand with you and why? Details ladies, Details please....
2007-09-21 05:34:40 · 20 answers · asked by Audamar 3 in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
okay i don't know if they tell the time i'm writing this but its about 30 mins after my initial question. pretty good answers but 90% was bull ****. " it doesn't matter if you have money"? thats not what i meant. broke people need not apply...lol. i was pertaining to guys who don't make as much to "compete" wit the "Ballers". now alot were sayin that if the chemsitry was right and if they were a likeable person and thats all good. but what if the "baller" had all those qualities you like. and the guys who don't make as much was exactly the same. who has the upper hand?
2007-09-21 06:02:23 · update #1
Money was no issue when I dated my husband. Looking back, that might not have been a real good idea, but he's doing really great now.
2007-09-21 05:40:20 · answer #1 · answered by nita5267 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Money ain't even on my list.
Although there are women who care only about money, and women who care about money, after actual qualities of the person, there are also women who just don't care about money at all.
I have dated the unemployed, the broke, guys working crappy jobs.
What you fail to realize is that my interest in a guy (or lack thereof) has to do with THE GUY, as a PERSON.
Credit Retention Agent? Not sure what that is, but it makes me think "Ewwwwww!" Not a job I could respect -- that is, someone who spends all their time doing something disgusting for a living turns me off.
The garbage handler is doing something worthwhile. I just want to know whether he's smart, and a good person, with a good sense of humor.
2007-09-21 07:18:36 · answer #2 · answered by tehabwa 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What a nice way to think about women, we're all money-grubbing, materalistic, shallow people, who only worry about status and a buck. You must be around lovely people to have such a view of women. Such an enlightened point of view as well.
No, money is not an issue when I date a man or woman. The three people I've had long term relationships all made less money than I do. I know most women want to be with someone that has a job, so they don't support them. Some women want men to have a job so they can afford to have kids. But I don't hang out with superficial, status hungry, money grabbing people.
I assume you don't demand that your female partner look gorgeous and be a sex bomb, either, the sexist stereotype about what men look for in women.
2007-09-21 09:22:34 · answer #3 · answered by edith clarke 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I suppose it would come down to their personalities and how they treated their money. If the garbage handler was smart about his money, not a penny pincher but someone who didn't buy what he couldn't afford and he wasn't whining about his income and the credit retention agent enjoyed flaunting his money and was arrogant about it to the point of having atrocious debt and no form of savings the garbage handler would win hands down.
Saying money doesn't matter is like saying looks don't matter. It's not hugely important but it is one of the things that can catch your attention. In some cases it can even be a deal breaker, in the case of money the lack of funds isn't a deal breaker it's how they behave/spend what they do or even do not have that's a deal breaker.
I don't demand a guy pays for me constantly, that's ridiculous and I can pay for myself and even for him. But I don't want a guy to never pay either. I do not want to be a leech nor do I want to get stuck with one.
I always said when I was younger, I don't really care what it is a person does for their living I want them to be happy doing it, or be happy with their life in some way. And currently my fiance makes less than what I make, but he doesn't go out and blow his paycheck on booze or other junk as soon as he gets it, that's what matters to me.
2007-09-21 05:53:29 · answer #4 · answered by Manny 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My fiance and I are the same age: We're both broke college students. We currently make about the same amount of money, although I do make slightly more, and our future career goals salaries are comparable. All I ask of a man is that he have a good job, or be in the process of obtaining a good job. Obviously flipping burgers and trying to work his way up to manager for the rest of his life is not a good job, but I am not asking for someone to make at least 6 figures before I'll consider him, either. I'll make my own money, thank you very much.
2007-09-21 08:41:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would choose thy guy with whom I had the best chemistry with & the guy who was the most fun to be with.you realy don't need a lot of money to show a girl a good time.for me personality is the most important quality.you can all ways get an other job, but if you don't have ' it ' you can't buy that with all of the money in the world. & it also depends on the girl.some girls are only intrested in how much money a guy has & what he can give her ' materal wise ' the person holding the wallet is irrelivant. so just avoid gold diggers. because remember money can't buy real love & happiness.
2007-09-21 05:48:51 · answer #6 · answered by To-Dream-of-Wolves ^. .^ © 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well if he is a real jerk forget it. The older I get the more I just want to find someone I can relate too. If he makes 1 millions dollars a year and the only thing he talks about is himself its a major turn off. well for me anyway. some women like the whole money and power thing not me. I would take the trash man over the millionaire any day especially if he has a good heart.
2007-09-21 05:44:12 · answer #7 · answered by JillardG 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It doesnt matter if u have money or what but if you take her to the park or have a few dollars spend it on her but you can do alot without money too
at least she likes ur company its all good
but i dont think money is a top quality or how much money u have long as u have enough to take care of things and your self
2007-09-21 05:50:32 · answer #8 · answered by roxy_baby2007 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, if I was going to marry for money I certainly would not be with my husband. He is a hard working, loving, intellegent, wonderful human being and I married him to be happy... not to be able to have the nicest car in the world. It all depends on where someones priorities are... and to be honest... men are the same way about women when it comes to money too... The phrase "For Love or Money" is true... and by the way garbage men make decent money you just have to hose them off when they come home.
2007-09-21 05:47:02 · answer #9 · answered by shadowsthathunt 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
The hot ladies I have dated have been CONSUMED with the idea of money. However, I have learned that the women worth keeping are not. If you are in anyway involved with a gold digger and think you will have a happy life.. you are wrong. Just "do" them for the memory and dump them.
2007-09-21 05:42:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋