What's the secret to your marriage's success?
2007-09-21 05:09:31 · 12 answers · asked by It's Ms. Fusion if you're Nasty! 7 in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
Rovale: *sigh* I hope I find someone like that someday...sounds ideal!
2007-09-21 08:12:41 · update #1
Being ourselves.
I've known the Tall One for years before we got married. We even watched each other date other people (and still hung out with the circle of friends).
I think it is because we are friends that we stay together. We do things together but we also do them separately. We're not possessive of each others needs and time, and we each allow the other time with others because I think it's healthy!
Example - I am going with a friend this weekend on a trip to the beach, and about two weeks ago I went to Florida with some other girlfriends.
In about two more weeks, he will be going to NYC to see his friend. I will stay home.
I think if you let the other person to be who they are, the marriage will be successful.
But this is just an example - of course. It doesn't work for all.
Hanging on to individuality while loving and respecting your mate is a HUGE part of our success.
2007-09-21 05:19:35 · answer #1 · answered by Done 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I've been married for 38 years and most of those years have been very happy. A few days, weeks and even months were down right miserable. You have to hang in there through good times and bad. We've known each other since we were kids. We have always loved each other and we respect our differences. I don't have the secret to a successful marriage. Honesty, good sex, adequate income, a sense of humor, patience.... the list could get pretty long. My advice would be to think long and hard about the person you want to marry. When you choose a mate, choose wisely.
2007-09-21 17:24:07 · answer #2 · answered by Miz D 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to be willing to compromise with one another and think or your marriage as a commitment. Too many people just get a divorce like it isn't anything. Keep the spice in your marriage and never let yourself go. Always dress for your spouse the same way you would if you were on a new date. You will have your ups and down but in the long run it can be very rewarding.
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2007-09-21 12:30:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I've been married for 25 years. I would say that success in our particular case is that we are best friends first and we have a lot in common. It never fails to amaze me about how much we think alike. We might see something and one of us makes a comment about it. The other person mentions thinking or noticing the same thing. We switch back and forth on this all the time so it isn't like somebody is trying to be like the other person.
2007-09-21 14:36:26 · answer #4 · answered by RoVale 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
We communicate. We talk about everything from the kids (4) to work to my PMS. We are supportive of each other. We never go to bed angry. We both realize that a successful marriage is never split 50/50 because both have to commit 100% all of the time, and last but not least, we have the utmost respect for each other. I am not trying to make my marriage sound all peaches and cream, because it isn't. We have our bad days, months, and we've even had bad years, but it is our ability to pull through that makes us successful.
2007-09-21 12:20:11 · answer #5 · answered by my4ccoa 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well, we haven't been married for ten years, but we've been together for that long.
I think we talk about things, not just our relationship, but politics, social issues, etc.
But I think that the single most important thing that has made our marriage a success is that each of thinks about what will make the other person happy, even BEFORE we think about what may make ourselves happy.
2007-09-21 15:36:03 · answer #6 · answered by wendy g 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
18 years and still going strong. Trust and mutual respect are the foundations. During the 18 years, my wife and I have never argued about money, so it helps when both people have the same spending mentality.
It also helps that I am such a wonderful person.
2007-09-21 13:26:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Known each other for 13 years
together for almost 11
married for 4
we are each other's best friend, we endure ups and downs like all relationships ~ we ride it out or talk it out, but we always come back to the good stuff and it's oh so good! :)
~ Mantis
only half troll
2007-09-21 13:39:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Don't give up so quickly.
I've been married for 16 years. It hasn't been all peaches.
When we have had problems, we talked it out and each of us accepted our portion of the responsibilty to make things better.
I see too many friends and co-workers who are unwiling or too stuborn to try to work it out.
2007-09-21 12:19:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Any relationships, mutual respect is the key.
2007-09-21 12:29:39 · answer #10 · answered by <OiO> 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋