Sorry to ask such a personal question but?

Question

I would have called the doc's office today but its a hol here. I was wondering if you must wait for the 6 week check up (after having a baby), to see if it is ok to resume a normal intimate relationship with your partner? Or is it ok to engage in intercourse as soon as you feel ready to do so? I wasnt sure if they had to check to make sure there weren't any infections ect.. I'm a first time mum and was unsure if I had to get the ok. I dont want to cause any probs for myself or partner. Serious answers only please. (took me ages to pluck up the courage to post this!)

Answer 1

Hey Scoobs, I would say would wait until your six week check up if you had stitches, but if you didn't and you feel "all back to normal down there" again just try it slowly and with a condom.

Hope all is well with babyscoobs and daddyscoobs!! Take it easy.

Answer 2

First some questions:

Did you have a vaginal birth, did you have a big baby, did you have any stitches? If the answer to any of these questions is yes, then you must wait 6 weeks to allow yourself time to heal properly with out the risk of causing damage or infection. The first time is still going to be a bit strange and even uncomfortable so be prepared. Just let you partner know this may be the case and to take it easy the first few times so ou can gauge how your body responds after giving birth. It will take a while to get back to the way it was before. Just make sure you keep doing your pelvic floor exercises as they work a treat.

If on the other hand you had a Cesarean you will need to wait a good 4-6 weeks to allow the scar to heal. Even then it may still be tender so you need to make sure your partner know he has to take it easy. He on the other hand should be grateful you want to get back into the swing of things so soon as some women take 6 months and more before they allow there partner anywhere near them.

I just waited the recommended 6 weeks as I had a 2nd degree tear that needed stitches.

I hope this helps.

Answer 3

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Answer 4

How long is it since you had baby? You dont have to wait normally unless there is anything wrong or you are still having pains or still bleeding, which is usually finished after first couple weeks after womb has contracted. If you feel ok there should be no worries. Just take it easy the first time :D and enjoy. Make sure ya use protection lol its a little too soon to be conceiving more! hehe x

Answer 5

Doctors will tell you that you have to wait because there is a risk of infection, however 6 weeks is when most women will be ready. That doesn't mean the vast majority aren't ready before that.

It's like telling you no honey for babies under 1 year. In most healthy babies the risk stops at 9 months, but to protect those few who it takes a little longer they say one year.

You know your body better than any doctor, you know what it is up for. So if you are wanting to, go ahead. Just obviously stop if it hurts.

Answer 6

In general, a woman should wait until her bleeding has stopped before having sex. Usually this is somewhere around four to six weeks after delivery. Cessation of bleeding usually means the cervix has closed and the chance of introducing infection during sex is less. If a woman has had an episiotomy, those stitches need to heal before sex; this only takes a few weeks.

Most of the time, she may be sore the first time or so. She may be drier than usual, requiring the use of lubricants (this is especially true for a breastfeeding mom). Also, before having sex, she and her partner should make contraceptive plans -- a woman may ovulate before she even has her first period after having the baby!

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Answer 7

as far as i no u should wait 6 wks 4 your womb 2 get back 2 normal and every thing 2 settle down and its also vey easy 2 get pregnant 2 soon after u have given birth hope this is of some help but u wouldnt b the first 2 do it b4 and prob wont b the last

Answer 8

I tore and even having a wee was painful so we waited for ages! if you feel ready then go for it, my doctor didn't need to check my lady bits or look for infections. I'm sure your partner will be gentle the first time after giving birth. Best of luck x

Answer 9

I've had three children. My midwife's advice was to wait until I felt ready. This took about three weeks in each case. I didn't have stitches with any of them though. You'll know when you feel ready. You might feel a bit scared, so proceed with caution and stop if it hurts. It's a bit like your first poo after all that pushing - scary but fine once the first time is over!

Answer 10

There really is no exact timing on resuming sex. I doubt that most women would be comfortable, no matter how easy the delivery was, for at least two weeks. But by then, two weeks postpartum, the uterus has shrunk down to about the size of a three-month pregnancy, and the cervix has closed. So for many women, it would be safe to have intercourse at two weeks. Certainly by four weeks, you are almost back to normal and would most likely feel comfortable.

Answer 11

Honey its all up to you. If you feel ready then go for it, all be it gently at the start cause things will have changed slightly down there. If you have any problems just wait until you go for check up. One thing I will say is make sure you use contraception because you dont want to have another within 9 months! or maybe you do. Just remember you are fertile as ever.