http://news.yahoo.com/s/nm/20070921/od_uk_nm/oukoe_uk_germany_politics_marriage
Check this link out - share your views on this. Ironically, we had a discussion at work just last week on folks' views on how to minimize divorce rates. Many felt that if it were as difficult to marry as it is to divorce, marriages that DID happen would be stronger and involve more committed partners..
What say you? Are you married? What has made your union strong? Are you divorced?
2007-09-21 03:39:56 · 11 answers · asked by sage seeker 7 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Senior Citizens
What about things like voluntary Covenant Marriage as has been instituted in one or two states? It requires a LOT of preparation before the actual I Do's..and is based on traditional values
2007-09-21 04:50:08 · update #1
check this out...now I like this one!!
Think it would work?
http://dating.personals.yahoo.com/singles/quizzes/9/20-questions-for-when-the-honeymoon-is-over
2007-09-21 07:03:31 · update #2
jello: yep, pretty much...as long as civil protections are in place [assets, kids, etc]
2007-09-21 08:25:50 · update #3
I don't believe gvmt should have anything to do with defining what a marriage is. That's up to the individuals entering into marriage. If they choose to enter into a life long union, or one they have to renew every 5 years, well, that's their choice.
Wouldn't you agree?
2007-09-21 07:53:23 · answer #1 · answered by Dr Jello 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I saw this and feel if this lady doesn't want to be married that's her decision, but why try to involve everyone else? If a marriage just 'dissolves' after 7 yrs, what happens to the kids and how do you split assets? I see no difference than if you divorce, other than it could cause a strain on marriages, esp at the 7 yr mark. I do agree with the idea of more preparation before couples marry.
I'm married. We realize it's not always going to be easy, but we have each other to lean on. We know people and circumstances change as the yrs pass. We just have to deal with what comes-together and move on in a way we can both live with.
2007-09-21 15:35:33 · answer #2 · answered by luvspbr2 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am married and I have an old-school attitude towards marriage. It is a commitment and you and your spouse are partners. If you are not up to that challenge, then don't get married. I am not religious or anything, so my views are not based on family-values B.S., but I am a person who believes in marriage. I also know it is difficult ,at times, to make a marriage successful. I've been married 15 years and we've encountered our fair share of rough patches, but my love and respect for my husband and my kids, has made me work through it. I think this woman's concept is a selfish one based on her own inability to make a marriage work. It's kind of pointless, too. Get a divorce if you want. Quit. Get out. whatever. But, why should those of us who recognize the importance of marriage and what commitment means, have to renew our marriages after 7 years? No thanks. Even as a hard-core, pro-choice feminist, I would not support this woman on her campaign to do this to marriage.
2007-09-21 10:58:07 · answer #3 · answered by Shelley L 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thank you for the link. I have been married twice and went into both marriages with the idea that it would last forever.
Yes, I am divorced. I believe that a 7 year contract would either make a commitment stronger or cause a great strain in the security of the marriage.
I am no expert on marriage.
2007-09-21 11:11:10 · answer #4 · answered by kayboff 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I do not. I don't think this pollie does either. This is just a attention grabbing ploy to have her 15 minutes of fame in the public eye.
I really don't think ANYONE will give it any serious thought.
I have been married 22 1/2 yrs. I'll give just 2 reasons because I could go on all night about this.
1) have God in your life. Love is described in the bible as a threefold cord. I strand can be broken, with 2 strands its a little tougher but it can still break but with 3 strands it will not break. So with God in your marriage it is like a threefold cord. You, your hubby and God.
2) Remember the old fashioned vows. For better or worse, for richer for poorer, in sickness and in health etc. Well, that is just what life and marriage is like full of ups and downs.
Too many people go into marriage thinking it will be a bed of roses totally unprepared for the realities of life. People write stupid vows about loving you until the sun ceases to shine etc etc but as poetic and romantic as they may be they bear no resemblance to life.
You need to go into marriage with your eyes open and not covered in rose coloured glasses.
2007-09-21 11:56:59 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Vows, people, when you marry, in the sight of God, you take vows. Yes, I was married in the past and left for reasons of infidelity not caused by me, and believe me I worked really hard for 15 years to keep it together. I'm currently married for not quite two years. We have our issues, but we also re-state to each other that we're in this for the long haul. Communication and compromise is so critical in a marriage. People take the easy way out when things get rough. I realize it takes hard work on the part of both people, not just one. I breaks my heart to hear about so many marriages in a state of total chaos mostly because of the selfishness of one half of the couple.
2007-09-21 11:39:07 · answer #6 · answered by Lady G 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, she has a point, but it's a bit far-fetched and cynical. The good news is, she doesn't stand much chance of getting it into law.
I've been married twice, divorced once. The key to making it work the second time around was to address things that became issues first time around to prevent a recurrence. Better communication and better trust and maturity helped, too.
2007-09-21 11:10:25 · answer #7 · answered by felines 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's a shame. marriage, even if it ends in divorce, will lose meaning.
i'm married...almost seven years. that means we would be up for renewal. that's not what i vowed
my union is as strong as we make it. but it's about committing and going through all of the tough stages together.
and what effect will this have on the most important factor: KIDS? children need their parents to be together throughout all of their childhook; infant thru teen years. divorcees hurt children in SO many ways.
2007-09-21 10:49:48 · answer #8 · answered by blue-in-groove 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it would have helped me, I stayed with a wife basher for 24 years, before I got up the nerve to end it. But I dont think its really a good thing.
2007-09-21 13:07:00 · answer #9 · answered by Roxy. 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Very much against it. See LadyG's post.
2007-09-21 11:33:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋