My wife regularly complains about her boss who flirts with the ladies, saying suggestive things and some other inappropriate behavior. Because of that I didn't like her boss and really couldn't stand him for putting my wife in such a state. Last week at a party, my wife and I had to hang out with her boss and I realize he is a pretty attractive man. Also I noticed that my wife acted very strange around him. It seems to me that my wife is in fact very much into him and has not been telling me the truth. Should I be worried that my wife might have a heavy crush on her boss or be concerned that more things might have happened that I may not be aware?
2007-09-21 03:20:08 · 17 answers · asked by Rick 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It does sound a little shady. If a woman is always getting attention from an attractive man, especially an authority figure, it is easy to develope feelings for him. I would discuss your feelings with your wife. Good luck with everything.
2007-09-21 03:24:39 · answer #1 · answered by nene111782 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If i read from the beginning,
1.you mention that your wife complains in private about her boss which makes you think her boss is villain.
2. You are saying her boss i pretty attractive and she behaved strange around him. What is that "strange"???
Assess between these two and stop suspecting, start acting!!!
I hope out of inferior complex you started suspecting!
Why do you think your wife might have a crush, which she dares to demonstrate in your presence...probably she was trying to draw his attention to introduce you as her hubby or whatever!!!
Guys, please be mature and think the other way as well! I mean in other's perspective. How is it possible for a woman, who regularly complains, to behave indifferently in a mass hangout and that too in presence of her hubby! Are you sure your relations is going good before that hang out!
Give or have clear justification! Do a root cause analysis and witness it! Watch out for couple of times more before you conclude. Do not spoil or break marriage with suspect!
All the best!
2007-09-21 03:47:20 · answer #2 · answered by Mohan K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has a crush on him and has been hitting him up....but he either isn't interested in her or is more interested in some of her coworkers...that's why she is coming home and complaining/bad mouthing him to you. She's trying to turn it around so you will comfort her from the rejection, that's Lso why she was acting like a scorned cat at the party, but also brought you along. He isn't interested in her.
2016-04-19 14:27:49 · answer #3 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ah bummer man she tells u one thing to hide another, hell if u noticed it then she didn't do a very good job hiding it or confirming what she was telling u. and its the worst with a boss, women have a hard time hiding thier feelings when it comes to an authoritive figure of the opposite sex. i think its pretty safe that she went all the way with him already if not more even. how many times did she take dictation from him at work. also what kind of clothes does she wear to work, if she wears loose dresses then she can just hike it up and he can give it to her right in his office. don't look good for u, get a good atty.
2007-09-21 03:41:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
She probably is just trying to survive by acting the way he expects women to act when he flirts. You need to ask these questions:
Does the company have a strong enforcement policy on sexual harassment? Or would her job be threatened if she complained?
Do other women at the same place feel the same way and can they complain as a group?
Has he ever suggested that they meet for lunch or dinner with no business purpose?
Do she see his actions as harmless but bothersome?
Ask her if she feels complimented by the attention.
Should she be looking at opportunities to advance her career elsewhere?
You need more information and need to talk it out.
2007-09-21 03:28:07 · answer #5 · answered by Wolfithius 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should check into it further, especially if you noticed a change in the way she acted around him. By her saying that he flirts with other girls in office may be her trying subconsciously to feel you out and get your reaction . It might in fact be her he is flirting with. If she is withholding that, the next thing will be you'll find out she started having affair with him.
Can't hurt to check into further. A litttle investigating. Maybe it will turn out to be nothing.
2007-09-21 03:41:38 · answer #6 · answered by Michael L 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
These idiots telling you to "ask her"...LMAO!! As IF she will tell you the truth, she is already not telling you the whole story.
Something is going on, make NO MISTAKE about that- I am a woman, something is going on here....maybe they aren't in bed together- yet, but there is something to this....believe it.
2007-09-21 03:30:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
sounds like she is either upset he is not hitting on her and she is getting a bit conscious about it or she was trying to hide it from you that she is into him kind of a detour sorry cannot think of the right word hope you get what i mean, that she was trying to tell you what a pig he is so you suspect nothing.
2007-09-21 03:28:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Talk to her.
Tell her you have noticed that she has been acting different for a while now.
& then ask her about her boss.
Good Luck.
2007-09-21 03:25:38 · answer #9 · answered by -->TeXas<-- 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Only one way to find out...ask her. Tell her that you noticed her acting strangely around him and you were curious as to why.
2007-09-21 03:24:02 · answer #10 · answered by samans442 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋