Recently I have doubted things my friend has said.
Around easter she said she'd helped her friend get pregnant by donating eggs. She loves babies and I know she really wants one.
About 5 weeks ago she text me to say her friend had had the baby after a problem at 21 weeks.
Since then she's contacted me several times to say give me updates.
The last week she said the condition had worsened. And today she said that they had to decide whether to keep the baby alive or not.
I decided to do some research on the net to see if there was anything I could find to give her some comfort or advice or anything really.
What I found was 2 photo graphs of a baby born at 21 weeks like this one was. Thing is the 2 photos are the 2 she sent me of the baby that she apparently helped to be conceived. It's not these photos were taking a year ago in a differnt country.
They are DEFINALTY the same photos.
What do I do???
Can't stop shaking I can't belive she would lie like this
2007-09-21 02:42:15 · 18 answers · asked by blondeicehockeyfan 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I tried to ask her about the pictures last night. She denied they weren't of this baby. She wouldn't even look at the pictures from the internet. There's even a mouse pointer on one of the pictures she sent me!
2007-09-21 21:50:08 · update #1
I had a friend that lied about EVERYTHING. I would first think about how she responds to criticism or anything that has a negative impact. Does she blow off criticism or does she fume; is she someone who does get backs? Then I would think back to any other times shes lied. Has this happened before? if yes, how often? What were the circumstances? If no, what else is going on in her life--have you seen any other changes? After considering these things I would ask her more specific questions about this "baby". Does she give different answers or are they always the same?
Some people need attention and try to get it anyway they can. My friend, when given the opportunity to tell the truth, always found a lie to tell instead. It could be a mental heath issue--or she may have started a small lie that just got bigger and out of control. I would eventually confront her, but make sure you have all your information in front of you--website name, photos, other lies that may have been told. I wish I had confronted my friends' lies sooner, because it turned out she was going behind my back and telling lies about me--she destroyed my career and drove me almost over the edge.
Make sure you take care of yourself FIRST. Her feelings will
heal or you'll both move on, honesty in a friendship is too important to let slide. Good Luck!
2007-09-21 03:22:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
You answered your own question. Write a song about your feelings and how you're sorry. Let her know what kind of things you lied about and WHY you lied about these things. She'll appreciate your honesty in the end. It's not good to pick up the habit of lying, especially to your best friend because if you keep it up, you'll really have no friends later. She needs to know the truth so write her a song, sing it to her, and when you're done TELL her everything you wrote here. She needs to hear it and that might bring you two closer. It might upset her at first that you harbored bad thoughts and feelings towards someone you should trust and love, but let her know how sorry you are. The best way to get her to know is through communication... Good luck
2016-05-20 00:12:25 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she is ill. Try not to get really cross with her. There may be an explanation as to why she is being like this. Maybe she cannot have children and its becomming an obssession. There could be dozens of explanations for her behavior, I mean printing photographs of dead babies and passing them off as your own is certainly not normal behavior. Try to establish why she is being like this but at the same time be straight explain you are very sure that she has told you an untruth, but that you would like to know why and is there anything you can help her with. Good luck. Also egg donation is a very lengthy and ta times dangerous procedure and involves taking fertility drugs thst affect all kinds of things. Be sure you have your facts straight before you steam in and accuse her. But for you do need to know.
2007-09-21 02:57:56 · answer #3 · answered by wee.rossco 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with her and tell her what you know. Don't appear too angry or she will clam up and you will get no where. Tell her as her friend you are concerned for her and want to help her if there is anything wrong. At the end of the day you have not done anything wrong. If you don't get anywhere I would sever all ties and find some new friends. Sorry you had to find out the way you did :-)
2007-09-21 02:55:56 · answer #4 · answered by scupper 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
OMG!... I take it it's a long-distance friendship.
Good lord... she's a quack!!... got a screw loose. How long have you known her?...
Two things could have happened (serious answer): It's plausible that your friend believes all she's told you cause she's developed a mental disorder (schizophrenia comes to mind); or Borderline Personality Disorder (google these) OR
She's a nut-job who likes to screw with other people's minds.
Don't 'do' anything just yet. Wait till she gives you more updates. Play along to see how far she'll go. You can also play along. ie: If she tells you she's gonna keep the child, wait awhile, then tell her you're gonna fly out there to be with her. When she 'changes' her mind and says she has to terminate... tell her you'll 'fly out there to support her'.
It's time to PLAY her back for doing this nasty thing to you!!
Sorry, it's just the Scorpio in me coming out.
2007-09-21 11:06:28 · answer #5 · answered by sprite 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your friend sounds as if she may be mentally ill.If I were you Id keep a close eye on her because you often hear of people suffering like she is snatching babies.If she was to tell you shes pregnant herself then watch her carefully.Some women desperate for babies pretend to be pregnant for 9 months then go to a maternity hospital and take a baby.Im serious,watch her.
2007-09-21 02:51:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm afraid your friend has obviously lied and may lead a very boring life and had nothing to talk about so she made something like this which is very sad up to give her something to talk to you about. You need to confront her and ask her why she did it and try and works things out but if my friend would take a long time to trust her again!
2007-09-21 02:50:48 · answer #7 · answered by ???? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She sounds like someone who feels the need to make up stories to keep your attention as a friend. If you like her as a friend then text her that you know the truth and simply say, if you stop lying I will forget this ever happened and never mention it again and we can get on with being friends. Hopefully, that should stop her lying to you. Seems one heck of a story to make up and to carry it on like this seems crazy. She needs help and should really seek some from her GP and hopefully end this silliness.
2007-09-21 02:55:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
she may have some kind of mental defect
i wouldn't trust a person that voluntarily lie
she had nothing to gain by telling you this story
she's dangerous, you see this kinda behavior on television and in the movies
2007-09-21 02:54:54 · answer #9 · answered by wonder 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend has defiantly lied. The best thing to do is to talk to her, I mean who knows what she's going through.
2007-09-21 02:56:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋