Okay... my boyfriend and I have been going out for almost 4 years. We bought our place and live together. For about two years, I haven't been taking birth control pills (his choice), so he has been using protection. Last night when we were about to make love; I realized that he pulled a condom out of his wallet (instead of the drawer, 1st time I've ever seen him do this). We ended up getting into an arguement cause I don't understand why he has to have a condom in his wallet. We live together, rarely ever do we stay at someone else's house (and it's not like we get busy like that at other people's houses anyway), so I do not understand why he carries one w/ him. I don't think I'm making a big deal out of it, but he thinks I am. At the end of the night he said "this is why I doubt marrying you" I was like wtf!? I don't understand why he is mad and is turning the whole thing around and putting it on me. Please give me your point of view. Thanks.
2007-09-21 02:30:14 · 10 answers · asked by Shorty 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
girl I'm w/you and I would have put up the same fight. wtf does he need a condom in his wallet for then? No... you put your guards up and keep tabs. Not saying he's guilty, but I'd be suspicious too, it's only natural. And don't let him flip this around, you did nothing wrong. good luck.
2007-09-21 02:43:37 · answer #1 · answered by Lily 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh hell no!!!!! unt uh! There is no reason what so ever why he should have condoms in his wallet. And then he made a comment about doubting marrying you. That was just a little reverse psycology sweetie and he needs to cut the bullshit. it's time for this guy to go! now!!! He is only trying to turn the whole thing around to take the blame off of himself. you need to let him go immediately. And by four years a huy should know whether or not is he is going to marry you. He's only stringing you along. Just using you as a back up. I know you may love him, but you can't reley on past memeories and you have to wake up and see that he is straight playing you., good luck
2007-09-21 03:33:19 · answer #2 · answered by mfox41406 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe its his last and final spare condom?
maybe thats where he keeps his last condom just incase u guys run out (in the drawer) of condoms heck
i was thinking this was a good idea to keep a spare somewhere so me and my gf can get some
i mean yes we have an ample supply but we have gotten low before and ive had to look which semiruined the mood
etc etc
eitherway
please try not to do the thing that i see alot of women doing on this site
men are guilty until proven innocent
instead of innocent until proven guilty
in the end i can understand his doubting marrying him
i personally would see it as you dont trust me
i cant marry some1 who doesnt trust me
(OH rhodeisland whatever you are a ******* idiot shut up)
god some of you people over think **** and **** it all up
2007-09-21 02:54:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's never a good idea to do it with a guy who has kept his condom in his wallet [especially for a long period of time]. Believe it or not, condoms become less effective over time when they're carried in a wallet.
2007-09-21 03:39:50 · answer #4 · answered by larkaloo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My thoughts is it was his last one and that is why he took it from wallet. Were there more in drawer? Were you in same room as drawer and more were in there?.
He is one responsible for protection. Even though you only have sex at home he probably carries it just in case (hoping) one day you will intiate somewhere else and does not want to be unprepared. His marriage comment was bit mean though even if he was annoyed
2007-09-21 03:03:22 · answer #5 · answered by Woman in Red 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't need to carry one. Unless he is planing on needing one one in a emergency situation, like all the balloons on the kids birthday party burst.
2007-09-21 02:38:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is no reason for him to do that unless he plans on messing with another woman he is trying to turn the tables on u because he is feeling guilty about something he must have doubts about getting married to u for saying this is why i doubt marrying you he probably wants out but is too chicken to tell u dump him
2007-09-21 02:39:27 · answer #7 · answered by rhodeislandbornandraised 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I carry condoms, I like to do it in unexpected places tho.
2007-09-21 03:08:41 · answer #8 · answered by Flying Spagetti Monster 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he has a fantasy involving you, him and the woods, or the beach, or the back seat of the car ..... then again maybe he has a fantasy that doesn't involve you . Talk it out .
2007-09-21 02:41:47 · answer #9 · answered by gillemhor 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
start worrying when the condom is missing!
2007-09-25 02:29:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋