Why is divorce necessary for a couple... points that can be used on debates ok?
2007-09-21 02:17:25 · 12 answers · asked by hanjew d 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My husband and I have not been living together since April of 2000. We have not gotten a divorce yet. There is no chance of a reconciliation. We get along great now, in regards to our children. Why no divorce? For me, and I suspect for him also, I fear that if I were to get a divorce, I'd jump right back into marriage with someone else. It's like a little insurance policy. I'm still legally married to my husband, so therefore, I cannot possibly marry someone else. If my husband were to come to me today, and mention divorce (which neither of us have in 7 years), I would know that he has someone else that he wants to marry.
2007-09-21 02:25:47 · answer #1 · answered by Bamby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When two people marry they are entering into a contract together. When that marriage comes to an end it is necessary to null and voice that contract--hence, a divorce is necessary. If it is not ended legally and they remarry then they can go to prison for bigamy. Like everything else, it's just a legal ploy for attorneys to make money.
2007-09-21 10:59:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because they can't get along with each other, divorce sucks was married for 30 years, he was caring on affairs on the computer for 8 years, porn on the computer 24/7 telling me he wanted a divorce but was to lazy to file so I did two years ago, told me he wasn't going to support my daughter and myself anymore heard this for the last 15 years, he told me his job was to go to work and that was all he was going to do, and that's all he did, we never went anywhere or did anything, did this help you on a few points?? My divorce case has been in the court system for two years now, because he is dragging this on and on,... what a jerk he is !!
2007-09-21 09:28:12 · answer #3 · answered by kim t 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If both partners are willing to seek council, divorce may not be necessary if it can be worked out. Remember why you got married in the first place... was it love... what has changed.... for me it was abuse and he was unwilling to seek council. Too bad, because now he is a lonely man and his children who are grown will not speak to him. He has grandchildren he has never seen... Divorce is a sad situation, for all involved... if it can be saved.... BOTH partners need to want to save it. It takes a lot of work, and you have to be willing.
2007-09-21 09:42:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my marriage, there was abuse. At first, I thought of just separating and talked with my attorney about it; however, he insisted that I file for divorce immediately due to the restraining orders I had filed (at that point on a temporary basis) - saying that filing for divorce would send a clear message to the judge that the marriage was over for when I went back for the longer term order of protection. The marriage was over... so, I filed for divorce. There were also concerns about our daughter, in that I needed the courts to legally determine custody / visitation / support issues in order to protect her - without them, if the orders of protection were dropped, he could take her from me until the divorce was finalized... Additionally, he was running up bills and selling off assetts as fast as he could, after I left.. the divorce got me off the accounts and froze his activities until the divorce was finalized. I also could not sign contracts on property or it was considered "mutual marital property" until we were divorced. These are legal arguments.
On a personal note, without the divorce, the husband and wife may wonder if they are getting back together. Divorcing sends a clear message that it is over. Additionally, it allows both parties to begin moving on with their lives, as dating during marriage is adultery - even if separated, yet after divorce one is free to decide whether to date. I had to cut the ties that bind.
2007-09-21 09:29:52 · answer #5 · answered by Wildflower 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Legally - you need to divorce to separate your assets. This protects you going forward regarding debt or liability. When the two decide that they can't be together anymore - they need to separate in more than just emotions - there a legal issues.
2007-09-21 09:29:48 · answer #6 · answered by Wanda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People grow apart instead of together. After time you find out the person isn't the person you thought they were. they stop loving and caring for each other. They don't want to waste their life with someone they don't want to be with. Their differences become greater than the love they have for each other. An affair. Lots of reasons.
2007-09-21 09:26:32 · answer #7 · answered by shellshell 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not always necessary. a legal separation can do.
Why live with someone, that is aways yelling and screaming,
and hits for no reason.......Drinks too much, and the next day,
does not remember what he did...l am pretty sure that happens with women also.
We only live once......and that is not my cup of tea.
2007-09-21 09:26:08 · answer #8 · answered by Eve 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uh how about abuse? That's why I got divorced.
2007-09-21 09:21:02 · answer #9 · answered by Spring 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
any form of cheating (including sexual addictions to internet porn and/or talking to the opposite sex online in a sexual/flirting way), any form of abuse, gambling, alcoholism... mistreatment of the children...
2007-09-21 09:38:14 · answer #10 · answered by elvlayarvvi fEisty wife and mom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋