I'm 24 years old, can I get a tubal?

Question

When I was 21, I asked an OBGYN if i could get sterialized, he told me that I would change my mind about having children, so no.

I'll be 24 and I want to be sterialized, do you think I can get it done? I'm going to be married and my partner doesn't want children either. In fact, he's just a few years older than me and is able to get a vasectomy, no one says he'll change his mind. Do you think if I let my doctor know that my husband has had a vasectomy that I'll be able to get a tubal done?

Also, is it even worse the risks given that my partner will have had a vasectomy? I know that a vasectomy can fail and I really don't want to stay on the pill or go through an abortion, but I will if I absolutely have to. I'm not having children!!! Why can't my doctors believe me?!

Answer 1

The doctors are just forcing their own brand of morals on you. I had my vasectomy in my early 20's. My girlfriend had herself fixed in her mid 20's. Neither of us have children.

Go to a non-profit clinic. Just refer to the yellow pages. They don't know your medical history, so you can lie to them. I was 21. I told them that I was 23, and that I had children.

My girlfriend did the same. She added a few years to her age, claimed to be married, but didn't attempt to claim that she had children because any doctor can tell.

We both got what we wanted and paid a lot less than we would have at a regular doctor. We both did this on our own, long before we ever met.

I usually only date women that had their tubes tied in their 20's. About a third didn't have children.

We are members of a "Childfree" club. Most eveyone is 40 or older. None of them regret not having children.

Answer 2

Please think long and hard before you do anything surgical. All of my life I emphatically swore I was **never** going to have kids. I got pregnant when I was 26 (it was not planned!)and had the baby. Welllll, 13 years later I have 3 kids--having children was the best thing I could have ever done, but it took me until I was 26 to realize that. I eventually got my tubes tied (it can be reversed, but the chances of it working are slim, and most insurances won't cover a reversal). Although I am ok now, I had lots of problems with infections after the surgery. Would you consider waiting until you are 30 or so to make this decision? I just know from experience that I did a lot of changing in my 20's. Also, a had a close friend that had a vasectomy done and it didn't work the first time...he had to go back and have it done all over again. The doctors will make the man go back and be 'tested' to make sure he isn't functioning in a 'daddy sort of way' after the surgery so you'll know if it worked or not.
However, If you are still dead set on a tubal keep searching for a doctor that will listen to you and what you want. You are old enough to speak for yourself and doctors should listen to what you want. I wish you the best of luck.

Answer 3

If your partner is getting a vasectomy and the two of you are monogamous, there is really no need for you to get a tubal. In fact, that is the way most couples go about it because a vasectomy is much less evasive and with less side effects than a tubal. A vasectomy is also more easily reversed in the event that you, for some reason, change your minds and decide to have children. You two may get into your 30's or even 40's and decide that, now, you are ready to have kids. At 24, you've really only JUST started out in life...who knows how your views will change in the next 10-15 years.

Answer 4

I would think if you are 24 you are far old enough to make that decision on your own. They say though it's easier for a man to have it done than a woman. That men heal much better. If not how about getting that shot that last 5 years? My cousin did that and her husband didn't have a vasectomy and it worked just fine.
Oh and Sparkles isn't correct. Tubal's aren't forever...they can be reversed (had a cousin that had that done and got pregnant)

Answer 5

The vastecomy can be reversed, but a tubal can not. My husband had his vasectomy almost 8 years ago, and he is still sterile... I hear you say that you do not want children, but let him get the vasectomy and you wait a couple more years.

Why don't you want children? Just curious...

Answer 6

i knew someone who encountered this situation. doctors more than likely will not perform this procedure if you have not had children. there are other options that can last 3-5 years, and then you can just keep doing that.
remember, having children is a privilege and a miracle that women are given. even if you are 100% sure right now, there is really no way to tell how you will feel 5,10, 15 years from now. you sound like a responsible adult, so you must realize that people change, situations change, and there are other ways besides complete sterilization to ensure you don't become pregnant unexpectedly.

Answer 7

tubals aren't always forever they can be reversed and they can also come undone on their own.in around 6 to 10 years. I have an aunt and mom had friends that got pregnant that way. good luck and best wishes. most doctors here won't do tubals unless you are 25 and have at least 1 or 2 children.

Answer 8

Just go to a different doctor. I am getting a vasectomy next month. My first doctor refused me becuse I am only 24.

Answer 9

the only way a dr will do this is if you have had one or more kids. if your partner has had a vasectomy then you shouldn't have to be on the pill and worry about getting pregnant.

Answer 10

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