im getting married 3 weeks today and moving in 4 weeks.?

Question

i feel like my head is gunna pop!
is it normal to feel like your haveing second thoughts and that you are maybe doing the wrong thing? i love my fella dearly and want to get married to him, is this a case of cold feet??

We get married on the 12th October.
Thank you all for your advice, i thought i was going a little mad!! lol

Answer 1

I'm not surprised you are feeling like this with two of the most stressful things in life almost on top of each other!!! You're stressed, it's not cold feet so don't panic.

You need as much support as possible, tell friends and relatives how you feel and ask them to help with arrangements, make sure you don't let these feelings spoil your big day, worry about the move AFTER that.

Talk to someone, chill out and think of your big day and your new house, you are really lucky!!

Good luck and congrats.

I'll be having my baby around 12th October, have a great day!!!

Answer 2

OOPS?????!!
Second thoughts??? You always would have those. Am I doing the right thing..??? At least it would help, if people are willing to consider the fact, that some relationships do not last throughout their lifetime. Some differences do not come to light until a couple spends their life together. When I was younger, a couple would start from scratch. move in an empty apartment as it were, and build your way up from there. It meant sharing close quarters as roommates as well, so a lot of difficulties that occur right in the beginning of a relationship, that wants to make it through thick and thin,has to be based on a solid friendship.
You´ll be alright on the Day 10 October am I correct? Beautiful Day to Exchange Vows. at Dawn.

Answer 3

He doesn't love you no matter what he has told you. If he loved you he would not be marrying someone else. He has a strong enough relationship with her and cares about her enough to marry her. He's using his parents as an excuse, instead of being a man about things and being honest with you. He wants to be with her not you. Time heals and in time you will heal. There is no answer on how long its going to take you to get over this. My guess awhile! But you have to move on. Stop any communication you have with him. Don't be he's friend, you are to hurt! So it's best you break all ties and go on with your life. You might not know this now, but mabe this is the best thing for you. Because the right guy could be coming into your life at anytime. Start dating again, that really does help. Because as soon as you find someone you like, you will start to forget about him.

Answer 4

I'd say its completely normal. Talk to a friend / family about it and I am sure they will put your mind at rest. I have been with my boyfriend for well over a year and we are planning to move in together in the next couple of months and I go from being really excited about it to thinking I'm making the wrong decision. I know we love each other and make each other happy and are a lot more stable than a lot of couples I know so it really just is cold feet at the thought of "change".

Good luck - and ENJOY!!!

Answer 5

What you are feeling is very normal. Think about it, you are undergoing 2 big changes at once in your life. Make sure that this is want you want, though, because it is much easier to undo now than later. As far as the move goes, I have moved so many times and believe me it always works out. Take one day at a time. Take lots of deep breaths, and remember to treat yourself every once in a while. You WILL get through all of this. Make this an adventure and good times! Take care.

Answer 6

Of course it is! It means a lot of stress. You're only going through the motions because so much is happening at the same time.

Take time to relax and you'll see! It will all work out. Enjoy your wedding and as for the move ... Well you know! Not exactly nice but hey! Once you're unpacked! Plenty of time to chill out and enjoy the fact that you've survived the lot and got out a stronger person.

Best wishes

Answer 7

There is a saying in my country when it comes to marriage ...."marry in haste , and repent at your leisure." so my advice is to think long and hard before you commit yourself.Perhaps making a list of pros and cons might help , reasons why you want to marry this guy and reasons why you dont, and then see which list comes out on top, reasons for or against. Im sure deep in your heart (and maybe your head) you already know the answer , but i wish you all the best whatever you decide.

Answer 8

Yes, you have sooo much to do. I can't help with the wedding but I have found a great website called www.moveme.com which will help you move. I used it a couple of months ago and it made moving so much easier. They do all of the administration work when you move like change of address letters, setting up and closing utilities services and its free. It really does take the stress out of moving. Good luck with everything

Answer 9

I got married 2 weeks ago and yes i felt the same, and the day was wonderful and now wonder why i was feeling like that. Good luck for the day and enjoy!- it goes sooooo fast. Good look with the move also - how have you had time to do both?!

Answer 10

Its not to late tell him now, if you are happy the way you are.
I went through with it, but when I got to the alter had a tremendous urge to turn round and run, but all I could think was how upset all my relatives would be. It was the worst day of my life. I put up with him for a miserable 12 years, now very happily divorced, wish I had done it sooner?