We have 1 child and he's a boy.There are times that my siblings asked money from me if necessary.My husband hate it.He doesn't want me to give money to my sisters. What should I do? I am the eldest and I love my sisters.
2007-09-21 00:33:28 · 5 answers · asked by summershane 0530 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Wait a second! Is this a HUSBAND or just a live-in, take what he can get guy? There's a big difference, you know!! He's not working and yet he's telling you how to spend your money. How's that working for you? Perhaps you need to set some guidelines for him. Tell him: get a job; make a commitment; or leave so you can get a real man.
2007-09-21 00:53:23 · answer #1 · answered by missingora 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is the live-in partner also your husband or are these two seperate people?
I am guessing your siblings are age 20 to 29 so they should be established and working by now. They will keep asking for money as long as you are giving it to them. Stop giving them money and they will find other ways to get it (you could hint that working or spending less may help them with that). You are actually doing them a discredit by giving them money. If you really want to help them, do everything but that.
Now on the flipside, your jobless live-in has little to say about this. He is not providing income nor is he legally married to you so your money is your money and not his. If this bothers him then he can get a job and marry you and then you can start listening to him. He is just trying to protect his breadbasket.
I would not give him money either to tell you the truth.
2007-09-21 09:45:54 · answer #2 · answered by Sway 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have your own family support. By all means continue to spend time with your sisters, but explain to them that you can not spend money or indulge them anymore.
If you can't dismiss the sense of duty you feel towards your sisters, teach them how to open up a savings account, to budget, to not rely on credit cards etc. One day, they'll thank you for it.
Same goes for your husband and partner. He is the head of your family and he needs to step up and take more responsibility and share the load.
2007-09-21 07:54:08 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first of all y doesn't have a job???u 2 have a child together and what does he do take care of the household and the child while u are working??? he cant b mad for u wanting to help your family out when u can who is he to tell u not 2 when he ain't bringing nothing to the table.????blkbeautygrl07
2007-09-21 07:53:03 · answer #4 · answered by blkbeautygrl07 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you with a man who is jobless? If he isn't going to contribute to your household financially, who is he to tell you what to do with YOUR money. Give to your sisters if you want to, it is your money and NOT his. Besides, you might need your sisters to help you leave that jobless bum someday.
2007-09-21 08:14:04 · answer #5 · answered by lady P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋