Will it be ok to have an extra marital life?

Question

I am married and have a child. Can I have an extra marital life

Answer 1

If you mean an affair, no. You will hurt your husband and your children.

Answer 2

It depends on what you mean by "extra marital life". If you mean normal healthy activities outside of the house, absolutely. If you mean running around behind your spouses back and cheating, no way.

Think about it this way... Why not put the effort that you would put into finding someone else into your marriage? I will bet the rewards would be MUCH greater by doing that.

Think about what it may be that you're lacking in your relationship and try something novel...look at YOUR part of it. What is it YOU'RE doing that is helping cause the problems. Then try to change your part.

It gets frustrating to see so many people here wondering if cheating is OK. It isn't, take my word for it. My wife and I were having problems for years. I began to look outside our marriage for attention. While I didn't technically cheat (didn't have sex) I was making plans to, actually had the plans in place and was a couple days away from meeting this person when my wife found out.

We were on our way to the lawyer when we finally started to talk, and I mean REALLY talk for the first time in years. She accepted her part of the responsibility for our marital problems, and I did the same. I began to make her the center of my world again, just as she had been in the beginning when everything was shiny and new. To put it into one phrase...we began to WORK at our relationship. The end result is I no longer feel like I need or want anyone else. It didn't take much to feel that way again.

Hopefully you can find what you're looking for within your marriage. Extra marital affairs harm all 3 people involved. I can become a habit, and once you go down that road, there's no coming back. The first time will be a little difficult, then it becomes easier and easier to do, next thing you know, you're whole life is a wreck. Take the time and put the effort into your relationship. You will get better results.

Good luck!

Answer 3

Hi
I think ,before taking any decision ,think these 3 Points.

1. R u satisfied with your husband?
a) Emotilany
b) Physically

If "a" is no, you love emotionally someone.. if “a” is yes, u don’t look someone.
if 'B" is no, can love some one. If yes same as above.

2. R u satisfying your husband.
If you “A” is yes, he will not go with any other girl. If “B” is yes, also he will not go ..

3. if you are getting Protection / support / entertainment / friendship from you husband you don’t need to go for a extra marital affair.

You analyze the take decision. Instead of asking public opinion , you should have a firm mind. Am I right?

Answer 4

extra marital LIFE? Sorry, are you talking about a whole different lifestyle or an affair? Either way it's not a good thing at all. Just the fact that you are considering it and asking total strangers about it is enough to say your marriage is in trouble and you should either get some counseling FAST, or do your husband a favor and get out now!

Answer 5

Deep down you already know the answer to that question. No it's never ok to cheat on your spouse. Look through the course of history and see how having an affair has ruined lives. you know it's not ok. You took a vow to be faithful and stay in through the tough times. Even if Your wife didn't hold up her end of the bargain doesn't mean your "free to run Rome". If you are not happy there is a reason and both of you need to work on it together, because obviously she isn't happy either. It takes two to make a marriage work, so why did y'all get married in the first place? If love was not between the both of you?

Answer 6

Why dont you and your husband join the swingers club, that way you and your husband can share the pleasure of an extra marital affair. The swapping of spouses with other married couples has become quite common because of the desire expressed by people like yourself.

Answer 7

There is no harm in having an extra marital life as long as you dont feel offended if your partner does it too. And the same is repeated when your kids grows up.

Answer 8

No way.I mean its not ok.If your marriage is in trouble,I would suggest you go for counselling i mean you both.Try saving your marriage atleast once for your childs sake.If problem persist then take a divorce but dont go for extra marital affair.Before going for extra marital relationship you first think about the consequences of it.

Answer 9

It is unlikely to answer directly to your question. It's the best to the spouses to talk to discuss the idea to your husband how to improve both your sexual activities through opening up the idea of todays' lifestyle. Many spouses today, husbands and wives, instead of cheatings each other, they had considered the idea to discuss both themselves the idea of experiment something that enhances their sexual activites through opening the idea of swinging, wife swapping or threesomes. They had discussed and checked about the groups of spouses who engaged themselves of swinging, before they committed themselves to join to the groups. One thing to spice up or add spice into bedroom due to longer maried wherein sex had been used and tirely, swinging of spouses today are more increasing in numbers specially in more social lifes are matters. This is the reason why some cities in developed nations had already established clubs for thewmselves. Social lifestyles, is more acceptable as swinging, swapping or threesomes due to the losts and boredome in bedroom the spouses have been longing due to their longer married life are tiring to avoid the cheatings. Cheatings may cause ruins family realationships due to lack of respect to either of the spouses, (husband or wife) due to keeping it secretely but when swinging, swapping and or threesome are done with due respect and careful considerations by either or both spouses are envolved with each oach other's consent, this idea is more advantageous over cheating or having extra marital-affairs without the knowledge of the other spouse that only a selfish tempataions was solved.

I can say only that an affair is enivatable when either of the spouses are selfish not to consider their partner's needs of sexual appetites. What is important, here is, you lived a happy life and still keep your married more longer with each other to continue the respect to one another.

Answer 10

You most certainly can have an extra marital life.
It could include things like art clubs, textile guilds,theatre groups, a social sorority or any one of a number of hobby oriented groups.
In fact that kind of thing is to be encouraged.

If you want to go bang other guys, now, that is quite a different matter.

Answer 11

Yes this will be OK .You can very well have an extra marital life.You will be able to enjoy both.