we had some problems. i did someting wrong. i didnt cheat. he wont forgive me. he lives at his moms. he sees me only when i call him. he still has sex with me. i told him i love him, im sorry, i changed, which i did. i want to work things out w/him. he never gives me a straight answer. im supposed to guess. he doent call me ever or ask me to dinner. i wanted to try and work th ings out with him. now he is staying out over night. 2 times he did this. the 1st time was a sat night and i tried to call him sun from 9am-5pm. he claimed he got to drunk sat nite to go home so he slept at his guy friends house,whom i never met.when he woke up he went straight to his friends shop and left his cell phone at the house where he slept. then again last sat nite he did the same thing, i couldnt reach him all day sun and he says the same story as last time but this time his battery died. i dont believe him.i think he is with someone else. what do you think?
2007-09-20 23:26:23 · 13 answers · asked by ax11779 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well, you should ask him. It sounds like he is. Man, I need to marry a woman I can wlak out on, come back and get laid and then still keep time with my other woman.
2007-09-20 23:35:19 · answer #1 · answered by Blade_III 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you could pretty much answer this question yourself. It pretty much sounds like the relationship is over with. Time to move on and as hard as it is get past this. Obviously he's not the forgiving kind and not knowing what was done I can't say I blame him or not. If you violated the trust of your relationship then it would be hard for me to say that he is in the wrong. So it's time to move forward and get on with you life. Hopefully you have learned a valuable lesson and won't do the same things to jeopardize your next relationship.
2007-09-20 23:49:06 · answer #2 · answered by dsrtrat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are a convenience for this guy. You are being used.
Sorry to be so blunt, but look at the situation ~ Whatever you did, he can't get over and now he has his cake and eat it too ~ he lives at his mum's but you are available when he feels like sex; he doesn't contact you, he doesn't live with you, he doesn't talk with you ... Fortunately it does not sound like you have kids, or they would be suffering right along with you.
Seriously, read your question and pretend someone else wrote it ... and then ask yourself, how are you two even married except by a piece of paper?
Let's face it, being alone would be better than the life you have now ~ you are alone, but still tied to a man who obviously has little feeling for you.
Don't you feel you deserve better?
Time to move on and find someone to SHARE your life with!
Good luck and best wishes :-)
2007-09-21 20:40:26 · answer #3 · answered by thing55000 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You said you did something wrong.Whatever that wrong thing was.Could you forgive him if it was the other way around?Did you think having sex with him would help this situation.Sex never resolves a marriage problem.Maybe he does need time to sort things out.He didn't do anything wrong you did.How is it his fault .Maybe you have changed,but that doesn't mean he's not afraid of you going back to the same as you were.
2007-09-21 00:14:10 · answer #4 · answered by lollypop 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, I hate to say it but some of the others are right babe. Don't call, write, or even say his name. Try to stay occupied for a couple of weeks. If he does not show any response, then the feelings you once shared have changed, if he does then maybe they haven't he just thinks they have. Hopefully he just needs a wake up call, and he isn't with someone else. Write me later girl. I am so sorry.
2007-09-22 14:34:59 · answer #5 · answered by Ethan's Momma 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think its time to move on. He is not interested in you at this time. If you stop showing him interest, and I mean really just cut it off with him right now, that will be the only way to find out for sure if he has any interest in you left. I say this because once you stop calling him, and showing him any sign of interest, he will think he has lost you or is about to lose you, so if he really wants to be with you, he will come after you and let you know.
2007-09-20 23:34:38 · answer #6 · answered by zaytox0724 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what did you do wrong that would prompt him to do this? don't blame yourself. He is definitely cheating if he is saying all those excuses. Sounds like he is a spoiled brat and just wants the fun less the responsibilities of being married. It really depends on you if you still want to be with him. If you want him back then you need to stop calling him. Pretend that you are busy and when he calls don't answer his call. This is supposed to drive husbands suspicious and crazy. Go out with friends and have fun! Go to the gym. just go out! email me how it turns out.
2007-09-21 00:05:13 · answer #7 · answered by henessy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, you said you messed up first, so its too late to worry if he is with someone else. If you keep having sex with him of coarse he is going to. And why should he have to make a decision, you're still giving it yo him. Stop having sex with him, ask him to make a choice. If he can't choose or doesn't want to, you have to move on. If you stop sleeping with him, calling him and worrying about what he is doing, he may come around eventually. Give him some space.
2007-09-21 02:53:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think, "working things out" takes two and he isn't participating. I always give in, if someone doesn't want me then I don't want them. Try giving some space, don't call or anything for a while. Give him some time to "miss" you. If he doesn't start calling then its time to move on.
2007-09-20 23:37:56 · answer #9 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should have solved this in the beginning! Try to talk straight to him! Go right to the point.
2007-09-21 00:27:40 · answer #10 · answered by Ricardo W. 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋