I had a row with my boyfriend last night because he hasn't made love to me in over a week. He went away for a few days and when he came back I "satisified" him twice but he said he was tired after that but would make it up to me. Yet last night "he wasn't feeling well"
He says it's "worrying" that I count how long it has been but I think his behaviour of late has been selfish.
He also doesn't perform oral sex on me because he says " he doesn't like it" yet he expects me to do it to him?!!
I lost my temper last night because apart from anything else the lack of intimacy doesn't make me feel very desirable and he says it's wrong I take it as a personal slight when he doesn't want to make love. There may be an element of truth in this but my problem is that he DICTATES our sex life and as soon as I air my concern or criticize in the slightest - I am the one with problem, causing tension etc.
Am I right to be annoyed with this be
2007-09-20 23:01:54 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
After answering your "anal" question this question is a little disturbing. Your man is selfish and basically an asshole. He has some control issues and that's why anal is so important to him. He likes to control you, plain and simple. If you don't mind it, then great. Just remember that unless you take back some control now he will get worse.
2007-09-21 00:19:49 · answer #1 · answered by sig 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Slowly stop giving oral. An when he brings up sex make sure to give him the most annoyed look. If you don't stand up and tell him that he's being selfish you will never fix this problem. Men will get away with whatever they can when the woman never speaks up. Also you need to look on the internet and find different sexual positions that you would like to do. Also lay down some rules before you get to the bedroom. Also when you notice he's about to have an organism get up right away and interrupt his feelings good moment. If he's only giving you 3 minutes than he feels like your not as needing as him. Hope everything works out for you.
2016-05-19 23:24:25 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a really hard one. We don't actually know if he's telling the truth, or being selfish. I mean, I remember asking my girl to get me in the mood and she said she didn't know how, and it made me feel kind of bad and undesirable, too. Even though sex isn't important really, it is really fun, and a way to get close to the person you love...
As far as the oral goes...if he honestly doesn't like it, that sucks, but shouldn't be a big deal. If you "like" giving him head, then keep doing it, but if you only do it to make him happy then stop unless he wants to return the favor. You could explain to him that you only pleasure him orally because he likes it, not because you do (if that's the case), and that if he wants to continue to get it, he'll have to return the favor with just as big of an effort.
Depending on whether you truely think he's being selfish, or telling the truth, you could return the politeness if he's being selfish by just pulling the "i'm tired" or "don't feel like it tonight" whenever he's horny. If he flips out at you or anything, just do the same thing he did to you and act like he's overreacting.
All in all, good luck with everything and hope you guys get past this and work things out!
2007-09-20 23:11:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a scarily similar situation for 9 months! I eventually realised that he wasn't just selfish in bed, but he was selfish with other things too. I had the same problem with intimacy with him, I even had to ask for kisses and cuddles. My advice? He's not worth it, you can do so much better. I'm now in a wonderful relationship with a man who worships me and always makes sure I get my "turn" before he does. The grass IS greener on the other side!
2007-09-20 23:09:56 · answer #4 · answered by Jill the Pastry 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think you are, i would be if my girl was acting like that. Personally I think its so much better when you are both satisfied.
How can you not like doing oral? I mean yeah if she smell bad or somthin but besides that its great, and the reaction i get from the girl is the most important thing.
2007-09-20 23:10:15 · answer #5 · answered by Flying Spagetti Monster 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes he is!!! But like all things it is give and take!!!! He may have a low sex drive and just not be into sex as much although i think a rational discussion should solve all concerns!!! If not get a boyfriend that isn't as selfish!!!!
2007-09-20 23:10:37 · answer #6 · answered by jonnyneedshelp 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well he is most likely sick of sex and just wants a break my boyfriend is the exact same always wants oral from me but won't give it to me i hate that to. In the end you just have to suck it up and eventually he will give in just when he wants sex don't you give it to him make him wait for a few days.If nothing changes email me and i will help you out.
2007-09-20 23:15:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to stop being confrontative and try to wean him unto you with sensuality.
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2007-09-20 23:12:33 · answer #8 · answered by AYOOZe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All i can say is that every guy who answers this question is going to want you to be his girl friend. I would suggest you need to end this relationship and find a partner who has a sex drive compatible with your own. I don't suppose you live in Queensland Australia do you. LOL
2007-09-20 23:08:52 · answer #9 · answered by arkie182 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
It sounds like he is sexualy no very attractet to you!? Was that earlyer times different? But sounds a bit selfish anyway.
2007-09-20 23:13:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋