I always beleive a person should not do what they do not want to do .
However i have seen post where a girlfirend wanted @nal sex and the boyfriend refused and vice versa . I have seen post on other sexual interest not being mutual such as oral sex , foot fetish , rough sex .Again both genders being at different ends of the polar spectrum . Interestingly i see some men refusing things like having @nal sex with a women , or refusing a woman oral sex or a guy not wanting to be bitten during sex .
It will vary of course but do you think men and women will compromises on issues of sexual interest and compatabilty .
If so how much compromise is reasonable ?
Is one gender more prone to compromise on issues of sexual interest than the other ?
2007-09-20 22:38:19 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
As long as they are married and then adjust its fine..... not force and then end up divorcing each other..... both have to agree or both have to respect each others ideals and say ok not this but something else whatever to make their marriage life happier and their physical life satisfied....
2007-09-20 22:45:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you only do what you want to do, you're going to be alone alot. Unless you want to be a slave master ( and good luck at finding a slave!), you are going to have to do a lot of compromising in your life.
As far as compromizing about sexual practices, there are a few things I'm not willing to do, but don't you want to be open to try new things? What if you get to like them once you get used to them?
To me, oral sex is something that is almost mandatory now. When I began doing oral sex with women, it was just something I did because I knew it gave them pleasure. I would not do it if she had a bad smell. Now, it also gives me a lot of pleasure to do that for a woman.
Isn't 1/2 of sex to give pleasure to the other person? I think a sexologist might tell you that the general rule is not to do something the other person wants you to do if it is significantly painful or if it is very repulsive to you.
2007-09-21 05:56:45 · answer #2 · answered by Smartassawhip 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think sexual compromises are a reflection of the willingness to compromise in other areas of the relationship as well. I also think that this is something you should find out about a prospective partner BEFORE you take your clothes off, because it is not something you are likely to change in another person. To your last point, I think men and women can be equally adventurous, or not, sexually.
2007-09-21 05:46:58 · answer #3 · answered by Phartzalot 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
if a person is disgusted by the idea then the partner should accept that its never going to happen and get over it. if the person just doesn't like the idea then i think they should compromise and at least try it, if they still dont like it then just say no but Ive tried it and its not for me. we all like different things and should at least try to compromise to keep each other happy.
2007-09-21 05:45:37 · answer #4 · answered by mudfish 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Here's the compromise I've had for the last 5 years...
She acts like she doesn't want sex.,....so I don't get it. Period.
Some compromise eh?
And when we do she yawns.....like she's bored....so tell me what is the fun in that!!
2007-09-21 11:15:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋