I am the mother of seven kids, with a husband who just left us. I know this woman and I found an email address. I was just wanting to know if it was hers because I found it in my husbands possesion. So I want to prepare myself for the worst.So how can you jugde my morals? My concern is for my kids.
2007-09-20 22:31:36 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You're not even making sense. How is the email going to help your children?
The only thing I'm judging you on is your apparent ignorance about birth control! Seven children? Really? What's wrong with you!
2007-09-20 22:40:16 · answer #1 · answered by skunk pie 5 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Is this woman a friend of yours and you are afraid she has been cheating with your husband?
If that is the case, and he has now left you, you won't need an email addresse to find out ~ you will find out soon enough!
As far as your morals go, I have no idea! Curiosity is not illegal as far as I know, but you might want to concentrate on organising some financial support for your family and some emotional support for you before you go charging off accusing someone of something.
Time to concentrate on your kids and your own needs, whatever your husband is doing.
And I'm sorry, I have to say if he's just up and left you with seven kids, he is NOT a good husband and does not deserve you to 'fight' for him or whatever romantic nonsense you've got going.
Put yourself and THE KIDS first in this!
Best wishes and good luck :-)
2007-09-22 03:49:38 · answer #2 · answered by thing55000 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Forget about the e-mail address and think first of your children. How would that e-mail address help them? Think about protecting your children legally. Is your husband paying child support? If you get a legal separation, you can get the judge to order temporary support, which would help your current situation. The best thing to do is talk to a good lawyer. If you know your husband's financial information, that's good. Be sure to check with the lawyer about support, because that might be different where you live.
I don't think morals have anything to do with it. There's always someone ready to judge and tell you what to do, even though they've never been through it (and I have). Doesn't matter what the subject is, there's always somebody who thinks they deserve to tell you what to do. Try to rise above the situation and make your decisions based on what's good for your kids. Can't go wrong that way.
You might benefit from a support group for women in the same situation. Sometimes you can find these through churches. Good luck and try to keep it together.
2007-09-21 05:46:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
This is a message board what do you expect...
The same thing happened to me earlier this year when I fell in love with a 17 yr old boy and I'm 19 y/o and came on here looking for solace and was called a pedophile, whore, cradle robber, etc.
People will judge you no matter what especially on here. Take their advice lightly. Most don't even read the question thoroughly!
Do what you have to do to get through this situation with your head on the right way. Don't throw accusations around yet because sooner or later the truth will come to light.
Take care of your children by filing for child support ASAP.
2007-09-21 06:06:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Jody, if you really want to prepare yourself for your kids sake, I strongly suggest you get to a lawyer and get legal separation papers, AND legal description of child support. Make sure he pays on time every month. IF he does not, then haul him into court immediately. It doesn't matter what email address, what phone number, etc. you find. This guy is gone, and you better get your butt to moving to get the child support you are going to need....That is how you show concern for your kids, not by playing detective or anything else. Your curiostiy is for yourself, not your kids...admit it, and move on with life! You have been hurt, but it will be your children you feel the pain if they have no support. Get moving now! Good luck and peace, Goldwing
2007-09-21 06:28:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
i no how u feel... i found a num in my partners fone i didnt no so copied it then rang it.. it did turn out he was cheating but the chix didnt no he had a partner or kids... it was an interesting chat though.... if you think he is cheatin then find out who it is with that address... if he left u for her then u no an you an the kids can move on... and atlest the kids hav there mum.. who is happy not som1 always woundering what if...
2007-09-21 07:01:00 · answer #6 · answered by angelz@princess265 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you judge a tree by it's fruit not by what it looks like.
Seven children? Your husband ought to be ashamed of himself... One person has hurt 8 people for selfish gain I suspect. But, there is always hope.......step one "pray"
step two " plan " to face tomorrow with or without him. Either way you will survive and see happiness again
2007-09-21 06:15:40 · answer #7 · answered by idiotzaint 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hey jody It really doesnt matter if there was something going on or not now cos he has gone and finding out will justs make the hurt even worse.Im a sole parent father with 3 and went though something the same and yeah you right its all about the kids now.If you want to chat just give me a email k
2007-09-21 05:40:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
huh? You're question doesn't make sense.
Who's judging your morals?
Prepare yourself for the worst? Hasn't that already happened? He's already left you and your seven kids, unless he's abusive, I'd say that is the worst that could happen. There being another woman is irrelevant at this point, cause he walked out on you and yours.
2007-09-21 06:48:44 · answer #9 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
What does this woman's email have to do with your kids?
And if you don't want people to judge you then don't post your business on yahoo.
2007-09-21 09:36:49 · answer #10 · answered by Spring 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋