i've had a lot of friends over the year, at the start i was with the cool kids then they just ditched me one day so i went into another group, it was all good until one day they told me they didn't like me. i have now got a great group of friends but i feel so insecure and cant trust many people.
how can i get their trust back and how can i become better so people accept me more?
2007-09-20 22:30:36 · 11 answers · asked by angelinad1993 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Forget them who ditched u...they r not trustworthy. Have they got any reason to break ur friendship? Its sooo....i don't know what to say. But they r at loss for not accepting u again. Luck r ur friends to have u.
Just don't dwell what happened to u ... now have some fun with ur new friends and make them believe in u. Live the present moment. 'let bygones be bygones' (i know its difficult to forget but atleast TRY)
IT'S BETTER TO HAVE GOOD AND TRUSTWORTHY FRIENDS THAN TO HAVE COOL FRIENDS
2007-09-20 22:38:11 · answer #1 · answered by keep smiling 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah i know what u mean.. i also used to have the same problem in high school now im in university and its great
the thing about confidence is that it comes from inside.. u have to be willing to take a chance and make a change in ur life.. confidence u should have even thouh people say something..
u should also be happy with the way u are..:)
like what u are wearing.. it can be anything but as long as u carry it well and do not think about what others are saying then i am sure that u are going to b great and happy
always smile no matter what because lifehas its ups and downs right?
also lastly.. with ur friends.., be friends with them just dunt get too close and expect anything because then when something bad happens then u end up getting hurt.. so dunt trust anyone beause it is a dog eat dog world out there... and just be cool.. everything will be great! C.
2007-09-21 05:37:22 · answer #2 · answered by Chiv D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't put yourself under the influence of your pals. Just be yourself. Sometimes, if you can't find good friends, it is better to be a loner. Don't rush to find friends. Under normal circumstances, they are not the most important things in your life. Develop your goals are more important to you now.
When you reach the stage I am in, you will realise how unimportant it is to have friends. You will have so many friends you do not know who to trust.
Let this incident be a baptism of fire. Good luck and do not worry.
2007-09-21 05:38:53 · answer #3 · answered by Man_Hat_Tan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to read some books on self esteem and how to make friends. I read one years ago. I think it was entitled "How to Make Friends and Influence People". Check the library and book stores. I am sure that there are plenty others available. Good Luck!!!
2007-09-21 05:35:23 · answer #4 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be yourself, you dont need to proof yourself, either they take you as you are or they should go their way. Be more self-confident and know that such people who does not accept you can never be friends, only some small bird brains.
2007-09-21 05:36:20 · answer #5 · answered by Rain 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to trust people first. Do not doubt people and do not suspect people. Just ask yourself "If your friend cheat you, what benefit do they get?". Then you will know that they get nothing. So join in all your friend and trust them 100%. Then your friends will welcome you and you will be more happy than ever.
2007-09-21 05:36:22 · answer #6 · answered by bobbytanbt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For professional advice, check out the link I have given below. The guy (Relationship Doctor) gives sincere advice. He also replies through e-mail I guess. Try it. It is genuine.
http://relationship-doctor.blogspot.com
2007-09-21 05:38:38 · answer #7 · answered by AYOOZe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why did they leave you in the first place? Something might be wrong with you. Have a little soul-searching or reflection time.
2007-09-21 05:35:20 · answer #8 · answered by Fred A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be frank and open to them
2007-09-21 05:41:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop trying to pretend
2007-09-21 05:33:08 · answer #10 · answered by Shbien 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋