2007-09-20 21:41:20 · 13 answers · asked by Dpunk 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Hi friend,
Controlling husbands aren't necesssarily sick. Insecured is more like it. I've met many controlling persons and the one common denominator I see in them is "insecurity". Insecured people wants people who they can control to be around them all the time so that they can feel "powerful" and "competent". Honestly they are really pitiful people if I'm a guy from outside looking in..But you're situation is different since you're the one she's trying to control. Hey, the ball is in your hands. If you show him that you won't be putting up with all this, he'll back off slowly. Of course I didn't mean that you quarrel with him. Just be firm & say what you want straight. No going around the bushes. It will take time, but when you're firm, while remaining loving & supportive, you can help him heal his insecurity as well.
2007-09-20 22:02:58 · answer #1 · answered by BERNARD C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends to what degree. Most of us are controlling to some extent. But personally I think it's easier to change ourselves and thus our relationship than change another person.
I know a woman who has a very controlling husband - he checks the mileage on her car, doesn't let her go out with friends, doesn't let her wear makeup, etc. Mental illness? I don't know. But my question has always been, why do you comply?
A person can't control us without our consent.
2007-09-20 21:57:30 · answer #2 · answered by Mystic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, first of all! it is insane! Take your toddlers and all your stuff and pass some distance faraway from this guy. Dont depart a foward handle or something merely be long gone in the nighttime like the wind. If he keeps to offer you undertaking after by some skill looking you, get a restraining order on him. there is not something you're able to do to renounce rumors he spreads. if human beings ask you approximately it, supply them the certainty. different than which you're caught. yet do not postpone, visit Sam's club or Costco and get some packing packing containers and tape and start on your new existence.
2016-12-17 06:42:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every person who ever lived is mentally sick, in some way. No human is perfect.
Controlling is insecure and not restricted to men. Life is all about improving yourself as a human, if you are up to it. Maybe he'll step up, one day.
2007-09-20 21:57:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes
2007-09-20 22:57:03 · answer #5 · answered by MissE 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The are generally very insecure about themselves, so they find a woman that they can control to make them feel big. Believe it or not, rape is all about control.
Yes it is something that should be addresed, in your case, with a marriage counselor, or therapist.
2007-09-20 21:48:06 · answer #6 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes they are and they are very insecure and have a low selfesteem.
But why do you ask about "husbands" only? I know some wives who are even worse, than any guy I've ever met.
2007-09-20 21:49:50 · answer #7 · answered by Carpe Diem 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes and if you knew what my ex use to get up to in the middle of the night, it would make you vomit. He was that twisted and sick and I feel sorry for his new Singapore wife.
2007-09-20 21:58:15 · answer #8 · answered by Live_For_Today 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes there's a problem, I had this happen to me, put up with it for 30 years, getting a divorce now.
2007-09-21 03:30:48 · answer #9 · answered by kim t 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, anyone whose overly controlling has some sort of issues they should work on.
2007-09-20 21:46:17 · answer #10 · answered by marie s 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋