im at a loss i dont know how to respond to someone who is so insecure about everything himself me our life the fact that i lve him our lfe together help what do i do
2007-09-20 20:01:44 · 14 answers · asked by betty s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
split... not divorce... just take some time out... and let him decide what is important... then make a decision accordingly...
2007-09-20 20:11:13 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A woman is not a possetion. Insecurity means no trust. If there is no trust you are not in a healthy relationship. Insecure men usually are angry and agressive when they feel this way. It is a sighn of abuse to come. Either verbal or physical. Either way go get into a real relationship.
2007-09-20 20:19:45 · answer #2 · answered by Kevin D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In less this person is willing to go to counseling and sees this in his own self and really wants to make mends with his insecurity. Going to counseling by your self isn't going to work because then with all the information from the counselor will only make you anger in the long run and frastrated. You will never change this person if he isn't willing to change for his self. With every year you two are together it only gets worse. And I mean worse, he'll tear you down and after a while you will loose the battles with him and either you walk away or you keep staying only to find out one day that you've had enough. You won't even feel as if your alive any more.
I've know many people with relationships like yours and out of the tons of them that I knew they all have gone their sperate ways except one. She now stays at home never goes out of the house inless he drags her out. She looks so old from the stress of it all that she doesn't even care what she looks like anymore. She cries every night hoping and praying that he will change one day. And she knows in her heart that he has even gotten worse with his demands. It's as if she walks and talks like a zoombie.
I my self got out of one and let me tell you they don't change. I am sorry but, if you want to get out before he takes your mind then do so soon. They after a while control your mind. I would sit down with him and explain your concerns and what you expect out of this relationship and she if he's willing to comply. And then go from there. I wish you all the best.
2007-09-20 20:35:00 · answer #3 · answered by Sly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're rather in a stressful subject. you're in a position the place you could no longer have faith your mate via his paintings ecosystem. did you realize that's what he did in the past you married him? it is confusing to be in a relationship the place you could no longer have faith the different person. because of the fact you already voiced your concerns approximately him eating and coming abode inebriated, the terrific ingredient to do is to undercover agent on him your self or employ a private investigator to verify or deny your suspicions. you will desire to locate out one way or yet another. Asking him won't help because of the fact if he has some thing to conceal, he's clearly no longer likely to inform you the fact. yet to your own peace of concepts, you will desire to comprehend, as quickly as and for all, if there's a foundation to your suspicions. you do no longer decide to stay your existence continuously questioning if he's or isn't cheating.
2016-10-09 14:10:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him. Get on with your life. Once a looser always a looser and remember he will never get better only worse. So before it gets too bad, say bye bye. Dont waste your time and life. Time flys and your life will be over and you will regret it. Do something now. Hone in on your hobbies and your skills and get a job and get a life and be independent.
2007-09-20 20:05:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he has to be willing to let that kind of stuff go.. its hard for some to do that but it can be done and very rewarding to not be so consumed with things that dont really matter.. he has to try to except the things he can not change and change the things he can... counsling would help too. good luck
2007-09-20 20:06:55 · answer #6 · answered by Kat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try and make him understand.
This is only MY view. If you want a professional view, check out the link I have given below.
The guy (relationship doctor) gives good sincere answers. He even replies through email I guess. Try it. I think its genuine.
http://relationship-doctor.blogspot.com
2007-09-20 20:04:45 · answer #7 · answered by AYOOZe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You too start acting suspicious and keep questioning him daily about who he meets and why he meets them specially pick on him abt his female collegeues etc...
Then u will come to a show down and sort it out.
2007-09-20 20:43:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chances are youve cheated on him or an x did or he's cheated so he doesnt trust ppl. If youve cheated on him you shouldnt be asking this question.
2007-09-20 20:05:45 · answer #9 · answered by Deno S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs therapy, and so do you for marrying an insecure person like that.
2007-09-20 20:04:34 · answer #10 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋