One of my friends is friends with my ex girlfriend and her friends and he always goes out with them and it really bugs me. I told him on several occasions that I dont like it and he said stuff like "I didnt know" or other excuses. I told him that if he wants to go out with them, thats fine, but I would like to be there. In the past we all went out together a lot, but now he just goes out with them alone.
I have had major problems with my ex in the past and he knows about all of it and he knows how sensitive I am about her. We both goto the same personal trainer and my personal trainer even told him what he does is not right , but he still does it. He was just telling me how they went out the other day and he tried to make it seem like an accident and he said my ex just showed up. I'm not jealous and I know they arent hooking up with each other, but it really bothers me and I dont know what to do about it. I do want to stop being friends with him, but he will still go out with them.
2007-09-20 19:53:20 · 8 answers · asked by Dr D 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Just to add some info and to reply to some of the comments already posted:
I try to stay away from her, I would love to never see her again in my life. I avoid her as much as I can. I never call her, she calls every once in a while when she has a question or needs something.
As a friend, I try to take my other friends into consideration. I dont do stuff that only benefits me if it hurts someone else, especially a friend. This guy doesnt care, he does it anyways. He didnt know her before I went out with her. I would understand if they were friends before I went out with this girl, but they were not.
I dont feel as if I am being selfish, and everyone I talked to except some people online agree with me. This guy and I were very close before all this happend. I think you guys that say he can do whatever he wants are the same type of selfish self centered people as he is.
2007-09-20 20:11:31 · update #1
clearly you aren't over her and you need to stop obsessing what they are doing and start doing your own thing. if this is one of your good friends he should not be hanging out with them if it hurts you. but at the same time are you being ridiculous asking him to not be friends with her and her friends? think if you are being a little selfish.
2007-09-20 19:59:57 · answer #1 · answered by Roxanne G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hay evrythin has advantage & disadvantage associated with it, +ve side bein that ur current love come to know more abt u from ur ex & if he/she still with u than u know ur bond has become stronger. if it was not ur fault, than there is nothin to worry abt & its not proven that if u didnt make with somebdy u wont b able to work a relationship work with anybody.
U r afraid that u mite lose him/her but than if she leaves u judgin on just ur past actions alone n not ur present than it actually better he/she left u.
Dont push him/her to b away from ur ex coz this will make her suspicious towards u & compell him/her to b with ur ex may b just know more abt u & the more he/she stays with ur ex the more she will come to know abt u & ur ex as well. wich mite bring them close to u.
as u have already let ur current love know abt ur discomfort with he/she bein in friend with ur ex, there is nothin else u can do abt it.
Just relax & let the things take its own turn dont force, forcing will make matter worse. Hope for the Best!!
Best of Luck Mate. Bye.
2007-09-20 20:10:39 · answer #2 · answered by vikramvikram2005 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you're jealous. What if they were hooking up? What if he's banging her brains out? Still not jealous?
If she's your ex, she's your ex and you got no control or influence about what or who she does. If this dude is your friend, then he's your friend and you shouldn't try to forbid him from doing anything that might make him happy.
If you still have issue then see a shrink and take your trainer with you.
2007-09-20 20:03:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is none of your business who your ex hangs out with now. You can't expect your friend to give up your ex's friendship just because you and your ex could not make their relationship work. You are being childish and immature. Grow up. Just accept that they are going to continue to be friends. Tell your personal trainer to grow up too!!
2007-09-20 20:03:33 · answer #4 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you know they aren't hooking up and you have problems with your ex then why do you want to be there? Have you ever thought maybe he likes being her friend but he likes being your friend too and he doesnt want to make either of you uncomfortable. does he invite her when you two hang out together? i dont know what else to say. it sounds like your making him choose between you and her and if you were his friend you wouldnt do that.
2007-09-20 20:07:21 · answer #5 · answered by Vicky Lovers 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To my journey is a undesirable theory to be chum with your ex. i think of is better to decrease touch together with her via fact it will be extra good so which you will forget approximately approximately her and in case you notice her going with yet another guy you would be jealous and torture your self no count in case you wanted or not. yet another component on account which you nevertheless in love together with her it will be concern to locate somebody else, however if she exchange her suggestions she would be an identical lady who dumped you. My superb propose is to launch her, i comprehend isn't common in spite of the undeniable fact that it fairly is finished. You deserve better than that. She in all probability will do it back repeatedly. bear in suggestions that she will take earnings of you on account that she is accustomed to you're there waiting for her. you should coach her which you deserve extra admire. If she broke up with you it particularly is needless to say that she isn't into you. Love is something that can not beg for it. it particularly is better to forget approximately approximately her. in case you reside as chum you're putting to get injury and prolongs the suffering. you will locate yet another lady who love as you deserve it. God bless sweaty and that i desire God help you forget approximately approximately her. it particularly is my journey, I have been with this guy back and forth and each time i try to be chum issues worsen. It in no way artwork.
2016-10-19 07:05:38 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is your EX. if she wer ur current girl then you could've stopped him. Y do u want him to be away from your ex??
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2007-09-20 19:59:17 · answer #7 · answered by AYOOZe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take her out discreetly and ALWAYS have plans for the two of you made so that ur friend can't go out with ur ex.
2007-09-20 20:00:30 · answer #8 · answered by degraydog104 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋